If it's just a new guy and you have done it before, it's not so bad, it's just a matter of getting to know his body.
If you've never done it before, it can feel a bit awkward, but that's just because you feel timid due to never doing it before :P The first time I gave a handjob, I honestly just held/touched his penis for a long time before I even started the actual "jerking off" or whatever you'd like to call it. Then it dawned on me that I had no idea how fast or hard to go haha, so I simply asked him as we went along.
Either way, it's not so bad :) If it IS awkward, it's only a temporary feeling.
haha OK, I just don't want him to know I've never done it! :/
Why not? Is this a casual hook-up or is he your boyfriend?
ya pretty much, but we aren't completely comfortable with each other yet.. at least I think so. may be differant for him. but he asked me once how far I went after he fingered me and I said this far but didn't exactly mean it by doing handjob or blowjobs! :S oops lol
Before I gave my boyfriend a hj for the first time, I did research. Just look online and there will be a ton of suggestions for technique and stuff. I had to literally swear that it was my first time for him to believe me after. I did the same for bjs before I did that. He's never complained about either and still makes comments about not being able to tell my lack of experience. So seriously, just do some research. It will give you lots of ideas and make you more confident about it.
Oh OK yea, I did so much research! But when I started doing it all research went out the window and I just did it! And hopefully he liked it, he came after like 15 min or so? Is that bad? Just wondering aha
Doesn't sound bad at all, and yeah going with the flow works well too. I'm sure it was fine and if it wasn't, he probably would have corrected you.
honestly, I've never gven a handjob. I knew I wouldn't be able to compete with the guy doing it himself so I skipped straight to a blowjob lol. I just feel like even the best handjob technique probably pales in comparison haha
really?! and how was doing that for the first time? I kind of afraid my teeth will get in the way or I will do it wrong.. or better yet, he won't fit in my mouth! aha because my mouth is small..
well I had been dating the guy for over a month, we did a lot of making out, he fingered me first and was totally hard by the time I got his pants off. I just kind of went for it lol. it was probably an awful blowjob. it took him nearly an hour to cum... but really the only way you will get better is with practice. there's nothing like it so it's difficult to prepare, but it's sexy and fun and definitely not as nervewracking once you've done it a few times.
also don't worry about fitting it all in your mouth. I usually wrap my hand around it and stroke it while I take a few inches in my mouth. I have a bad gag reflex so I was a little nervous about this, but once I get warmed up I move my hand farther down the shaft until it's like blocking off the max I feel comfortable taking in my mouth. that way even if he starts thrusting and stuff, it won't be more than I can handle. its better to not take as much in than risk scraping your teeth on it
If its your first one it's definitly noticeable because you're competing with the champ. Him. He's been using his hand for years and know just how he likes it.
Don't let that intimidate you, though. Just be vocal with him. Guys get really turned on when you ask them for directions and they get to tell you what to do. "Stroke it harder... now faster... use your thumb on my head" It's like having your own little sex doll that you can give instructions too.
well of course he isn't going to think I'm as good as himself doing it, but that doesn't neccessarily mean he can tell, does it?
He might not be able to tell it's your first time but every guy can tell you what a bad hand job feels like. Just communicate with him as you're doing it. Let him know you're open to input and don't afraid if you won't be amazing. You're touching his wiener so of course he's gonna like it.
use lube or lotion or something like that. because most girls don't know what theyre doing and will probably actually hurt the guy.
theres this KY lube, you get a two pack, or warming, and tingling. both should do well.
yea but when you are making out with a guy and happen to decide you want to give a hand job, that would make it even more awkward to whip out a bottle of lube you had because you "planned" on doing this.. you know what I mean?
well you did plan on it obviously lol listen, we're guys, we want to get a nut off with a girl. the fact that you planned it is actually kind of better because it means you are actually really into it. one time I was makin out with my girlfriend. werent naked but were down to the bare minimum. she stopped and told me to close my eyes, so I did. next thing I know I feel her rubbing in the warming lube. I wasn't expecting it, it was one of the best feelings ever. didn't finish to it though, we had sex after
i disagree with this -- I mean it isn't a bad idea to have lube but I agree for the first time it could be awkward. What would feel really good but you may not be comfortable doing it is to go down and use your saliva. It could get messy and you may not want to get that close yet but it feels way better than doing it dry.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I hate giving hand jobs. They are boring! Ya a guy can usually tell but all guys choose a blow job over a hand job any day.
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