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How do you turn girls on?

we all know that guys are very visual and its EASY to turn them on. here's a few examples: - you can wear cleavage - tight pants -short skirt or shorts -when you're cuddling, move so his hand goes on your boob. this will really turn him on, he'll wonder if you meant to do it and stuff. depending on how comfortable you are with him, you can just grab his crotch, or set your hand there during a movie 'by accident' -talk kinda dirty or make sexual innuendos. -talk about your boobs and grab them. say anything. like 'man these boobs are always getting in the way' or something. it's hot. -lift up your shirt until your bra is slightly showing, just to show him how tan or white you are. Anyways, I want ideas like this to turn girls on! what can you do in one/all/any situations? Say if you just met a guy, what would he do during a movie to turn you on? or what could he wear or talk about to really turn you on?
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  • See, girls are not like men at all. So these type of things don't work., you need a different approach. Lets use me for example-if I go out with a guy(for the first time) and he tries to turn me on-it's obvious and I think he's a dawg.

    But-I recently went out with a new guy-he was really funny, we had opposite views in our conversations-but it made it interesting. He took me to a really nice restarant-treated me like a lady and made me laugh a lot. Then when we went out for drinks he complemented the way I looked-although deep down I could tell what he was really thinking and it was a huge turn on(even tho he was polite about it). After 10 minutes in the club I was like- lets go to your place. He was like why? I said that I just wanted to talk that it's loud in here. Well we went to his place-and we actually just talked-he actually thought that's what I wanted to do! I eventually had to attack him LOL(and it's Not cause I was drunk because I only drank red bull.

    The point is-make her feel comfortable, appreciated, and non-threatened(like trying too hard to turn her on). Usually I can tell that's all a guy wants-but when I saw how fun this guy was and that he wasn't expecting anything-I just HAD to surprise him (and this was the first time I've done somethin like this).

    Basically- WOMEN WANT TO FEEL APPRECIATED AND VALUED-so anything you can do to accomplish this will make her feel sexy-manybe sexual LOL.

    As for appearance goes-PLEASE don't go in a wrinkly tee shirt-that's the biggest turn off and you'll get no booty haha j/k. Shoes are important-you can usually tell how good a guy is by his shoes. When I worked at a high class restarant, we could point out the good tippers on shoes alone. Just look good-but I don't think that alone will "turn her on."

    Maybe the most you could do is (pretend to be discrete) arrange "that part" so you get comfortable-my ex did this (but I think he was just trying to get comfortable-not make me notice) and I was thinking-ooo is he horny or something? but again-he was my Boyfriend not just a date.

    But if I just met a guy-I wouldn't want him to turn me on right away-I want to get to know him first. I went to the movies with this one guy and he would keep putting his hand on my knee-eww. I never went out with him again

    • You never said what turns you on!! you just said don't try too hard. There's gotta be something a guy can do. Even that guy that made you comfortable who you pounced on - didn't turn you on, you said you just wanted to surprise him. What actually turns you on???????

    • Threre's not. We're emotional beings not-yea look at the butt I wanna get that-we're not like that. You can make a girl feel attractive and do special things for her, give her a good date, compliments don't hurt either-but we're not as visually stimulated as men. What turn me on is a guy who's unique-doesn't just follow the crowd-that will go outta his way for me. I was just turned on cause I didn't have to worry he was just tryin to lay me-he seemed so sweet. He wasn't even hot.I just liked him

    • How do you explain girls who have one night stands? And honestly, I know that almost all girls masturbate. So they have to get horny sometimes...

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  • Okay, well yes I agree a woman can get turned on when a guy treats her with respect, makes her laugh and feel comfortable, compliments her, etc.

    If you're talking about physical things...I think it depends entirely on the woman. Everyone has their own tastes. And when it comes to physical turn-ons, women are generally slower to heat up then men.

    For me, I get immediately turned on by kissing. Soft, sensual deep kissing...ESPECIALLY when it moves to the neck and behind the ears. It makes me hot as hell.

    When a guy kisses my hand, or fingertips, licks or nibbles them. That's totally sexy.

    When he leans over to whisper in my ear a lot and his voice gets lower and huskier. It sets the stage for intimacy.

    When a guy plays with my hair. Honestly, your scalp is full of tiny nerve endings. It feels pleasurable and comforting when a man plays with your hair - and extra points for brushing it!

    When he lightly brushes my lower back or under my shirt, just above my waistband across my stomach.

    Give her a relaxing massage and she'll probably jump you.

    There's a lot of little things...but it's all about the individual. What turns one woman on won't turn another on. I get turned on by spanking and tickling/wrestling, for example - haha - but I'm not sure all women would.

    • I just love Candains LOLyou sounds like my kind of woman lol I love to do all those things too good advice its worked for me good luck ski

    • Hey your canadian air is giving us all this snow, stop, hahahah

  • The reality is guys are all about their penis...girls are all about their emotions. You cannot turn a girl on and the same way. If I was with a guy and he started rubbing his chest I would think he was totally odd and possibly a bit gay.

    You actually have to the time to get to know her a little. There are girls that have sex on the first date and usually the reasons are A) they've had a bit to drink B) they have low self-esteem C) the guy they're with has treated them like a woman and listened to them. One of my best friends (a guy) who is married always says that he doesn't understand how dumb guys are nowadays and how it's so easy to make a girl happy. All you have to do is listen and make her feel special. He also wonders what happened to the gentleman (don't we all wonder?).

    Anyway, I can tell you that for me once I am into a guy (after a couple of nice dates to get to know eachother) he can brush my hair out of my face stroke my back rub my knee kiss the back of my neck and I'm in - no questions asked!

    • Sooo girls are always horny? that's what I'm getting. You're just waiting for the right guy to come in and sweep you off your feet and that's who you'll have sex with? Apparently nothing makes you horny, you just want to be treated good and then you'll put out...am I missing something or is this right?

    • Hahaha! Yes, things turn us on - we're human too! It's just not as obvious as it is with guys. I love that you just want some girl to "put out" - at this rate you're never going to get any! (I say that with love). There are days when I wake up hot and there are days when nothing can make me hot...nothing. Dancing is sexy - kissing slowly is amazing (easy on the tongue) - sometime seeing how turned on he is turns me on. I wish I could give a list but there isn't one. Good luck!!

    • No...the reality is that women are turned on by emotions, and kept by sexuality men are turned on by sexuality and kept by emotions

Most Helpful Guys

  • In addition to all the great responses from the lades below. I personally found that foreplay does the job. So kissing on the neck, licking the inner thighs, sucking their bottom lip, possibly some roleplay like doctor and patient...It really depends on the girl herself but foreplay I know is a turn on for most girls and it strengthens your relationship and creates mind blowing sex .

  • Dude! You totally don't get it.

    For a guy, yes, it's all about the physical attraction. But for a girl? Nope. Nada. No-go.

    You need to spark her inner flame. Meaning: YOU HAVE TO FEED HER ATTRACTION FOR YOU. And this has nothing to with looks, or any other crap you just spoke of.

    I can go on ad nauseam about this subject, but time is precious ...

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  • 1} Tight pants work both ways. (Well, they don't have to be *tight* but they should fit.) It always makes me sad when guys wear baggy pants and they sag below the butt. I mean, sure you can see the butt, but it's not displayed very well. Like if a girl were to wear a shirt so low you could see the bra, but it was a bra that flattened her chest and made the boobs look ugly. D= Men's butts can be sexy too! Banish the baggy!

    2) Hands just on the curve of the waist. It's great because a girl doesn't feel threatened by it, but it send shivers up the spine.

    3) Invading the pockets. This one sounds weird, but if I am wearing a hoodie or a jacket or something and a guy were to put ins hands in and just, be in my pocket, that would turn me on so much. That could be just my own weirdness though.

    • Nooo :) the pockets isn't weird. its hot (: x

  • Trying asking her how her day was, talk about things more complex than just small talk, play dumb (on certain subjects!) or a foot massage if she's been walking in heels all day.

    Be original! All women are different, if you get to know your lady or a woman, you'll know what you need to do to turn her on.

  • I'm kinda weird, but the smell of fabric softener or laundry detergent on a guy really turns me on. Makes me wanna get really close to him. also when a guy comes right behind me and wraps his arms around my waist...that makes me feel real secure and wanted. kissing my neck sorta like a camel but with less slobbber. rubbing my waist under my shirt, but not going too far up. As you move away from a soft kiss, lightly bite the lip, nibbling on my earlobes and breathing light hot air on them, using your tongue to take out my gauges (I know that's gross but my boyfriend enjoys doing it...and I love it), kissing my chest and slowly make your way down to the breasts, but don't go too far down, compliment me while looking into my eyes, playing with his chest hair, if other guys are looking at me, I love it when my boyfriend pulls me close and kisses me...makes me feel appreciated and know he doesn't want to let go of me, and what really turns me on is when my boyfriend get really close and screams in my face (not yelling screaming, but metal screaming...the good screaming) having his lips brush mine as he's screaming, then kisses me passionately...oh wow I really miss my boyfriend now.

    • "what really turns me on is when my boyfriend get really close and screams in my face (not yelling screaming, but metal screaming...the good screaming) having his lips brush mine as he's screaming, then kisses me passionately..." WTF!?!?!?

    • WHAAAAA? damn your crazy haahha. I don't think I'm going to "metal scream" in a girlsface any time soon...

    • Metal screaming in my face would be so hot!

  • -"innocently" flexing your muscle

    -lifting up your shirt to "scratch" your abs

    -brush against the girl "accidentally"

    -be funny...like tell jokes

    -stare intensely into the girl's eyes while talking to her

    -for me, just having your hand on your chest is really hot...

    It of course depends on the girl. For me, if it looks accidental, then bonus points... : D

    I don't know if this answers your question...I noticed a lot of the answers were more for like "couples", so I tried to be generic, like something you could do to get a girl madly interested in you from afar or something...just my ideas though... If you get a positive result from them lemme know. :)

  • Women are more attracted to personalitys than just looking though male underware catalogs hahahaha

    but if your trying to make a move lol than

    i would have my arm around her let her feel comfortable but yeah anything to do with kissin on neck (I like biting) or the side of the face drives me nuts and wanna jump my man lol. YOu have to give us enough tease, but it has to be smooth and not feel like a set up hahahaah

  • Ahah. I didn't know making sexual innuendos could turn a guy on. I just say them jokingly.

    Dunno, but seeing this one guy with his shirt off, being a retard, is pretty hot. Can't say it "turns me on", but it makes me hella happy.

    Eh, making out with the guy on top, too. Pretty hawt.

    • "Ahah. I didn't know making sexual innuendos could turn a guy on. I just say them jokingly." depends how you're saying them, volume of voice, intentions etc...

  • I love when my boyfriend plays with my boobs. It's like, YEAAAH MOTHER JESUS IN MY VAGINAAAA. Okay not that far. But it's an AWESOME start :D

  • Dirty talk in number one on my list. But hide it in your discussions. Then make her feel unique and special with little comments and details in your language. They really love it when you notice an extreme detail about them. (ex. you do this when you smile. that's cute...) I would say the most arousing thing you can do is play with your lips, like biting or licking them. That's just great.

  • ok when your cuddling behind her laying down give her a kiss on her neck when you make out with her play with her hair ... hmm many things

  • You can't do any of those things if she already doesn't like you!

    Trust me, if you do, you'll probably get a slap, or, at the least, she'll laugh at you! xD

    What you need to do is first get to know her, and if you've got a personality type that she likes, you're half way there!

    Now that that's been said, the physical aspect of seduction is quite extensive...

    A couple of things I like most is when a guy SMELLS GREAT! A good perfume or aftershave and I'm already in the mood...SERIOUSLY!

    Great hygiene (naturally), being soft and sensual (not grabby!), locking eyes for a long time..so sexy, holding hands (just to show her you care)...

    ;)

  • lol...PULL YOUR PENIS OUT...ha ha j/k

  • when you ARE a man not a little boy. no abercrombie or hollister. I like when guys are fierce and are confident but not cocky.

  • -act nice

    -smell good (ex: hollister cologne,axe)

    -have a funny sense of humor

    -always know how to start a conversation and not leave the end of it awkward

    -don't come off as an ass :)

  • I don't know about other girls but I love it when he grabs my ass or runs his hands down my thighs. Also biting the neck is a huge turn on.

  • damn,i got a boner just from reading ur question!

    • I think I can turn girls on by grabbing my dick,lol

    • Hahaha you're awesome! that was funny

    • Lmfao guys would =P

  • be romantic but not clingy.

  • during a movie when he rubs my clit then slowly moves it away (turn on)

    when guys tlk dirty alott such a turn on ;)

  • always smell good. hollister, axe, tag, old spice.. all those are amazing and great turn ons to me.. be clean too.. a nice haircut or something is always cute. as for like stronger turn ons, when a guy kisses my neck I go crazy.

  • Don't screw up my hair so I look like I just put my finger in an eletric plug, but I love when he plays with my hair, or just messes with(NOT srews up into dred locks!) a curl on a bus or something, when we're just cuddling and being together.

  • Whether your kissing, making out, fooling around, etc there are some very basic turn-ons that apply to all girls.

    1) Make the first move, all girls like a guy that can take control. Just remember not to go too far, you know what's appropriate and what's not.

    2) Kisses on the forehead and nose show your gentleman side and surprisingly can get her to do some not-so lady-like things ;)

    3) Let a girl sit on your lap, it lets a girl know your comfortable not to mention everyone's favorite makeout position.

    4) Nothing wrong with some neck/ear action just don't get sloppy.

    5) Finally, HOLD HER LIKE YOU MEAN IT. I'm not saying squeeze the girl just make sure your hold on her s confident and she'll respond likewise.

    • Um no, we don't always know what's appropriate. How about you open your damn mouth and tell us. You're an intelligent [hopefully] human being, communicate like one!

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