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Do people really sleep around a lot?

I've been wondering about this lately. I haven't had sex in awhile (like years) and it's frustrating to say the least, not because I'm ugly or anything I just haven't found a guy I'm interested in enough to date and sleep with and I don't like sleeping around. I've only slept with 2 people, one was a one night stand because I figured, "Everyone else is doing it so it must be worth it," and I don't think I've ever felt so felt worse about myself when it was over and all was said and done and I haven't had sex again since then because even though I've been attracted to plenty of guys I found the whole one night stand thing to not be all it's cracked up to be. Then I started wondering, when I think about all the people I know and then times they actually have sex with someone they just met or barely know I really only know 1 or 2 people that sleep around a lot (and I was in a sorority in college so I know a lot of girls). I think I know a lot of people that are interested in a guy and flirting and making out and maybe fooling around a bit but no one who's really sleeping with anyone with a penis and a pulse. Even with the guys I know I don't think most of them sleep around a lot, but that's just speculation, I don't really talk to my guy friends about that whereas with my girlfriends we pretty much tell each other everything. So what do you think? Are tons of people really having tons of sex with tons of people or does it just seem that way.
It just seems that way, most people aren't having as much sex as we think
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Nope, everyone is having tons "no strings attached" sex
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It's an even split between who's sleeping around and who's not
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Tbh, it certainly seems most are sleeping around like weak willed sluts. If you take that negatively, whatever. But as far as it is to me you are weak. Weak to not aspire towards something greater than "just sex", weak to not achieve what makes us human, overcoming and controlling natural urges for something more, and a slut because by pure definition of the word, if you're having casual sex, you're a slut. Guy or a girl, still a slut.

    Imo, more need to really show they are strong and hold off if they can't find the right person. Ya, sex is nice, but it's only really great with someone you love and care for who loves and cares for you. Those who honestly seem OK with screwing around seem really weak. Most of them, from my experience and research, are very very scared of actually getting involved with someone. And many of them seem to come from homes where the parents had troubles and broke up or most of the relationships around them have ended and so it imprinted on them that relationships will only end in pain cause that's all they've seen. They can deny it all they want, but it's pretty damn clear.

    I personally never ever want to ever deal with any woman as more than friends who has slept around casually. I have my integrity to maintain after all. Might be rare these days among most, but ya...

    • I swear you just restored my hope in humanity. Thank you for this answer. People are so disgusting these days.. the world is so twisted because now when someone talks about morals and shows that they don't believe in sleeping around and all, they get attacked by everyone because basically everyone is doing it. It's so messed up. I hope you have kids some day and teach them your ways. The world really needs more people like you. 💖

  • I think about it as the 20/80 rule. 20% of people do 80% of the activity.

    Most people don't sleep around, but some people do. Most people want to be in a lasting relationship.

    You're around the college age, so you'll probably meet some people who are that type of people, but those types of people go out all the time to pick up others. People who just want sex will be more up front about sex than those who want relationships.

    We are told by TV, magazines, movies, video games, books, etc. that everyone is sleeping around and that it's the normal thing to do. Usually in shows the people who sleep around are known for sleeping around, so when they aren't sleeping around, it's considered weird. There are a lot of sexual jokes that can be made about people who sleep around a lot, which is why they are in so much entertainment.

    • Really wished I saw that as a red flag earlier on as the girl who was hitting on me at work made it clear she wanted more than a friendship and so I assumed if she wanted that she’d go through a relationship first so we can get to know eachother like normal human beings but in the end i dont blame myself for what I experienced.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I suppose it depends on what you define sleeping around.

    Some people would say I do - and some people would say I don't. It's a hard thing to judge what constitutes having sex with people you're not in a relationship with - sleeping with tons of people.

    But yeah I myself have, on some occasions, 'no-string' sex.

    And I know a lot of people who do - or have done at some point.

    But definitely in some circumstances it seems people seem to be sleeping with more people, or more often, than they actually are.

    But essentially - a few people sleep around all the time, with lots of different people - have one night stands - very often.

    Quite a lot of people have casual - or semi-casual encounters with people they aren't officially dating with the same, or some of the same person/people - on a kind of regular basis. Or will have one night stands but not all the time.

    And some people will never or have never - involved themselves with casual sex.

    But I think what it boils down to is what the value of sex is to the individual.

  • It's kinda a bell curve, from what I know...at least for girls.

    A few people sleep around a ton.

    The majority of people have a few casual experiences, or else semi-regular sex with the same person that they aren't necessarily in a relationship with.

    A few people have never had any casual sex.

  • i actually know a few girls that do sleep around for the fun of sleeping around. it's a new guy every night and their totals are around 30 guys (they're in their early twenties)

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  • Unfortunately the sex revolution hasn't done girls any favours, its become a fact of life, so GiRLS put up or shut up . . .

    • So true, it's really sad

  • Not really, A lot of people are single and they are all moaning.

    And about the one night stand stuff, guys are always up for sex, but I seen seriously humiliating stuff happen to girls. I advice girls to skip it although its not in favour of guys but I'm not really worried so :)

  • Most guys are just trying to impress girls with stories of many women. Aside from sex for money, and there certainly is a lot of that going on and not just professional ? women, a lot of women sleep with the bosses or with guys who spend a lot of money on them on a date...

    Aside from those categories, no, I don't think many people sleep around much at all int he era of AIDS.

  • I am a lot while I'm young. I'll settle down eventually but it'll have to be an open marriage.

  • In my experiance they don't exacactly abstain

  • I've discovered that casual sex is rampant... it's really disheartening

  • I voted A. I think it just seems that way because the minority that do sleep around tend to be very vocal about it.

  • A lot of people are.

    • Sex is good. Right

  • sheep. you're a sheep. you did something because you thought everyone else did it

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