Still a virgin at 23 - how should I go about changing this? I'm not ready for another relationship.
I'm 23 and feel that I am missing out on an important part of life since humans are largely carnal beings. I don't know why I am still a virgin. I have been in two - albeit somewhat short lived - relationships, which for some reason I didn't allow thing to get past third base (a lack of initiative/confidence of my behalf I guess) In between that I rarely "get" with girls. I mean, opportunities arise when I am out at clubs and girls start flirting, but I am usually too drunk and/or dumb to know how the hell to react and lose out and also I know a few girls who like me, yet I just don't feel mentally able to be in a relationship (what with me completely f***ing things up previously).Anyway, I don't know what to do about this. I'm pushing on 24 and I really need to get over this inability to act like normal humans and take opportunities which might lead to other things. I guess I feel I need some kind of sexual awakening? I don't know, I just feel I am lagging way behind; not just in sex, but in the whole wider spectrum of sensuality, flirting, dating - the whole package. I'm not saying I want one-night stands all the time and become a player. Of course ideally it would be with someone I loved, but that just feels impossible for the time being and as I get older I worry that the apathy and passive approach to women is just going to get worse unless I approach it head-on.
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