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How long into a relationship do guys start expecting sex?

I was just wondering, how long after you get into a serious relationship do guys start expecting sex? I know everyone is different, but I'm just looking for a general length of time. a week? a month? My boyfriend and I just got together, but he's started bringing up sexual topics a lot. He knows I'm a virgin, and I don't think he'd ever pressure or force me to do anything, but I just wondered when guys will start expecting sex to become a part of the equation.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It depends on you really. I mean I wouldn't expect sex if you are a virgin, but if you werent specifically waiting for marriage then I think waiting 3-4 months is perfectly fine.. I mean honestly if things elsewhere were progressing I don't see anything wrong with waiting a year or more. HOWEVER, I think for most cases a few months is a good length of time. Why are you still a virgin? If it is because you have found the right guy yet - wait longer, If it is because you haven't been in any relationships you have been satisfied in then id say maybe a few weeks is fine.

    I wish I could give a more direct answer -- when I was 17 my (virgin) girlfriend at the time and I waited 4 months. It was a good wait.. I almost wish we waited a bit longer but I'm glad we didn't. Hope that helps.

    • I'm a virgin because I wasn't allowed to date in high school, and because I couldn't get those skills in high school, it's taken me a while to be comfortable enough around men to find a boyfriend.

    • i see.. well good job opening up around guys, be prepared to get hurt. And trully just move on when you are ready. You will NEVER regret waiting too long if you want to. :)

  • The guys can start undressing you in his head the first time he lays eyes on you however he can be respectful enough not to express his sexual desires till he thinks you are comfortable.

    The moment guy is in a committed relationship it's natural for him to expect sexual aspect to be part of the equation, sometimes before or after based on mutual consent and agreement.

    I would strongly recommend that even if shy at least share a brief conversation to set the epxectations straight that your comfort on that topic or subject is only after 6 months of committed relationship or engagement or marriage or whatever your comfort level is, if he is a genuine guy for you, then he would be considerate and respectful of your choices.

    Good luck with everything.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I don't know avput 'expecting', but guys will want sex early on and its up to you to decide time frame you feel comfortable with.

    I'm not a virgin but I still wait to have sex with a boyfriend until I feel sure it's for long term, I trust him and feel 100% comfortable. Current boyfriend was 3 months.

    As a virgin I'd suggest the same as above, maybe longer. If you lose your virginity do it when your ready, don't worry about when your boyfriend wants it, it's yours to give away.

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  • hmm I don't think that you need not to lost your virginity for a guy who more focusing on sexual topic more rather than relationship, If I were your boyfriend than I'll take at least 4 to 5 months for this thing. and as you said he's pressuring you for sex it may be possible he just want to be between your legs ! so think before you'll take any decision..

    god bless

    • He's not focusing on it, he's just been bringing up more sexual topics lately than he has before.

    • yeah we bring that when we really need that or else it may be possible he's trying to know what you think about it...

  • Honestly it all depends on the guy.

    Some guys want it within the first few hours other guys are the kind that will want to wait for marriage.

    Noticing you're age range and assuming your boyfriend is in the same age range I would probably say a month or two but if you aren't ready for it then don't do it just because it is in the time range.

  • Hmm if she is a virgin maybe 3-6 months not gonna rush her. If she is not I don't see why wait much more than a month.

  • You have exactly 90 days.

  • You should save it for your husband because most likely you giys will break up, jusnd find out what you want in a man. If she was a virgin I could wait till marriage

  • Me probablly 2 or 3 months?

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