Is being sexual with strippers considered cheating?

[Anonymous]

if the girlfriend already knows you're going to the strip club? my girlfriend does, and she never asks what happened, she doesn't like to talk about it. that's fine. I've never gone out and found a girl and cheated with her, but I have touched strippers a lot and I got a bj in VIP once (recently). the touching is allowed in private shows and VIP at the places I go to and obviously when she's giving me a lapdance, I'm gonna touch her. I've spanked stripper while she wiggled her ass, legs spread wide open, face down on my lap. good times, harmless touching. little things like that, squeezing boobs and what not but I have also licked and sucked on a strippers nipples. I've also had strippers let me touch their p******, rub them, and slide my fingers in there. one let me eat her out. theres one girl I really love, she's hot and nasty, she knows how to grind on me, she works the pole well, and she lets me touch her p**** and rub it, do anything I want basically as long as I tip her very well. bachelor parties with strippers can be crazy too. i don't see it as cheating because my girlfriend lets me to go the strip club and I think she knows what happens with your bring money like I do. i love my girlfriend, but I'm just looking opinions on this.

[Anonymous]

She probably doesn't like talking about it because she does know what's going on and hates it. Yes it's cheating, period. There's no question about that, it's cheating and it's horrible. If you love her so much why would you want to touch and pleasure other women? If you really care about her so much you wouldn't want to be with other girls, you wouldn't want to go out there and do sexual things with them. That's what a grown up, responsible and mature relationship is. If you're still in the state of mind that you want to do those things with women not your significant other you're not ready for a serious relationship.

She doesn't like you doing it and she doesn't talk about it because it really hurts her but she knows you really want to so she doesn't say anything. She wants to please you and she wants you to be happy so she puts her wants and needs on a back burner so that you won't get angry and leave. She loves you so much she'll let you cheat on her, even though it hurts her so much, because she'd rather you do that and still have you than not have you at all. The fact that you don't notice that and don't ask her about it and don't talk to her about this kind of stuff proves what an immature, insensitive boy you are. I say boy not to insult men but to state the fact that you are not a man, you're not grown up enough.

It doesn't matter who you're doing it with or why if you're touching another girl sexually or talking to her in a way that suggests you want to be touching her like that then you're cheating. I know the one thing that I could never take in a relationship is knowing that my boyfriend thought about or wanted to be with other girls. That I wasn't enough, I couldn't fully satisfy him and my body wasn't perfect to him. And I bet she's the same way.

Cut the sh*t- go talk to her and care about her for a change.

[Asker]

just because you love someone doesn't mean you aren't sexually attracted to other people. that's basic biology. so by your logic, all men who go strip clubs and get lap dances at least are cheaters? the point of stripping is to arouse the guys watching and the strippers know how to give great lapdances and that's touching...interesting. I don't know how many people would agree with that

[Asker]

its probably true that I'm immature in some ways. I don't want to talk to her about it because I think the entire conversation would get awkward and I don't want her to cry or anything. the women I dated before would have demanded to know what I do and tell me beforehand not to do it if they were against it and I would do the same. my girlfriend isn't doing that so I wonder if, for her, this is just a "what happens in the strip club stays there" kind of thing.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. Guys who are grown up, mature and really ready to be in a steady, dedicated relationship don't care about getting dances from other girls. They don't want dances from other girls. It's basic biology to want sex. But really love and caring comes when that emotion surpasses the want or need for other women and the touch of other women. The touch of your girlfriend and the dances she can give you are good enough. Also not all girls are the same. She might not want to bring it up, like I sa

[selfishstars]

I've been to a number of strip clubs. I'm not sure if they have different rules where you live, but here, all of the clubs have a no-touching policy (meaning the dances can rub up against you while doing a lapdance, but you're not allowed to touch the dancers).

I wouldn't assume that she knows that you're doing these kinds of things with the dancers or that she's okay with it. Some girls are okay with their partners going to strip clubs to watch or get a lapdance, but the majority would consider the things you've done with dancers to be cheating.

This is definitely something you should have talked to your girlfriend about and asked her if she'd be okay with it before doing it.

Just curious, would you be okay with her going to a male strip club and giving a dancer a blowjob or letting him eat her out?

[Asker]

when you pay extra in the vip section, its basically whatever you're willing to pay for at some places. I'm sure some places are stricter though. I've been to several clubs though and its usually that way wherever you go. on the main floor you can't touch them, no. that's pretty much every where.

[Asker]

i would speak up if she wanted to go to the strip club and explain that I don't like it but she can go, and tell her what she's not supposed to do, unless she wants to lose me. if I didn't have a serious problem, even if I didn't like it much, I would act the way she does and just not saying anything about it. I guess I try to put myself in her shoes and she isn't reacting the way I think I would if I was against it all totally. she has even heard my friends make comments about the strip club before.

[selfishstars]

I don't know your girlfriend to say this for sure, but in my opinion, it sounds like she doesn't like you going to strip clubs, but doesn't want to fight about it, so if you're going to go, she prefers not to hear about it. However, there's a good chance she doesn't realize the extent of what you do with strippers (i.e. she might think that it's just watching and getting lapdances, but doesn't know that you touch and have oral sex with dancers). If she did know, there's a good chance that she

[selfishstars]

would not be okay with it, consider it cheating, and possibly break up with you.

[genevieve]

going to a strip club is not cheating, getting a blow job, or eating her out definitely is and I would think licking her nipples too.

How can you even think it's not?

[jacquesvol]

FIFY!

What would you say if your girl :

"touched male strippers a lot and I got oral in VIP once (recently).

If the touching is allowed in private shows and VIP at the places she goes to and obviously when he's giving her a lapdance, he's gonna touch her.

she has spanked the male stripper while he wiggled his d***, legs spread wide open, face down on her lap.

Good times, harmless touching. little things like that, squeezing balls and what not but she have also licked and sucked on a male stripper's nipples. She also had strippers let her touch their p*****s, rub them, and slide her fingers there. one let her suck him out.

theres one girl she really loves, he's hot and nasty, he knows how to grind on her, he works the hole well, and she lets her touch his p**** and rub it, do anything she wants basically as long as she tips him very well."

bachelor parties with male strippers can be crazy too.

shedoesn't see it as cheating because her boyfriend lets her to go the strip club and she thinks he knows what happens with your money like you do.

She loves you, but Is just looking opinions on this.

[cun7n1nja]

Lol THIS. [phone]. =P

[Asker]

i would lay down the law when she asked me to go to the strip club the first time. I did ask her if I could go the first time I went while we have been together. after that I just went. if she asked me I would have told her, you had better not do this or its over if I find out. she didn't say anything about the strip club. I know she isn't happy about it but she doesn't address it directly or voice any concerns. not even when my friends have made comments about their time in the strip clubs.

[jacquesvol]

@QA, "I know she isn't happy about it but" but that is not your problem as long as he shuts up?

[selfishstars]

The point is: If you aren't okay with your girlfriend doing something, you shouldn't do it yourself (unless you have an explicit conversation with her about it and she says she's okay with it). You should also never just assume that your girlfriend knows what you're doing and is okay with it.

[hvillagomez]

this is like the biggest case of the pot calling the kettle black known to mankind

[jacquesvol]

It sounds like the lamest of all lame excuses invoked: "i don't see it as cheating because my girlfriend lets me to go the strip club and I think she knows what happens with your bring money like I do. "

[cavmanier]

ROFL yes that is cheating! Reread you question but change your girlfriend for your name and switch the strippers to male strippers. If you do that I bet you would be upset and not want her to suck male strippers di ck or have male strippers grind on her or eat her out.

[kazakins]

Tell you what why don't you tell your girlfriend exactly what you posted here.

see what her opinion is?

and then watch her leave you.

[Lupianwolf]

haha, best answer

[zombiefood]

Hah, yes.

[ChooChooHaha]

Yes. It is.
Let's reverse, shall we?

Not a stripper, some man that makes your girl WET grinds on her. He's perfect to her, gets all up on her. He's wrapped around her, kisses her, he lets her touch him and they basically engage in foreplay.
And when that guy is done, she's soaked. She's so hot, she wants to him to fuck her then and there, as hard as he can. She might be with you, but you know when she comes back to you, and you get the sex, she's thinking of him, wanting it to be him, for MONTHS afterward. She wants it to be his body around her, him to make her cum.
And you wouldn't be the least bit upset? The smallest bit of sadness, insecurity?
Which is why I have my stipulation.

[kheserthorpe]

Uh ... no, 'going to the strip club' and 'paying (likely illegally) for sex acts at the strip club' are not the same.

[Lupianwolf]

I'd consider it cheating you still did sexual acts with them

the fact that you haven't told her about it shows that even you think it might be

time to come clean and tell her

[Asker]

yeah. I don't want to though. its not worth breaking up. I could just try to stop.

[Lupianwolf]

That's wrong you cheated and didn't tell her if you wanted to stay together you would have known how she felt about it

[sikoo31]

good Q, let me think for half a second...

yeah it is.

[05Jueey]

I don't remember you saying anywhere in this that your girlfriend is okay with you cheating on her.. But okay

[Sarahplus2]

Yes.

[hvillagomez]

Let me put it this way, how would you feel if she went out and gave other guys blowjobs or handjobs? Or what if she let them eat her out and touch her provocatively? And don't tell it wouldn't bug me, because that's bs, guys are territorial. It stuns me that you question this, because if you really cared for her you wouldn't being do this sort of thing. It's pretty repulsing actually.

[Senses]

Of course its cheating! :O

Maybe your girlfriend thought they would only dance for you and there wouldn't be any sexual acts.

[CuriousAZ]

Sure it is.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is tho because its involve physical contact.