Male who says he's a boyfriend but refuses sex with me?

[melissa92]

OK I've known this male-nutcase for 4 years now. He is 59 years old now-- granted yes he's old, but he can perform sexually--he has hung out with lots of hot women is a photographer and has had sex with them too. I was a model, and this nutjob has been claiming for 3-4 years that he's my boyfriend, but he still REFUSES to have sex with me. I'm a virgin but it doesn't matter--he does not want to have sex with me- it seems he just wants to sexually torment me in this bizarre way-- on top of this, he also won't do sexual things to me in different positions...such as I've said OK hey can I get on my knees and can you 'suck my pu***" or do other things" and he refuses...he doesn't want to give me any sexual pleasure...except 'oral sex' in one lame boring position and that's IT...i don't get this...none of it has made any sense to me in four years... yes he's a sociopath and gets off on the 'control' power but still...this is beyond nuts...this maniac keeps saying "i want to marry you baby"...I'm like but you Haven't done ANYTHING with me and refuse to "FU**" me...? he has mocked me refusing sex with me saying "WHO WANTS TO F*** YOU you're NUTS"! all sorts of lies and putdowns just to degrade me and yes he gets off on degrading me and is a sick twisted evil person but this is beyond extreme...four years of NEVER having any sex with someone you call a girlfriend"? this lunatic also claims I'm the 'love of his life' and I'm like...no no nutjob...this is beyond crazy... on top of him not having sex with me...he seems like this oversexed pervert who will do ANY LIVING CREATURE...he hits on EVERYONE and EVERYTHING...he rarely hung out with me but the times he did or we do...hes hitting on-- men women anyone...he seems like the predator rapist type...yet he wouldn't even 'rape me' if I wanted him to.. its scary...i tried to understand the psychosis behind it but really I can't...I'm also a very hot sex y super hot woman...he claims I'm the hottest woman he's ever ever seen I'm a sex goddess...so hot...which I am however how can he not even attempt to have sex with me or care...and still go on saying "oh honey...I'm your BF...you're my GF"...yes I know its for the 'manipulation' but an oversexed pervert who seems to want to have sex with anything possible---anyone except his so-called "girlfriend"...what is wrong with this freak...is he just a sadist--evil cruel..screwed up? what kind of sick issues does this freak have? also I'm 32...young gorgeous...beautiful etc...and he has me 'dress up in lingerie and heels' and STILL won't have sex with me? and he says...MAKE ME F*** YOU...DO THIS THAT GET M D*** HARD AND DO IT-- I'm like...I'm a virgin? YOU NEED TO DO it to me? he still won't do it...this is beyond crazy...

[rtri1]

The unfortunate reality of life is you can't rationalize or reason the behavior of a person with mental illness.

The only reason you need to learn to accept is they are mentall ill. Your 54 year old boy friend is mentally ill and a control freak sociopath.

I would strongly recommend to run as far and as fast as you can.

A relationship with psychotic like him will lead to possible psychological damage to you as well. I don't know how much damage he has already done but please don't hesitate to also consult a therapist to assess that and get necessary help to heal.

I know this because I was unfortunately in a relationship with a psychotic, abusive, control freak sociopath who was excatly like your boy friend for a little over 4 years myself.

Anyways wish you good luck with everything.

[melissa92]

yes you are right.. I tell myself he's mentally ill but its hard because being a narc he is always manipulating and putting 'me down' and making me feel crazy- I'm sure you know how that goes...he also lived with me 2 months and wudnt touch me and I believe was molesting my cats--thats when I realized this guy is really mentally ill or something but its hard because of the facade they put on to seem so 'together' but yes you aer right...still its hard to accept because of all the lies they throw at you

[melissa92]

i spoke to him recently, he bragged about how he had sex with a lady for 2 hrs..again saying "I NEVER F**ED YOU B/C UR CRAZY AND You NEVER PLEASED ME"! he rationalizes his sick behavior and it almost seems as if...he really feels justified in his crazy actions...its scary...and defends his behavior and keeps putting me down...its so absurd twisted and sick and then says oh baby I love u..get back together with me...let's love each other again...and I'm like I'm not your Girlfriend and you never f**ed me?!

[wbwass]

find someone younger who treats you better, you deserve a lot better then that :-)

[melissa92]

yes any human deserves better but why is this person doing this...what is his mentality behind this behavior...is it a mental problem...and how can anyone be so sick and screwed up..there has to be some kind of twisted logic behind his behavior---does he get off on degrading rejecting a beautiful woman he can do this to ?

[wbwass]

well honestly sometimes there's not any mentality behind it eather that or he is just plain out selfish. most guys don't care about womens pleasure but I'm the rare type of guy that would rather pleasure the girl then get pleasured but most likely he flat out doesn't care about you or making you happy at all :-(

[wbwass]

and how could he destroy your life? like what could he do if you broke up with him that would make it so bad?

[melissa92]

destroy myy life...apparently you've never encountered an evil person...how old are you? people can destroy people's lives in 10000's of ways...and they do duh esp a sociopath...thats their speciality destroying people

[wbwass]

my ex tried doing that but just leave him, warn everyone that knows of him, and just get rid of anything connecting you to him and he won't beable to do anything bad to you, just move on from him and you will find someone that truly appreciates you and your beauty and amazingness :-) and ya he might ruin your life for like a month but trust me its worth it if you don't have to deal with his sh*t anymore :-)

[melissa92]

also ima virgin..and I can't meet another guy for some unfortunate reason...so its like I'm stuck, being a 'virgin' and not going to lose it to anyone...so its like he wins and I'm trapped sort of...just stuck being a virgin until I can meet a guy...until then he is there to continue to deprive me and really screw with my head and sexuality in an extreme way...being a hot woman who guys would dream of having sex with and your own "bf" (or so he says) refusing sex with you ever is really traumatic and

[wbwass]

add me as a friend and message me, I wanna go deeper into this and try to find a way of helping you but without the whole world knowing your business :-)

[melissa92]

destroy my life-- hmm this freak was dating a judge's secretary so he could get charges pressed on me and did so successfully..yes he was f**king another woman to destroy my life, while he refused sex with me and said I was his gf...crazy stuff..besides that who knows what a sp is capable of...and he's already told me of other things he's going to do...these things can get brutal and very evil and are the lowest of the scum around...

[Misty_04]

Oh he sounds scary. I'd bail.

[Hooo2018]

Run forrest run

[BeHappy1985]

Maybe buy him some viagra?

https://youtu.be/lQlIhraqL7o

[mauiwowi]

so he's 59 and your 32...your beautiful and a virgin but yet he'd rather hit on a guy then you...HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! this is hilarious!

[melissa92]

yup he's rejected me for males---not only that but weird stories...where I can't get into it but yes he'll hit on guys and he kicked me out new years eve for his crazy male neighbor and they both were mocking me as I was drunk on the road and they were orgasming in the background sick scary stuff...he'll do any guy I think and I think he does his mechanic and doctor...hes a sociopath and promiscuous but he denies it to the end and calls me a cheater...

[mauiwowi]

i think your trolling

[melissa92]

how is it selfish if the guy isn't having sex with a girl...dont men get pleasure out of sex...he doesn't want to make me happy though he parades around claiming this...he refuses sex with me...for a female...thats the ultimate impossibility...men want sex more than women usually...they are the ones pining after it-- and this male to degrade and reject an extremely beautiful woman who every male wants I'm sure...an ego trip maybe...but its extreme sadism...or cruelty...its not just 'selfishness"

[mauiwowi]

your trolling...hella hard

[melissa92]

first off a**Hole who is saying I'm trolling..youre the one who is trolling so get lost? to teh eprson who said your ex did that to you--did your ex never have sex with you or did they have sex then stop--ive heard of people who've had sex then stopped...but I've never heard of a guy-- NEVER having sex with a girl he claims to be dating..and wanting to do others...its just too crazy for me...abnormal and unnatural and sick and twisted...however I will get away but its just too shocking for me

[Anonymous]

You deserve better. That's all that matters.

[melissa92]

women are the ones who usually withhold sex...and most men are paying or begging beautiful women for sex...so this sick old twisted nutjob wants to use a beautiful woman...beit she's a virgin...just to sexually degrade, deprive reject and refuse for kicks...still its confusing...how he can hold back, and how he can play the game of claiming he's a boyfriend and get away with it...and still manage to call the girl names and crazy...its very sadistic and twisted...very sociopathic but also extreme

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe in his mind its payback for what women did to him when he was younger? Doesn't make it okay. I've suffered more then most people I know from this... Just get as far away from him as possible.