Why am I "racist" because I am black and prefer to date white men? and I'm not a "self hater"

[Lucky1227]

OK so I was reading a question by a girl who said she only wants to lose her virginity to a white guy, well I'm black and I only date white men.. That's just my preference I never thought it was a big deal I just haven't met a black guy who I was attracted to, I hate how they approach me and I don't know I just don't feel attracted to them like I would never have sex with them you know? I don't think I'm a self hater because I like black people I just don't date them. I hope that I will end up in a long term relationship with a white guy also because I want beautiful biracial children. I know it seems like a dumb reason but I mean you can't help who you like right? Secondly are white guys attracted to light skinned black girls more?

[Prescribed_By_Me]

hmmm... uhm I have only ever dated whites and Hispanics, but I mean when I date someone...its not really planned it just kind of happens. I have never dated inside my race not because I don't want too...i just haven't found a guy in my own race that I find attractive physically and mentally (personality wise). I love dating outside of my race...I never really say well I'm going to find a black guy to date this year...if it happens it happens.

I don't think your a self-hater or racist against your own race..You just simply are not sexually attracted to your own race...but yeah um... your explanation on why you want to end up in a long-term relationship with a white guy...sucks lol.

Every one does think differently though...and I hope if you do have biracial children they do not come out ugly...you would probably have a fit.

Good luck

Tami

[angelwithin]

I'm Indian and I don't hate other Indians .. I just don't date them. I have friends who are ..but that's all we are friends (I don't keep much with them though.. it's just weird). See Indians are very cultural .. but I was brought up here.. in America ..where 90% of my friends were white or mexican and only some were other. I don't date blacks either.. my personality is more quiet where as the one's I've usually met are very very loud, so it clashes. I only have one black guy friend who's really close to me and we keep in touch. So, no it's not weird.. because just like you.. I don't hate them, I just don't date them. I prefer white boys or latino boys (latinos are usually close to their families, so they're more respectful than other races these days.. which I find amazing since I'm respectful myself). I hope this helped!

[saltycheeks]

...you're discriminating based on race. That's racist.

by saying you aren't attracted to them you're saying their looks are inferior to other races simply because they are black... again, that's racist.

seeing as you are also black... that's where the self hate part comes in.

And no you can't help who you like but I highly, highly, highly doubt there is not one black person on this planet you are attracted to.

Ok yes mixed babies are adorable but the fact that you would never date a person of your race because you don't want a fully black baby is basically saying black babies aren't as good as mixed ones. Again, racist.

I'm not hating on you for having a preference. It's just the fact that you rule out any black guys just for being black that has me bothered

[afrohombre1]

Don't be bothered, her preferences are her own.

[saltycheeks]

lol its not ruining my life or anything but when reading this, the feeling I got was bothered... she can like who ever she wants, I'm not losing any sleep

[bindinumoveryeah]

#1 - Maybe you just don't like the particular black guys that YOU KNOW. I would never rule out anybody based on skin color, or you will just limit the potential happiness you have in your life. My bet though is that you're not, you just don't like their behavior towards you. Things will change as you get older... but you never know.. maybe you just like white guys. There's nothing wrong with that. There's black guys that say they only like white women.

#2 - It depends on the girl. Skin tone isn't all THAT important. I've dated 2nd generation African girls and light-skinned girls (I'm white). Everybody is different with different personalities. I enjoyed spending time with all of them.

Best of luck!

[TedStar]

i'm all for getting with a person that makes me happy, regardless of her race. No race barrier means more women to select from and you really get to learn and understand different cultures.

if you were to find a man who met and exceeded all your standards/criteria you look for except the color of his skin which was black, would you still date them. If yes, you aren't racist. If no then maybe you need to re-assess what you want in a partner, a good person or a person who had the right skin color but lacked the rest.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

It's not racist but logically thinking it's just odd when people are not attracted to their race. not to attack you or any thing. Men & women of the same race have the most in common physically, right? So when someone isn't attracted to people of their race at all, it's like well why not? If you can think that you're pretty then why not a guy of your race?

[afrohombre1]

I think you are self hater, you are black and you don't want your kids to look like you, is that not an example of some sort of discontent with your appearance. Date what you like, but thinking your kids needs to be biracial to be beautiful is self hate, I know you didn't say that, but that's how I interpreted. There's nothing wrong with dating white guys, but you have to love who you are regardless of who you date. Good luck to you.

[Lucky1227]

I mean biracial people are beautiful like all of them so why would I not want to have beautiful kids

[afrohombre1]

I'm biracial and I have met other biracial people that I don't consider attractive. Many are attractive but not all are, but I get where you are coming from.

[l-hedoniste]

Have your preference, f*ck the haters. It's none of their business.

[afrohombre1]

Is giving a opinion hating? I'm a biracial person and don't mind biracial dating, but if I didn't agree with it, will that make me a hater?

[l-hedoniste]

No. What would make you a hater is calling someone racist for having a preference. Have any opinion you wish, but the fact remains: my preferences are no one's business, and only haters make it theirs.

[afrohombre1]

If someone thinks a person is racist for having a preference, it's their opininon, I personally believe it's a ignorant opininon though. She asked a question here, so she kind of made it GAG members business when she asked for their opininons.

[l-hedoniste]

"I personally believe it's a ignorant opininon though..." = hater, at least in my mind. I cannot respect someone who chooses to combine ignorance with hostility--the worst kind of jackass, and, ironically, the loudest.

[EngineeringStudent]

Racial preferences =/= racism. Self hate can be a factor in some cases, but certainly not all. Simple answer: Date whoever you like.

[DirtyMind90]

I'm a white guy and I love black girls light or dark and I under stand I'm the same I mean I like white people just I mean I like some white girls but find black girls so much hotter

[cleako]

Because people are over sensitive and play the racist card all too often. I'd be surprised of any of them actually new what racism truly meant.

[dIO_oIb]

I don't think that makes you racist.

[litlaprincess]

That does not make you racist.

[G_GTom]

This is no different than a white woman who wants to date black men. People may be turned off by your preference and that's their business, but it does not make you a racist.

[Saber6]

im not white or black but isn't 'combined' kids the end of racism?

[cleako]

Not when there are still people of purely one race.

[mormollio]

Not really. When people started moving to America, indentured servants fornicating with slaves was a big issue. They were makin' all kinds of mixed babies, then plantation owners started doing it too, so they wouldn't have to buy more slaves. Long story short they were still racist as hell. Also those kids can pick a side too. The kid can choose to hate their white or black, not to say that all mixed kids do this.

[Saber6]

yeah you're kinda right but, "race" something that will die out soon.

[Saber6]

ask you a question mormollio? what if you have black white parents but the child looks black, can he she claim to white? just asking?

[mormollio]

They can and have, the only issue is people don't want to believe/acknowledge it. If it was my kid I'd prefer they embrace both sides.

[Saber6]

thanks mormolli

[ElPapi]

You like what you like. F uck what other people think.

[CandyCoated123]

damn straight

[babyface17]

im black I date both if you don't like black boys then that's you maybe because white boys are real sweet and nice it is true emo boys are cute too...

[Anonymous]

i don't think you are racist or a self hater at all. I'm white and I wouldn't date a black chick. I'm not racist, I just don't think they are attractive.

[Lucky1227]

I bet you would think I'm pretty

[Opinion Owner]

haha so no black guys are attractive, but black girls are? I don't know about that

[Lucky1227]

Well I know most of the white guys I have gone out with have never dated black girls but they gave me a chance

[Opinion Owner]

i mean if you are absolutely, undeniably gorgeous like kerri hilson or beyonce, then ya I probably would. but same goes for black guys I think...like tyson beckford or someone like that

[Lucky1227]

Agree