He fingered me to orgasm, and now I'm embarassed about it.. How stupid am I being?!

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It's right there in the question, I know I'm being stupid but it doesn't change the way I feel.On two occasions now my boyfriend (see, we're together, I shouldn't be embarrassed!) has made me orgasm by fingering.. He seems to like leaning back and watching me.I pull him closer and kiss him as much as I can because I'm worried of making a fool of myself.My reactions are generally heavy breathing and moaning relatively quietly I suppose. But at the same time running through my head is; is this the reaction he's expecting?We work together as well, and at work, in the staff room with all our colleagues and stuff I just keep thinking about how he's seen me like that/naked.Anyone else felt like this? Should I say something?Any ideas how to get over it?Or just any comments welcome really..

sa230e · Accepted Answer

We're you scolded, humiliated or shamed as a kid regarding sexual things? Was it a taboo in your house? We're you made to feel bad about your body? We're you given the "good girls don't" talk? If so, this whole incident may be dredging up old feelings from the past.

Blaming yourself and calling yourself stupid is just going to make it even worse. What ever you feel, it's OK to feel it. There's always a reason for it. The reason may be obsolete or impertinent to the situation but there is a reason. You are not stupid. Your emotions don't have to make sense. You're not responsible for them, only your actions. You're not always going to feel how you want to feel.

Don't suppress your feelings but don't wallow in them either. Acknowledge how you feel but try not to pass judgement. Just think "hmmm I'm feeling embarrassed, funny that". Give yourself permission to feel it, maybe go over in your head once and affirm to yourself why there's nothing logically wrong with it, but let it be and it will eventually pass. If you dwell on it, it will stay with you.

CuriousEddie · Accepted Answer

What are you embarrassed about?  Guys love to watch their girlfriends have an orgasm, and it makes them feel good to be able to pleasure her.

saucybitch · Accepted Answer

You were probably nervous when you learned to ride a bike, too right? Bike riding and sex and roller coasters and a lot of things are fun. No need to feel embarrassed but if you do, and you obviously do, best to talk about it... With him.

Couple of suggestions: worry less about what is expected of you and focus on life instead. What would you prefer and etc.

Sex related suggestions: masturbate more. Be thankful that your partner knows how to bring you to orgasm and cares to. Try the old fingering to orgasm thing laying on your stomach. You'll feel a little less exposed, and free to moan and wiggle as his hand inspires you, and he'll be free to "enjoy the show". But whatever you end up playing naked, it's just like anything in life, practice makes perfect. And always play safe :)

sceneofthecrime · Accepted Answer

I had the same  problem with my boyfriend too. I was(am) really inexperienced and I was worried about what I look like, what noises I make etc. He noticed I was feeling uncomfortable and we talked. You really don't have to worry about it though. There are girls out there that squeal like pigs when they come (true story) and their boyfriends still like it ;)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Aww! Don't be embarrassed. I've felt that way in the past, but the more we did stuff together, the more I got over it.  I also masturbate myself all the time so I'm used to having orgasms. I think being comfortable with that is really important too.

manora007 · Answer

you are not stupid.  enjoy yourself

sunseeker11 · Answer

that is awesum to have your partner masturbate you to orgasm, most people don't let them do that or show them how they like it, That is Great you climax by him fingering you and you should let him and do that to each other, you are so far ahead of a lot of people  Kudos to you both

-Darling · Answer

He probably feels like a king now, you should feel like the queen ^.^

thoronmegil · Answer

You should be happy. He sounds like me - the biggest turn on is my partner's pleasure.

G_GTom · Answer

Would you feel better if he fingered you and didn't orgasm?

Mark987 · Answer

Why? you should be proud

wob357 · Answer

One of the hottest things is to see a woman REALLY enjoying herself during climax. That and the fact that he HAS the talent to bring you to climax should be all that you need. Lay back and enjoy ! I'll bet he is.