What are good things to say during phone sex?

First of all I am over 18 and I want to have phone sex with my boyfriend, also over 18. We're long distance. We've done it once and it was cool but I feel like it was awkward for both of us because it might have been his first time and it was my first time. So...

1.) What are some things I can say that will encourage him to talk dirty? It was his idea to begin with, but he doesn't like to actually say anything. Think creative, not obvious.

2.) We just got video chat and I don't know much about it, but a while ago he made a joke about how it would be hot to see me masturbate. Do you think it would be a good idea to do it over video chat sometime? And if we did, is it easy to save the videos, because I wouldn't want him to do this (although if I told him not to, he wouldn't.)

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also, we're both 22, in case you were wondering about maturity
 

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  • On another post a girl was playing a game where her and her boyfriends text message each other sexy and naughty questions. So anyway you don't have to text these questions; you can say them to him directly. Here is a copy of what I said earlier to the other girl.

    Where is the next place you want to do it? What kind of oil do you want to be covered in the next time we do it? What lingerie do you want me to wear under my clothes at work tomorrow while I am thinking of you all day long? Besides me what else is on your menu? If we could be alone together anywhere in the world where would you take me? How will you take my next breath away? Which part of me tastes the best? If you could lick me all over, where would you start? Where would you save for last? I’ve been a naughty little girl; what is my punishment? What is next on your list of things to do? What is the craziest position we can do? If you were to wrap me up in saran wrap, which parts of me would you leave exposed, and what would you do to me next? What do you dream about? What provocative lingerie would you like to see on me? What is your idea of the hottest steamiest most passionate kiss?

    If I could tie you up so you can’t move then tickle you, where would you want to be tickled? If you could tie me up, where would you tickle me? If I handcuffed all four of your arms and legs to a bed, what would you want me to do to you? What would you do to me? What object do you like to be spanked with? If I was a sexy heroine, how would you want my seductive and provocative uniform to be designed? If I was a sexy heroine, what super powers would you want me to have? What sexy costume do you want me to wear for Halloween? If I was a sorceress what spell would you like for me to cast on you? If we were billionaires, how would we spend the money together? If I was a sexy female athlete, what sport would you want me to play? If I was a sexy goddess in the pantheon of sex gods, what would I be the goddess of? If you were to give me a breast massage, how would you give it to me? What is the sluttiest outfit you can think of? If we were at a playboy centerfold photo shoot, what props and little embellishments would you want me to have, what would be the theme, and what angles do you want to take the photos?

    What is your favorite hairstyle? What color would you like me to die my hair? (hopefully he will understand that you are not talking about the hair on your head) Get him to say the word “fire crotch” and give hints that you want to die your hair pink or red. If you could body paint me everywhere, how would you want me to be painted? (hopefully he gets the hint that the only thing you are wearing is obviously paint)

What Guys Said 4

  • I had phone sex with a girl and she put the phone up to her lady parts and masturbated and let me listen to the squishing noises.

  • say nothing over the phone-sex, just rub yourself with the phone...ask him if he knew what that sound was, do it again, then tell him...

    masturbation is tops on video chat...mmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmm

    can I watch, I will let you watch me...

    GeeeeeeeeezeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeOut

  • Well you could always just not show your face when you do, just show the rest of your body, and if he asks about it either tell the truth or tell him you heard about some hackers hacking into conversations with webcam or something

  • yah you just basically need somesort of program to save it..i suggest not doing it unless he is completely trust worthy...coz when I was drunk I almost uploaded pics and vids of my ex up the web...good thing I gave it back to her just to be safe...

What Girls Said 4

  • I think good-looking-geek pretty much covered it!

    The main thing to remember if you are texting or talking is to not ask yes or no questions; make him have to elaborate and think about his answers.

  • I used to have a lot of phone sex because my boyfriend was long distance to... pretty much you tell the other person what you want to do to them and you describe where your touching yourself and how and all that good stuff... just ask him "what do you want to do to me" and hopefully it'll take him from there... just describe the whole situation from beginning to end... like "if I was there, I would lay you on the bed, and take your shirt off... I would then kiss you slowly all the way down to the top of your pants, and then ..." just like that and once you get in the middle of it be like "picture me riding you very slowly at first and then getting faster..." and more than likey while you're describing it he will do what you say like starting out slowly with his hand and then getting faster... etc... then its his turn to describe what he would do to you... I think once you are comfortable with phone sex then you should move to the video chat because that would make it more awkward since he can see you on there if you are already awkward with phone sex... hope I helped.

  • is there REally a first time for phone sex?

    o I'm still a phone sex virgin

  • 1. Well, tell him how hot he's making you. I know that's obvious, but it works... Also, try setting up a scenario... ask him about his fantasies and go according to that. That way he can have some input into it since it's his fantasy.

    2. I've never done video chat for that particular reason. Those kinds of things I don't really trust because you never know what could happen later on. I'll try a lot of different things, except things that can be permanent and can be shared somehow. It's up to you though.

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