My girlfriends vagina is too tight, couldn't have intercourse?

[slimjim]

Ladies I need some help! I'm not a virgin, about a week ago me and my girlfriend tried to have sex for the first time and we couldn't because her vagina was so tight that every time I tried to penetrate her she was in pain. After about 4 times of trying I finally gave up. By the way she is 33 and hasn't had sex in about a year. A friend told me that some women do that to avoid having sex with their partners (they call it THE LOCK) and it consist of using a vaginal muscle. We both wanted to have sex and I'm not sure if this is what she did. Has anyone done this or heard of such a thing?

[Taboo]

I have heard of this, and I've pulled it off with my ex when I didn't want to have sex.

Ok, so she hasn't had sex in a year, and the most common reason this happens is that she isn't comfortable enough with you to have sex. She's apprehensive and nervous, she's tensing up.

You need to spend more quality time with her to help her relax. Yep, you're going to have to talk more.

The more of a connection she feels with you the "looser" she will be. :)

Good Luck.

[Anonymous]

I have to work at getting my Boyfriend inside me every time we have sex. Although it doesn't hurt, it just takes some time to get it in.

Try REALLY turning her on. Take a good amount of time and do it.

[Anonymous]

maybe she was just nervous, I know the first time I tried I was really nervous and my muscles were really tight and he couldn't get it in

[MrOracle]

Taboo and sovetskii13 have it right. She needs to be able to relax (she is undoubtably nervous about a new partner, about it being so long since she's had sex, etc.), and you probably need to give her more foreplay, and use your fingers to slowly loosen her up first.

Her brain might want sex, but her body isn't cooperating with her (or you), so you need some time to break down those barriers first.

[sovetskii13]

Extend the foreplay to get her more wet down there. Once she is more wet, play with her down there by using your fingers. Insert one, and move it around and around for a while. Then insert a second one, and move it around, then spread her lips a little. Keep this going. Doing this should help loosen her vagina a little, and make sex possible, or less painful. Good luck.