Having cerebral palsy first time having sex... What do I do?

Ok so I have cerebral palsy and it's spastic diplegia and I'm about to start dating this guy and I know we're going to have sex and I'm scared because he has lots of experience and I have none and I'm not the most flexible person alive so I don't know I don't want to look dumb or not make him happy you know?

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  • Echoing the other answerers, relax, have fun, don't expect everything to work perfectly, because it never does, and just enjoy it. If something isn't working, giggle about it and try something else. Don't freeze up or make a big deal about it, because he won't mind; he's HAVING SEX, so he's not going to be complaining.Sure, you may have some limitations, but do the best you can, and make having an enjoyable experience your priority. Don't have a lot of huge, high expectations that you (or he) can't hope to live up to, or you'll worry yourself to death and won't have fun. And that would suck.

What Guys Said 2

  • he may have lots of experience, but unless he's slept with lots of girls with cerebral palsy, its going to be a learning experience for both of you!I'm sure he'll be able to have a good time, and hopefully you will too. Keep communication up, have fun, experiment, and be ready to laugh if things don't go smoothly.

  • Just be comfortable with yourself and don't worry if things don't work out in some positions. Sex should be fun so laugh when things get interesting and don't apologize if you can't do certain things. If he's dating you knowing you have cerebral palsy he already knows what he's getting into and that's hopefully your pants. The most important thing you can do is enjoy yourself and let him know it. It's very gratifying for men knowing they're bringing a woman they care for pleasure. Also, don't feel obligated to give him oral or hand jobs. He won't be expecting anything amazing, just that you'll both have fun and enjoy the experience.

What Girls Said 1

  • dont worry. its your first time so just relax; some positions may work while others won't and things may not go as plan, but you will still have fun. I think he is just as nervious as you too. he won't be expecting much, and he probably knows you hv cerebral palsy and that you lack experience so he won't expect you to be an acrobat like really flexible and like that

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