Help! My long distance boyfriend has a high sex drive?

[Anonymous]

My long distance boyfriend of a year has a really high sex drive, and recently it's been making me crazy! For example, we both go to different universities, and this past weekend he came to visit me. His mother came as well because he is thinking of transferring to my school and she wanted to see the campus. The three of us hung out for a while, but the MOMENT she left he jumped on me and started to get physical. He orgasmed once and then we stopped, but he demanded that we have sex again the next morning even though we only had a limited amount of time together during the weekend. The rest of the night he would continually touch me sexually and kiss me without so much as a break, even when in public. At times, he wouldn't even let me finish a sentence before he'd stick his tongue down my throat. However, I didn't say anything about it, because I knew that if I did he would become annoyed at me and we'd have to have a "serious talk" about it. I didn't want to spoil the weekend like that, so I sucked it up and just reciprocated even though I wasn't into it at all. Occasionally, he would sense that I wasn't really feeling it, and he'd get upset at me, so I'd have to pretend like I was into it too so he'd calm down. I know he's sexually frustrated since we are long distance and only see each other once every two to three weeks, but it is also really critical for me that I am able to emotionally connect with him during the time that we have together. I didn't feel as if I was able to do that because all he was concerned about was the physical. We didn't have any conversations that went below surface level (if we could finish them before he had to make out and feel me up again) and we hardly spent any time at all talking about ourselves or anything else. It was like he hadn't missed me at all and that all he wanted was a booty call. I felt really disrespected and annoyed by the end of his visit, and oddly enough I was glad when it was over. I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend, but this is really bothering me. How should I proceed in a way that won't make him mad? How do we balance the emotional and physical aspects of our relationship?

[-Darling]

Awww that's so sweet lol. Well just have a talk with him and tell him what you told us. I'm pretty sure he will be understanding and try to control himself a little. I have been in that same situation before and I know exactly how you feel when you say that all the smooching is making you feel like nothing more than a booty call. But remember that him being all over you like that is/should feel like a huge compliment but of course a little balance is needed. Really have a talk with, I can't think of any other ways you can "fix" this. Also somethings telling me that he isn't even aware of that your feeling that way and in his perspectiv everything is just perfect. Boys! :P well Good luck:)

[05Jueey]

I guess I understand that he hadn't seen you so long and he wanted to touch his girl but I don't think he should get emotional just because you're not into it. It's not like you can force yourself to like it.. that's tough. It's important to let him know how you feel though. Tell him you want to have emotional and intimate time not including sex with each other.

[Anonymous]

Well do you guys skype? Because you should So you can see him and talk to him more and than when you met again he won't be So physical and you will want to get more physical as you have Been talking a lot ...

[sixstring]

I don't really know what you can do about it, but I think I might now his reasoning.

I assume since you're LDR, you email/call/text/whatever a lot. He might regard all that stuff as the emotional bonding. Seeing as you do so much of that emotional bonding (in his eyes), he feels that there is enough of that and thinks it's reasonable to be physical the entire time.

Also you have to consider that being in love increases one's sex-drive dramatically, he needs some release.

Only thing I can think of is try to bring it up while calling or something.

[hunterfan]

tell him that you enjoy having sex with him because you love him, but you don't want that to be the only thing that happens you want to go out and have a good time with him, go do things besides make out all the time.