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Can a girl ever give such bad head that it makes a guy go soft?

The other day I went down on my boyfriend after we had been fooling around for a while. He was hard at this point so I started giving him head, but after a while my jaw was killing me so he asked if I wanted him to get a condom. I said yes, but by the time he put on the condom he wasn't hard anymore. This was only my third time ever giving head. Both other times he came and everything was fine, but this time I felt like I was doing horrible. The last two times I could tell he was enjoying it but this time it felt like he didn't like it at all. I'm wondering if the reason he went soft was because of me giving bad head? He said it wasn't me (I asked him), but I don't really believe it. I mean what else could it have been? So guys, have you ever had a girl give you such a bad blow job that it made you go soft? What was so bad about it? And for girls, how can I make my jaw not hurt so bad? It was killing me! I had to keep stopping for a second to rest it haha Thanks for your answers!
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  • Hey, well... yep, it was your fault, and yes - it can be that bad. Here are a few tips, and the go check this out -->
    where you'll figure out what to do if you get tired.

    1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

    2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

    3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

    4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

    5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

    6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

    7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

    8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

    9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone.

    10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

    Have fun,

    Jack

    • Amazing!!!

  • Unless you're biting him or hurting him, there's no such thing as bad head. It sounds like it wasn't the head that made him soft because it doesn't sound like he went soft during the blowjob. If he went soft in between the time you stopped and he got the condom out, it was probably just lack of stimulation. Not every guy can keep it up without stimulation for very long unless he's really turned on. Alternatively it could be that he'd already orgasmed once or twice that day in which case any more erections would be strained and hard to keep up.

    Secondly I will say that a woman who keeps stopping to rest in the middle of a blowjob can be a little frustrating, especially when the stimulation isn't constant enough to maintain arousal, but any decent guy isn't going to complain about it and that doesn't make it "bad". They're not going to expect you to unhinge your jaw or anything.

    To summarize, the problem was not you, I can just about guarantee it. If it was you he likely would have said something during the blowjob. He'd have told you you're hurting him or asked you to do something different or he'd have tried to stop you sooner or something. In my experience there is no bad head. As long as there's something soft, warm, and wet moving on a guy's penis that's really all it takes. More experienced persons might be BETTER at it, but it can never really be bad unless you're hurting him somehow.

    • Sounds like you have it together !

Most Helpful Girls

  • That happens with my boyfriend sometimes too. I'm the best blow job giver ever so I know it isn't that. I knocked my jaw out of alignment because I give him blow j's so often and for so long. So when I stop, I rest and he gets soft pretty fast. It doesn't mean you did bad, guys can go soft really fast especially if they aren't super horny yet. I guess the only way to make your jaw not hurt so bad is to rest every now and then and give him a hand job while you're resting. I was in a car accident and hit my steering wheel so I was going to the chiropractor for about 2 months. About a month after my jaw was hurting badly when I went in one morning. I asked the chiropractor about it and he realigned it because he said it was out of alignment and I asked if it was the accident and he said probably but he didn't know that I give hard cord blow jobs and because it was an entire month after the accident, I wasn't convinced it was from that. But the chiropractor CAN adjust your jaw so if it hurts for any length of time after you give a blow job, think about having it re aligned.

  • coming from a giving head expert lol

    it sounds as if he has a problem with keepin it up

    do to the fact that most guys get stiff wit just the idea of gettin head

    i dont think it was you unless you bit it lol did you?

    some guys have to concentrate very hard about sex or they will go soft

    most likely he just couldnt get his thoughts together

    calm down mama it wasnt you

  • What I do to rest my jaw it use my hand. But not for too long because my boyfriend said it feels better when my mouth is on it. Just jerk it off with your hand for a few seconds to give your jaw a rest :)

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  • If it was okay the other times then I'm sure its NOT you.

    Maybe there was something bugging him like work or what ever.

    But its diffenately not you especially if you have done it before.

  • It's not you. Believe me it's warm,it's moist & it's soft. What's there not to like?

    There could be a lot of reasons that he went soft.

    Put yourself at the END of the list,

  • That can happen to a guy real easy, and no fault of yours or his actually. His mind wanders for a moment and stiffy is gone, but you should be able to bring it back to attention very quickly

  • Probably he was drunk that time?U must gv him HJ instead..

  • don't worry about he was probably nervous its really not your fault and he prob feels a bit weird about it too. It doesn't matter if you were the best one out there you just need to make him feel comfortable

  • teeth scraping, that would be a bad one.

    And oh, there are plenty of other reasons, it wasn't necessarily you.

    • Yeah teeth scraping would have probably done it haha but I know that wasn't happening. It happened once the first time but I make sure it doesn't happen

  • nope. it sounds like he's the one with erection issues. was he drunk or something?

    the only time something like tat happened to me was when I was very, very drunk and exhausted..like I almost passed out lol

  • Don't open your mouth so wide, and you're jaw won't hurt so much.

  • OK I'm A Guy But Girls Have Told Me What Made There Jaw Hurt Badly, N Said Like Stop Suckin Like Yur Sucking A Straw N It Didn't Hurt After Like 15Mins.

  • yes, its happened to me... while it was in her mouth. she just had no emotion and it sucked. also if the guys good enough he can kinda override the "good feelings" and force himself to go soft. I've done that once.. jsut to see if I could.

    ive been hard and my girlfriend has stopped to go get something and come back and by the time she gets back in soft. now its nothing she did infact its was amazing just if you think about it if you stop masterbating you go soft or lose the feeling right? that's all that happened so you guys stoped and he didn't keep it up that's all.

  • try alternating with ur hands and mouth some lol its works for me

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