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Can too much masturbation lead to an unsatisfying sex life?

I haven't had sex yet but I masturbate like a lot. But masturbation is getting boring now. Even p*rn gets boring these days. My imagination isn't as... Show More

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  • I just posted a question similar to this in the Sexuality category. Because I hadn't had sex in 11 months and I've been masturbating so frequently (once a day, sometimes twice if I'm bored) when I finally got my P inside a V on New Years Eve I was so used to the hard vigorous strokes of my hands my penis was practically numb inside her p**** and I ended up going flaccid in minutes. It was really embarrassing and she was self conscious it was her fault. My recommendation is cut back to once a week until you don't have to work so hard for it. Right now I'm going to hold off on masturbating for as long as possible and see what it feels like when I finally break.

What Girls Said 2

  • For guys maybe, can't say since I am female but for girls it is the opposite more masturbation means she is having a great sex life and very satisfied. Seems counter intuitive but it's just the way it is.

    • Whats the logic behind that?Playing with herself helps her educate herself to what works & feels good for her body- that can HELP her enjoy sex,... but I don't see how masturbating MEANS she has a good sex life.

    • There is no logic behind it. I know that when I am having a great sex life, I masturbate even more. I thought I was weird but then I read a study that said this is common in women. The better and more sex she has the more she masturbates.

  • YES! My boyfriend was single for about 8 years before we hooked up and he masturbated almost every day. When we got together he couldn't "finish" because he was only used to pleasuring himself. Plus his grip on his member was REALLY tight. Most women can't compete with that. So he had to stop masturbating for quite a while until he could "finish" with me. He was just too used to doing himself.

    • Masturbating daily is pretty normal. Guys who masturbate a lot are masturbating more like 20-30 times/week. However, his _technique_ could certainly have been causing problems.

    • 20-30 times... per week?!

What Guys Said 6

  • Depends how you do it.Stop the p*rn.Stop the fantasies.Be aware of yourself and your sensations.Learn your arousal better. Learn your responses. Learn to dry orgasm, control ejaculation, have multiple orgasms (its possible). Doing that will make you _better_.

  • not the masturbation , but the p*rn is affecting you . some scientific research show that watching too many p*rn causes a part of the brain to degenerate , wich result in less easy arousal , and that is why some p*rn addicts get to more extreme forms ( fetishes ) of sex to get aroused ...

  • Maybe. It's all in the balance, I guess? Too much will desensitise and bore you, but too little will end it too quickly when you do have sex.

    • i agree with you as well,.. got to have a balance to everything you know...

  • I'm having the same problem... but all of those years I had to go without a woman - what else could I have done?

  • I don't know how much you mean by you masturbate "a lot", but if it's excessive, maybe you should stop for like a week, even if you get "blue balls" and see how you feel then. Doesn't sound like you leave yourself alone long enough to form an answer on this. You may be bored in general if you are doing this a lot. No offence intended. So ease off and see where it takes you. Before you masturbate further google: jacking death grip. You may want to avoid that! If you are masturbating frequently your come levels are going to be lower - we've all been there. PS: I think a naked woman's body will turn on any re-blooded male, your hand sucks in this area LOL.

    • you can't get blue balls , that's a myth XD the body get's rid of it by itself , mostly by denaturation of the proteins

    • LOL - not sure what your definition of blue balls is rockingpianoman, but I don't think we're talking about the same thing. Blue balls is a slang term for the condition of temporary fluid congestion (vasocongestion) in the testicles and prostate region, accompanied by acute testicular pain, caused by prolonged and unsatisfied sexual arousal in the human male NOTHING to do with semen.

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