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My boyfriend told me his fetish...

my boyfriend told me his fetish one day out of no where. it was really weird and kind of turned me off thinking about it. he wants to try something with it the next time we get intimate. I don't mind doing that for him but I know I won't enjoy it at all. so should I just be a good girlfriend and keep quiet that its the biggest turn off I've ever heard or talk about it? and guys would you rather know if your girlfriend got turned off by your fetish or no?
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for those who want to know he has a fetish for melting wax and a lot of pain like (cutting (though he wouldn't do that part) , slapping around, whips, crying, and ect.) super weird to me.
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he wants to do those things to me.
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ok thank you for all your answers. I would give a best answer award but all of you really helped me thank you very much. we talked about it as a couple and will try something not as weird to me and maybe go to what he likes. thank you everyone for your answer.
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  • It's hard for me to answer without knowing what the fetish is (or maybe I'm just distracted by my curiosity, who knows). But I would say that if you feel comfortable with it, compromise by satisfying his fetish once in a while but having "normal" sex some of the time too. And if there's anything you'd like to try or experience, you can request that as well.

    As for telling him that you're turned off by the idea, I think it's fair to let him know that it's decidedly not your thing, but be tactful. He opened up to you and trusted you so be respectful of that.

    • Would he be doing those things to you, or would he have you do them to him?

    • he would do it to me

    • Wow. Well, that's some pretty intense stuff... and it makes for a tough situation. You say you "don't mind" doing it for him- what does that mean exactly? It seems like a "love it or hate it" type of thing. Personally I think that if he's not prepared and willing to live without it, he's probably better suited to someone who share's his fetish. You should definitely not put yourself in an uncomfortable (or painful, in this case) situation for the sake of being a good girlfriend.

  • if it bothers you that badly, then don't do it. keeping your dignity is way more important than being a good girlfriend (which doesn't mean you have to do everything he says). its OK to be adventurous but if you know you will not like it at all and are turned off then don't do it

  • Never do anything you're uncomfortable with. That's most important.

Most Helpful Guys

  • im not fetish, so its kind of hard for me to answer but I think you should maybe talk about it with him more without getting intimidated by it. you know like ask him how fun is it? "will I enjoy it", or "how does that work" etc and have him talk about it in more details so you could get an idea from it. but if you think you can handle it, I guess you could be a "good girlfriend" and give him what he wants, but then again you should put some boundaries so he won't get selfish.

    • @update a lot of women love having hot candle wax pour on them. but the other part doesn't really sound so bad. like I said just make him explain it a little better.

  • A fetish is something that is required for sexual arousal... something that would not ordinarily be considered a fetish. It really isn't like that, is it? Isn't it some certain sexual interest of his that doesn't interest you -- a turn on for him, that isn't one for you?

    Is it something you'd consider doing to make him happy... just as you might ask him to do something similar for you? Not an obligation, but something you do because you care for each other.

    • Oh my... okay... yeah, wax, perhaps... but cutting and pain? My apologies... I take back everything I said. I just assumed that no one got hurt!

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  • I personally would rather know. I don't like the sex I get when the girl doesn't like it, even if she's pretending to enjoy it. It's just not the same.

    • Okay, read your updates. S&M is not something to be entered into lightly - you have to at least be interested. Let him know that you're not into it.

  • ok, now I'm curious... What's his fetish?

  • He wants you to do that to him? That is femdom...

  • It's up to you...I want a female that likes for me to give her oral and will share her pee with me...and she needs to tell about her needs..if we can't mesh on that..then the faster we realize that and move on, then the better off we both are...(:

  • I would not do those thing!

  • My Fetish is period sex!

  • No done title are into that but if your nit don't do it that's relly f***ed up! Notice even the pepole who at dirs said trey it canged ther minds when you said what it was. He has no right to ask you to be in pain that's serult twisted. Don't do it!

  • Just try.

    He will only pay you back sexually.

    • Ok, I take it all back! Wow that's just f***ed..

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