Does rimming feel good and should I let my boyfriend do it?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is white and I'm his 1st black girlfriend. I'm curvy and shaped completely opposite from girls he dated. He fell in love with my butt and hips and he said would love to rim me. I pretended to know what it was then looked it up and when I found out what it was I said " Hell To Tha No!" He said I could orgasm and he said I'd like it. I'm disgusted by it and can't wrap my head around it. Guys why do you like to do it and girls how does it feel to you. Since he wants to do it so bad, should I let him?

[Anonymous]

I rim my girlfriend regularly. The first time I rimmed her, she came really hard. She was actually in disbelief that I was able to make her come that way.
When I asked how it felt, she said "surprisingly like a vaginal orgasm".

So if it's just like a vaginal orgasm, what's the big deal?

1) It's taboo. Most people won't even say "butthole", let alone put their mouth on one. This alone is worth trying it once.
2) Most women will need a break after coming from being gone down on. Not so with the butt. If you came once, there's 3 more in you, each more intense that the last.
3) If you boyfriend is asking to rim you, then he's way into it. This clearly isn't a casual request. It probably took some effort on his part to even bring it up. If he asked to do it, then chances are it's driving him insane with desire. I read a comment in another thread on this topic "people who like to give rimjobs love to do it". Remember that when he's got his face buried in your ass: he's turned on AF.

On the "gross" aspects:
Cleanliness is paramount, since otherwise... yeah. My girlfriend keeps some baby wipes handy so she can clean herself up on short notice.

In any case, there's a part of your brain that shuts off disgust when you're aroused, so your questions will matter less-and-less as things progress. Make sure you're aroused before you start. Have him spend some time just playing with your ass first, it'll get you both in the mood.

[PatrickUK]

Without doubt it's not for everybody but those that do do it absolutely love it. I had it done to me first by a Russian medical student - utterly fantastic and I came just from it alone - she was quite surprised LOL. I've come across a few girls who liked it and some who were grossed out by the concept. I'm currently the recipient of booty calls from an African girl and ALL she wants is to be rimmed and have her clit played with at the same time. She always cums very hard from it. It's just like vaginal oral in that there are different techniques and as a couple you just have to experiment. Done properly, it's a grade A experience.

As for the cleanliness thing, it's essential. Luckily a thorough shower before is more than adequate. In fact I've come across vaginas which were less hygenic than some bums.

PS There's too many 'what is it' questions not to explain: rimming is the licking of someone;s anus and perineum with a view to giving sexual pleasure to the lickee! [That's grossed out 50% of the readership right there.]

[Asker]

Wow.! No lie I thought it may be a culture thing until yuu said the girl yuu are messing with enjoys it. It some what makes me feel a liddow bit better about it. I can't lie it is gross, was jus looking for clarification and advice on it, and I got more than that from the answerers, including you so thanks

[ClariceOwen23]

I can kinda relate to the first few sentences lol. I'm black, my boyfriend is white and I'm curvy unlike other girls he's dated.

But to answer you question, yes I enjoy both rimming and being rimmed. If it's done the right way, it can be almost as good as receiving oral. But I like doing it to my boyfriend more. I love the way he moans when I do it to him.

[Anonymous]

Not exactly sure what "rimming" is - but I have experimented a lot - just need some clarification before I can give you an opinion...? Not up-to-date with all this sex lingo... Lol

[Asker]

I looked it up and its basically ass eating. LoL

[PatrickUK]

If you've experimented around, think of it as anal play but using a tongue not a finger.

[PatrickUK]

My last word on this thread - this is from the US expert (a woman!) on all things anal. Here's her discussion page link and this is her on Wkipedia link Good luck with whatever you do!

[PatrickUK]

Question following your update: now you've made your mind up, what are you going to do? The suspense is killing me and probably everyone else on this question thread!

[ncsquirll99]

okay well let me first say I know where you are coming from. to answer your question I would let him do it if he wants. BUT under a few conditions. For your sake I hear it feels really good and very different although I don't think you will exactly orgasm from it.. you might not like it but you'll never know if you don't try. Still, when I was asked I was more than willing but as I was with regular oral I only wanted to do it fresh out of the shower. So if you are going to do it I would recommend taking a shower together first and clean yourself well. If you don't like it then don't do it anymore. As long as you shower first it is perfectly clean.

[Asker]

Agreed because I'm big on hygiene. But I guess I jus have to contemplate it longer I guess to b honest I'm scared. But thanks

[ncsquirll99]

scared?! there isn't anything to be scared of. I mean just be clean and if you don't like it then ask him to stop. It might tickle a bit from what I hear. It is just on the outside - some people "probe" but most dont. I don't think he would do that.

[Asker]

Oh OK. I'm if I do at all get the nerve to let him when I do, I know I'm still gonna be scared but I'll try not to and probing!? people really do that!? Oh my! If I do let him I will b sure to tell him not to do that. That's just a whole nother thing!

[Asker]

excuse my typo

[northwestree]

It can feel very good. That is why people do it. Try letting him touch you gently there with his fingers first with some lube, sort of like as if he were rimming you. See if you like that.

You are more likely to enjoy it if you are sexually warmed up first, kiss, touch each other all over, have him give your p**** some attention.

Needless to say, being very clean is a must.

Like most of the rest of sexual possibilities this is not everyones cup of tea. For you it may great, so so or boring. Try it and find out.

[Asker]

I'm always let him taste my kat and he warms me up by it. I liked when he massages my cheeks and kisses and lick them but I guess I jus have to take that next step and see if I rather step back. There's gonna b a lot of contemplation on this tho LoL

[PatrickUK]

This is good advice (wish I'd said it first!)

[gonyr]

i know someone who did it with his girlfriend and they both apparently liked it. I don't think I ever would do it though

[Asker]

What's your reason why wouldn't do it. I'm certainly not an ass eater and I'm afraid of him asking me to do it LoL but I'm there with yuu on not wanting it.

[gonyr]

its the sh*t hole lol. its sole purpose is to sh*t out of. we're the only species to do anything sexual in that hole. think about that. with that said, I have put it in my gf's butt and thought it was awesome lol. I just never licked it.

[Asker]

That's exactly what I feel! I'm not even down with anal and when I asked him he said no to which I was relieved, but then he rather do that which puzzles me. On top of the nastyness , I'm afraid of losing control of my sphincters from anal but. I guess ill let him do it once and be done with it since I'm not losing anything here

[ncsquirll99]

that is NOT true answerer. We are NOT the only species to do anything sexual there. the bonobos have done it. There are animals in the wild that use it for anal sex. There are even reports about homosexual animals in the safari (my source was in a psychology class documenting sexual practices of humans and the biological predisposition towards various fetishes. -- I wish I could site the article and video)

[Asker]

Well I'm getting answers and and educational experience here. I can't beat that!

[gonyr]

woopty f***in doo buddy

[Gojira]

If you're squeaky fresh out of the bath back there let him do not then decide if you like it or not. If he wants to do it that bad then he's probably done it before and probable good at it.

[Mesonfielde]

You need to wash your butt beforehand.

[Radford]

WTF is RIMMING ;lol

[Asker]

Uthats what went through my mind when he asked Lmao

[TaureanBull81]

I absolutely lurve rimming a woman's butthole. It's so hot, kinky and very erotic. I've licked musky and clean buttholes on a woman as I find it a huge turn on ;-)

[Philyouup]

I dont know if you will orgasm by it, but it is heavenly.. Definitely a post shower activity. Since my girlfriend and i like anal, we usually clean up with an enema, so we know we are pretty clean.. you dont have to have an enema, we do it just so anal sex doesn't have any embarrassing surprises

[Anonymous]

do it. but I'd shower first. not just for his sake but enough so you can be secure about him getting all up in your business because the insecurity can be a turn off. I think you'll like it

[Asker]

Agreed! I will think it out. The showering ain't no issue to do like I've told everyone else, ill think about it

[Anonymous]

I doubt you'd orgasm from it alone unless you combine it with clit stimulation which could heighten the pleasure,

I know some girls like to be licked around the a**hole

Don't feel forced into it, if you want to do it then go ahead

I don't want to do it(rather kiss and lick the ass cheeks) but know that it is sort of common

[Asker]

Yeah he asks continuously because hw know he can wear me down LoL but I do have levels to my freaktivity. Idt I can pass that but I will consider what you guys are saying . It helps a lot.