Is it weird that I want to lose my virginity specifically to a white guy ?

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i don't discriminate and if the person I fall for isn't white that's fine.but the mindset I have right now is for him to be white, its my preference. my friend says it's stupid, wrong, and RACIST ? O_o but like I said if I fall for someone whos not white it'll be fine. its just when I imagine it or think about it he is definitely white :)do you agree with my friend ? or is this okay ?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

lol yeah! I don't know why you want to do that, a lot of guys have racist, prejudice ways of viewing other ethnicities and white people are probably most common to make race jokes. Get a group of drunk white guys together and I wouldn't doubt at least one of them will make some disgustingly ignorant racist joke or comment.

To be honest, you sound like another one of those people who's throwing around the word preference when in reality, what you're doing is borderline discrimination. To discriminate is to SEPARATE. That's what you're doing. There's a difference between having a preference (one of the most overused words these days) and separating one group of people from getting the chance to do something with you. I may have a preference for Latino men, but just because I prefer their features doesn't mean I separate black guys, Asian guys, or white guys from my dating possibilities. I don't think you're racist. I think you're immature and misguided.

pr3ttybr0wn · Accepted Answer

The reasons behind you wanting a white guy specifically is probably the issue. If you are not white, then why isn't a guy of your own race good enough to have your virginity? What makes the white guy so much better that you dream of losing it to him?  Would you be happy to have sex with any guy just as long as he's white? How important is whiteness to you? I don't know people say "preferences" but to me it's just a copout. It's not a mere coincidence that you prefer white, in a society that is dominated by whites and subconsciously enforces their superiority in society.

Freetobe007 · Accepted Answer

I think it's very self limiting and doesn't make much sense.

There are so many beautiful mixtures of physical features to be attracted to...why does it just have to be white men? You'd rather have a white guy who just wants to get in your pants take your virginity than have a black guy or an Asian guy or a mixed guy who truly appreciates you, loves you, and won't give up on you and actually DESERVES to be your first? Sorry, but that's just plain dumb.

risktaker · Accepted Answer

You answered your own question. "When I imagine it or think about it he is definitely white." White guys are who you're attracted too. I'm white, and I've never been attracted to a black woman. Only on tv. It's a preference thing and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Sounds like your friend likes black guys, and that's fine too. You are not like her. and that's ok.

Brisco · Accepted Answer

depends are you white or latin or african American? usually you always think to lose it to a person in the same race as you but things don't always happen it doesn't make you racist at all for wanting to lose your virginity to a white guy. usually what ever race your more attracted to you think about losing it to :). if your friends like other types let them be. haha

iPood · Answer

it's totally fine. I find I am only attracted to white guys. Some may call that racist but it is what it is. I'm not going to date or have sex with someone who I'm not attracted to.