Fingering my girlfriend

[Anonymous]

I think my girlfriend has indirectly expressed interest in me fingering her. Usually when people asks for tips about fingering they get generic tips but I want more. My girlfriend never wears skirts, just like jean shorts, but there not jeans, I don't know how describe it. Or sweatpants or jeans. When do I do it? I know when making out, but any more advice? What position should we be in? Like her sitting and me next to her as I finger her? My girlfriend likes me to rub her stomach on her period. Should I just move my hand lower one time and see what happens? What do I do when my hand is down there? Can I like, trace her lips in a circle until she gets wet enough? How long should I go for the clit? Clit or vagina first?

[samanthafaye]

My advice, I'll try to give you as much imput as I can.

It doesn't really matter what kind of pants or anything she's wearing, though it may be more difficult to get her pants off if they're jeans, If she's wearing sweatpants, you can easily slip your hand down her pants without even removing them, and when you both eventually get more horny you can just pull them down.

As far as when you do it, and where, It doesn't really matter. Usually intimate situations like that happen when your alone, just relaxing.. for example, if your on the couch watching a movie, start rubbing her body, or tracing your fingers on her leg. she'll probably get a little hot and bothered by that, once you start kissing, making out, lean on your side and trace your finger down her body, eventually when you land near her vagina rub her OVER her clothing, eventually you'll know when your hand shouldn't be over them, but under them. hah,

Anyways, Are you crazy? Do not finger your girlfriend when she is on her period, don't don't don't. She's probably uncomfortable as it is, don't even try, she might have a tampon in, which would be a much better situation than if she was wearing a pad, don't try. she won't like it, and your hand and her clothing, and whereevevver you are would be a bloody mess essentially

As far as in depth advice about what to do to pleasure her when your down there, every girl is different.

Here is a link for a whole sex ed youtube channel, this girl knows her stuff. Give it a chance, YOU WILL learn from things she tells you, I promise you that, I'm 20 years old and I am still learning little tips and tricks from this woman.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-RE0bmHKiVc&feature=PlayList&p=7C8794EABBAD3FDC&index=12

And as far as her clit goes, please don't just rub the clit the whole time, don't get me wrong, it feels amazing, but a womans clit is very sensitive, and usually, if your doing it right, you can get a girl to orgasm with just playing with her clit, but after she comes, it is very sensitive, so try and make her acheive the big O other ways.

I hope this was helpful.

-Good luck!

-Samantha faye

[nicolerae08]

Well I don't know any girl who wants to be fingered on her period. That's awkward. And if you've never done it I definitely wouldn't while she's on her period. That's not what she wants of her first time with you like that. Trust me. So if your open and you plan on doing it, next time your talking slightly bring it up and ask her if its good timing for her so she can sort of expect it. And what she wears doesn't matter. My boyfriend just recently fingered me for the first time and I was wearing jeans. Just sort of slide your hand to her button and if she's okay with it she should let you unbutton and unzip her jeans. If she's not she'll push your hand away. That's what I did when my boyfriend tried and I was on my period. Obviously you should do some things to turn her on before this like rubbing her and and maybe feeling her breasts or something. Plus making out. The best position for her to be in is laying down on her back. you could lay on your side and put your arm behind her head. Lay up against her body and slide your arm under her panties. You don't have to take any clothes off to finger her. Trust me haha. Feel her and if she's wet then you can go for it. Me and my guy talked about whether I was an inside or outside person before he did it. What I mean is some girls get off by being rubbed on the clit others by something in her. Get it? What I think is best is if you find her clit and rub that for a while and then go inside her. Or if you can do both at the same time, but that's obviously a little hard. This is probably the best thing you could read. Me and my boyfriend texted while he read it and he asked questions that he had. It helped SOOOO MUCH. link

If you have an open relationship where you can talk about that stuff that's best.

[4u2nv]

orgasms on a period get rid of the pain...I can tell you that much.

I say that you start by making out, and then eventually finger her, while making out.

You start by going down her pants ( you don't have to unbutton, but if they are really tight, then you should) Actually, I would say to unbutton them and pull them down if you want to make her have an orgasm.

Go down slowly and gently while you are making out, and start massaging the top area for about 15-30secs or so, then work down to the clit and start rubbing and get faster. Then rub fast (but then slip your finger up her v-jay-jay while rubbing) so it's sort of smooth and not a switch.

As for positions:

Standing up facing each other is a good way to finger her...

But I wouldn't say sitting, but laying down preferably. (Like if you are on a bed or couch together, lay down right next to her and YOU face turned her way, you can be seated up too...)

Oh yeah, make sure you find the right spot, or it can hurt if you are going really hard.

The deeper, faster, and rougher the better...but starting out gentle and then transfer to that (faster/rougher) stage

[Asker]

Are you sure she won't lose balance or something while she's in the throes of orgasm and get hurt? Like if she would fall?

[trukita]

I actually find it 100% impossible to orgasm while standing up, and most girls I know agree.

[Anonymous]

you could do it sitting next to each other, but I would say the best is with her lying down and you kinda on top of her (almost missionary position but with some space for your hand) , you could be making out at this time but that's up to you (or nibbling on her breasts)

i don't think moving your hand lower during her period is a good idea... I wouldn't feel comfortable with it

i would say start off by fingering her slowly then harder as you go, and pull out a few times to circle the opening (that really feels good) then you can move to the clit, but keep going back to fingering her in the vagina while playing with her clit ... depending on her reaction you should know when to stop... if you just keeps climbing higher and higher, building pressure and almost pulsing down there then you should keep going (if anything, go harder and faster) until you see her slowly relaxing, her breathe will start to ease and she will slowly "come back to earth" . this is when you can stop and start to make out, give oral, have sex (that's up to you)

[sammyangel9991]

Yea this is good but just so you know (for the question asker not the girl) girls don't get off vaginally unless you go for the g-spot (look it up). What's going to make her come is clitoral stimulation, not you just pumping your finger in and out.

[Asker]

So it doesn't just feel good to have something inside of her? And how exactly do I play with the clit?

[Asker]

And how do I get to fingering? Do I put my hand on her leg and message it then work my way up? Would she get the picture? And how do I get to her vagina when she has clothes on? Will I have to take them off of her? That would be kind of awkward.

[mackser]

Well unbutton her pants you'll kno if she doesn't want you to... but try asking her my boyfriend asked me if he 'could make me really happy' and there was no way I could turn him down it was so sweet

[Opinion Owner]

If you finger her when your hand is facing upward then you should hit her g-spot and you should put your hand on her leg and work your way up (having eye contact also helps big time)... I doubt she will turn you down best of luck

[Asker]

But what about clitoral action? And won't her eyes be closed, you know, enjoying it when I'm fingering her?

[Opinion Owner]

When is said eye contact I meant when you start to move from her thigh to the button on her pants... and there are many things to do with the clit but I suggest you stroke it up and down and then kinda circle around the sides (if she is someone who has multiple orgasms like me, then she's not gonna care about the clit really)

[Opinion Owner]

I'm acctually very impressed that you are trying so hard to please your girlfriend rock on dude

[Asker]

Thank you, maam. I just love my girlfriend alot, and I would love nothing more than to please her using my own hands.

[Asker]

My girlfriend is horniest on her period. People elsewhere on this site talked about rubbing a girl's belly during her period, which I do to. Could her period massage and with a "happy ending"? Would an orgasm help a girl on her period?

[Opinion Owner]

I have no idea if it would help, but.... you could try it out and see if she wants you to keep doing it :)

[Anonymous]

When you are making out with her, start running your hand up and down her thigh while you hold your other hand on her head. Then slowly move your hand towards her jean crotch area, and start to softly rub that area. Then (dont do this for too long) start undoing her pants, preferably with one hand if you can, and if they are more like sweat pants stretchy ones, you can actually just begin moving your hand down her pants. Don't be too fast though, take it slowly and maybe even teaste her a bit while you are moving your hand down by just moving it around above the crotch area. Then, when you start getting your hand into the "right" area, start with the clitoris, but really softly... its very sensitive and you don't want to be pinching it or anything as that kills. Again, I would suggest not doing this for too long. Now try to get her pants off a bit, so you can openly get to the vagina without too much resistance. When you are right about there, the best thing to do while fingering, in my opinion, is to, depending on tight she is, and how much it hurts her, put one or both your first finger and middle finger into the vagina and reach for the G-spot. Its a kind of rough area about two inches in on the roof of the vagina. Massage this, and then use your thumb on her clitoris. Hope this helps.

[mikewnaz]

i would have her lay on her back and start kissing her from her neck to her belly while rubbing her down there. once you get down there unbutton her pants and kiss as you lower the zipper and then slide them off. leave the panties on and make her practically beg you to take them off. start laying kisses on her thighs and then start sucking on her panties. once you do that slip off her panties and start to massage her thighs by rubbing her thighs by pressing in and moving your fingers in a circular motion while on her thigh muscle. then slip a finger into her and slowly start to finger her. slip another one in and start to move faster in your fingering. but slow down at times so she doesn't know what to expect. then just start slipping the other fingers in and once you get to the whole hand inside of her do it really fast and thrust them in an upward motion. keep going and don't stop until she squirts all over the place...after that she will love you and id say within two days you will be asked to make a repeat visit. lol

please go and answer my latest question...

[Asker]

Dude that's so hot. I'll have to try it on her.

[samanthafaye]

Just an fyi. Most chicks can't fit a whole hand in they're vagina on the first try, I suggest using two at the most at first, you should ask her if she wants more or not, you don't want to hurt her. this is a very good answer though!!

[mikewnaz]

U build up to the whole hand...you get her warmed up and proceed further as she releases. if you get her to relax you can do anything and if she relaxes she'll go nuts when she orgasms

[Wonderer-Dude]

there a video online about some guy making women come watch that

[yummyboi77]

There are... ahem... a few more than that. lol

[NikkiKing]

NEVER finger a girl on her period. When she wants you to rub her stomach its because it probably makes her cramps go away. When you should do it is when ever you make her really horny. Meaning turn her on to the point when she's practically begging you. Go for the clit first, but don't try to vibrate it to much.. Its a sensitive area.

[Anonymous]

Firstly, I know you're smart enough not to finger her on her period, so I'm not going to comment on that. :)
But make sure she's wet. (Duh, you know this ;)) Maybe while you guys are watching a movie, she could be on top of you, cuddly style, and then trace you fingers up her area while her pants are still on. Then you could rub her cilt inside her pants to tease her. Then you can get to fingering. Make sure to do the "come here" motion with the two fingers.

[Anonymous]

1st off no. do not try and finger her on her period. eww. that be gross and probably painful for her and you'd get blood and crap on your hand and what if she has a tampon in. no. BAD IDEA.

i like my guy to finger me when I'm sitting/laying onto of his lap after we've been making out for kinda a while and he starts by rubbing my a** and thighs. which sounds weird but feels nice. and then he slowly just starts to finger me with my pants on and when he feels like he's getting to a good point, he up bottons my pants and slips his hand down there.

[Anonymous]

whooa. a LOT of girls aren't comfortable when guys finger them while on their periods. So you may want to be careful! And either ask or just wait until she is off of it. I'm actually a bit surprised that you would be willing to do it on her period the first time. It's really not as hard as it seems. I'm glad you are trying so hard to make her happy but follow the advice of these people and then just get in the mood and see where it takes you. (btw I pretty much agree with what mikewnaz said)

[Asker]

Thank you.