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Do you think he thinks I am tight enough? He said tighten up my vagina muscles during sex :(

Today while I was having sex with my boyfriend he said to tighten up my vagina muscles. I asked him if I was not tight enough and he said I am really tight. But if I am tight then why would he ask me to tighten up my vagina muscles? Then I got all uncomfortable and self-conscious and he said I am not getting self-conscious now am I and he told me to just relax after he told me to tighten up my vagina. We have been together for almost 3 years and usually have a great sex life. I have never heard him complain about our sex life it is usually compliments. But why would a guy tell a girl while he is having sex with her to tighten up? Do you think he thinks I am loose but doesn't want to hurt my feelings? He said he just wanted it to be hard for him to put it in. To me this sounds like him trying to say I am loose but in a nice way. I don't know how I am loose I haven't been with very many people and have only been with him for almost three years. Please don't just suggest keagel exercises because I am well aware of them. I just want to know how I can know if he thinks I am loose or how I can tell if I am loose and why a guy would say something like this during sex.
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  • Doing Kegels (tightening and relaxing the muscles over and over again) during sex often feels REALLY good for him, it's like a penis massage, haha. I doubt it has anything to do with how tight/loose you are.

    Plus, even if you are loose, it's not the end of the world. He obviously still enjoys sex with you, and I think it was a good thing for him to be so open with you about what he wanted you to try. If you wanted to see if a certain thing would make sex even better, wouldn't you ask him to try doing it?

  • You're totally fine, as the others on here said. Also, after three years, something different can be exciting even though everything else is still really enjoyable. Also, tightening yourself can make YOU feel really good too and can result in a different orgasm for you and just a different kind of experience in general - especially if you're tightening while he's coming or while you're both coming at the same time - awesome :)

  • I wouldn't read too far into it based on answers that other guys have given. But I would have thought the same thing too if I were in your shoes... Men just seriously don't think before they speak sometimes...

Most Helpful Guys

  • Not sure about his comment. Out of the conversations I've had with guys, when they ask the women to close her legs while having sex, they usually mean there's not a good fit there. Whether that's the man too small for the woman or the woman is just larger than her man.

    I know it's REALLY unpopular to say, but women do come in different sizes. Some women can accept/want a lot more than others.

    So, unless he asks you to close you legs while having sex, I'd say you are good.

  • Don't take it personally. He just wanted it tighter, just like if you were jerking him off and he were to ask you to tighten your grip. You should be happy he is comfortable enough to ask you. Don't be afraid to ask him for something that he can do to make it more pleasurable for you. Accept his answer as truth. Communication about mutual sexual desires is healty, or he's hinting about anal sex.

    • ya he always tries to poke me in the butt and I don't like that...but he's like obsessed with my ass lol. too much info?

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  • I would take it at face value.

    He just wants it tight enough to where he can barely cram him up in there.

    If you were loose...you'd know it.

    • Sometimes I can't feel him is that loose?

    • I would follow what everyone else is saying, especially Evangelina, she knows what she's talking about.

  • Tightening up at the right moment can feel reallyyyyyy good for the guy

    Don't make this about you. Seriously, girls can be so full of themselves.

    • how can it not be about me.you don't hear me telling him to put on a extended penis so it would be harder for me to fit him in.girl if someone said the same to you you know you would be worried if your sh*t wasn't tight enough.don't lie

    • I do kegels and I find that contracting my muscles intensifies my orgasms, so no, I wouldn't.

    • by the way you try riding a guy while tightening up your vagina and rubbing his b*lls and kissing him at the same time that isn't a easy thing to do. while your making love to the person you love the last thing you wanna hear is that your vagina is not tight enough.has this even ever happened to you?

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  • I have to admit whenever my girl does that...sh*t feel so f***ing good

  • doesn't sound like he thinks you're loose...its just that squeezing your muscles down there makes you tightER

    • Yeah... dunno about that dude.

  • Why do you girls act all dramatic like that? Maaaybe he wanted to see how it feels. I've done it too. Just that. you're really overreacting.

  • Wow he sounds like a spoiled brat

    • Why, because he wants tight pussy? Grow up.

  • He probably wants you to contract your muscles while he's inside you. Apparently that feels amazing for the guy.

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