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Did anyone wait until marriage and regret it?

One of the biggest arguments for having sex before marriage is that you might be committing yourself to 40+ years of bad sex. But I've never met anyone who waited until marriage then regretted it because their partner was bad at sex. Did anyone on here experience this first-hand? I don't want to hear anything like "my friend waited and he regretted it... etc etc". Only answer if YOU have the experience.
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please just don't answer if you weren't a virgin who waited until marriage. I don't want people to start arguing about whether it's good or bad to wait. I'm just looking for hard information. Thanks.
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  • my mom waited until she was 30 and says she regrets it and that sex wasn't good.. it actually took her one year and up to orgasm and for sex to feel good. my aunt waited until she was 48 to lose their virginity personally I think if you wait to do anything for marriage than both people don't really know how to please each other or know anything about each others bodies but at the same time they can learn and experiment together and learn together. I think its a 50/50 chance if they will click sexually but its all preference and choice. my friend also got married at 22 (shes now 28) and her sex life was horrible. they both waited for marriage and after 5 years of marriage she ended up cheating with several men, getting a divorce and is now pregnant but doesn't know who the father is. I'm a virgin so I can't give you my experince but I can give you others

    • I would never wait personally...if my woman wanted to wait? There was one on here a few weeks ago that impressed me...I guess I would discuss my sexual wants & needs to make sure that there wouldn't be a problem and that wouldn't be easy with someone you weren't having sex with...the tricky one is always "giving oral" because there are a small percentage of females that don't like the way it feels and how do you know that until you have tried it?

  • My older brother waited for marriage to have sex and his twit wife along with a list of insecurities decided she didn't like it and only when he forced her would she partake in it. Two years of that along with her other problems and he luckly was able to divorce and get rid of her long before a baby arrived and would have complicated everything. He is now happliy single and pretty much enjoying life with various holes to soak his penis in.

  • My husband and me waited. Sex was horrible the first few times (we both were virgins) but then...you start learning what you like and what he likes. Now we are experts lol and fully happy! It may be a really bad idea to reject someone just beacause sex didn't work the first time or accept him because it did work. I wouldn't postpone sex but wouldn't decide whether to marry or not based on the first sex experiences.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I only had sex with my wife, though we had sex before marriage.

    I regret it. I wouldn't say my partner is 'bad at sex'. But she has attitudes around sex that negatively impact our sex life. Those attitudes were not obvious to me because I didn't have anything else to compare to. Over the years the impact from them got worse.

    Though you asked for our experience, I know other people who encountered similar things.

    It was never about technique. Always about how they viewed sex, its importance, what was reasonable, how to handle mismatched libidos, whether sex was a 'duty' or something they both wanted, etc.

    Basically a lack of other sexual relationships left me unable to see red flags that were there.

  • waiting until marriage is a crazy idea, your going to be pumped full of hormones and without a release, which will make you so unapproachable, your not only going to be a 40 year old virgin, but a single one to, so its essential you learn life skills while young, but this does not mean sleep around and become a slut, but just have serious relationships and enjoy the sex, because one day, you will meet the right person, but your going to have to know how to treat them, and although a virgin is special to a guy, a woman without life experience, can become high maintenance , which can become a bit to much, good luck,x

    • Didn't say I was a virgin, and this is not the answer I asked for.

    • I wasn't saying you were, it was meant to be something you may be able to use to get the answers you seek, because realisticly, you can't really answer your question, because who actually waits till marriage, and if your not a virgin, then why are you waiting until marriage, your question is flawed, sorry for the upsetting response, I don't know anyone who would wait so, suppose its a religios jargen that's preached in church,x

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  • Its a choice and a lifestyle decision. I would wait till marriage because it is something special two people can share. It shows true love and committment if you can hold out till marriage.

  • people are very sexual, and its a part of personalitiy. so that would really suck if you just happened to not 'click' sexually

  • How would they know their partner was "bad" at sex, if they never had good sex to compare it with?

    All they would know is that they'd come out of it with the attitude "Huh, that's sex? I can't see what the big deal is."

    And frankly, you CAN find people like that. It's not hard.

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