Is it OK to use condoms if you're married?

[Anonymous]

A lot of married couples decide that since their married, there's no need to use condoms anymore if they use to use them before getting hitched. Like once their married if they get pregnant then that's that but I don't want to have kids any time soon. (In my early 20's & engaged) I just feel like just because your married doesn't mean that you should just stop everything and focus on a having a family right away. Well at least not for me, I want to enjoy my husband and my married life once I have it. For a good while, then kids will come later waaay later lol. But its like some people (family & friends) feel like once I'm married I shouldn't be using condoms. Like if I'm doing something wrong by wanting to use them. I'm just not ready for babies and all of that responsibility that comes with having kids. So would be OK if I still use condoms being married? or is there some kind of marriage code against them? lol

[selfishstars]

It's totally okay to use condoms even if you're married. You and your partner can use whatever form of birth control you want.

There are lots of married couples who don't want children right away (they want to wait until they're older or more financially stable, they want to enjoy their married life as a couple for awhile before bringing children into the picture, etc.), and there are married couples who don't want children at all. If you don't want children, or just don't want children at the moment, you should use birth control, regardless of it you're married or not. That might mean using condoms, the pill, an IUD, or some other form of birth control.

[Aries11w]

Of course it is still OK to use protection when you are married. Just because your married it doesn't mean your automatically ready for children.

You sound very sensible to me and if you feel it's too soon for children then you be responsible and protect yourself. Ideally you should make the conscious decision to bring a child into the world not 'just see'.

Emjjoyimg your husband and married life sounds good to me, especially if your In your early 20s.

If you don't feel right using condoms, you could try the rod?

[Asker]

true, true and true...and the rod? ha ha sorry I may be late but once again...the rod? lol

[TwiceTru]

Do not listen to the NFP guy...it only works to an extent but it fails quite often. Better off using a form of Birth Control, but if you don't want to use that I'd definitely use condoms. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. And besides...who's going to know if you use them or not anyway other than you and your husband? ;)

[Asker]

lol true. ha ha the NFP guy xD ...thanks twice.

[bioweapon154]

I see no problem with using condoms in this circumstance. There is nothing wrong with wanting to protect yourself for a bit and enjoy your married life without having to give birth at a rather young age. There is no rules of I'm aware where people aren't allowed to use them. So you got for it girl!

[Asker]

thanks bunches bio =)

[bioweapon154]

You are most welcome. Congrats on getting hitched btw!

[Asker]

thanks! =P

[BCRanger10]

You would be better off using natural family planning. I talk about it briefly in my new article. NFP requires communication and knowledge of your cycles, so you plan your sex around that. Couples who use NFP have significantly lower divorce rates and have generally happier marriages.

[Asker]

oh OK, that makes sense. but sometimes you can't plan sex, it just happens lol.

[BCRanger10]

I'm waiting for marriage, so...no comment? ;)

[l-hedoniste]

Do you want to be pregnant? No? Then do something about it.

P.S.: If they're not raising your children, then your birth control is none of their business. Feel free to explain this to people--LOUDLY.

[musicbrain5]

Well, there's nothing wrong with using condoms when you're married. But I think getting on birth control pills is a better option - they're more effective at preventing pregnancy.

[Asker]

Oh OK, but I'd have to research on the right kind of pill for me.

[gonyr]

B.C and I don't mean boston college

[CuriousEddie]

Why would you not switch to the Pill?

[rachel05]

im a big fan of nat. fam. planning from where I come from and how I'm raised... condoms are not considered a "good path" to go putting it gently.. most everyone I know uses nfp and are big fans of it..

[xReady4Answersx]

Yes. It's your marriage. Do what you feel. Forget what society says

[melaniedp]

no, haha! of course it is

[nickAB]

Whats the point feels better for bith without.. we stopped even before getting married.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you. I don't want to have kids until I feel ready to and depending how fast you get married you may need more time to just adjust to living together and your new life, I think it is healthier to adapt to that before bringing kids into the mix.

Why is it anybody's business about condoms though? Holy sh*t, it's a personal thing for gods sakes. There is no "marriage code", what people do in their marital beds is a quiet hush hush personal thing I am sure there are plenty of couples using condoms, though I feel like I would prefer the pill or something, more intimate and pleasurable than a condom.

[Asker]

haha that's what I said to my "peeps" but their stuck on the whole what will happen will happen type of deal with the no protection just go with the babies flow of things. But I don't want to jump in to kids so quick. I'm not ready.

[Opinion Owner]

It isn't their business. You know, maybe if people f***ed around less they would realize that

[Anonymous]

It's great to use condoms when you're married. Why should you risk getting pregnant if you're not quite ready for having kids? You're doing your future kids a favor by using them until you are ready to be the best parent you can be.

[Asker]

Aww thanks =)