Do Hot Girls/Women Lie about Past Sexual Encounters?

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I have heard from many people, mostly guys but also girls,that when a guy asks a girl how many guys she has had sexual encounters with she usually lies to not seem slutty.This question is not a debate about the word "slut" or anything just if hot girls lie about past sexual encounters.  Also not a debate about whether past sexual partners matters just a question about if hot girls lie.For example, my friend is seeing a gorgeous 23 year old girl; he is 24. She gets approached all the time from guys, has tons of guy friends, and is ultra flirtatious.She told him she has had 3 serious boyfriends and has slept with two other guys. Never a one night stand. She said she has made out with guys after parties in college a few times randomly but that's it. She says guys are all over definitely but she resists the advances. Is this probable or normal for a girl of this age? Don't girls have random sex after a breakup usually?I have seen this girl out though and she is very touchy feely and has a certain sexuality about her. She is a great girl and I can't figure her out. I want to think the best of her but she reminds me of several girls I have known.For example, I just met a hot girl I had known from middle/high school. We got drunk with friends, I needed a place to crash, she offered her bed because it was big and more comfy than the couch and we had known each other since we were 10. We never hooked up before or and I swear I didn't try to but eventually we got into bed and were talking. I couldn't control myself and had an uncomfortable hard on, which she saw and to make a long story short I got an amazing blowjob.My point is that I would think a girl like my friend's girlfriend would have had many experiences like this. He is just wondering if she lied to him.For all he knows, she could have been very promiscuous like a few girls I knew in college that got f***ed by at least 15 different guys that were very persistent cool guys.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've had 3 one night stands and slept with 3 guys within relationships. So my number is 6. If you asked me outright and told me explicitly that you didn't mind knowing the whole truth, I'd tell you 6. If you seemed a little hesitant and didn't want to know any more detail than just the number, I'd tell you 3, for the number of guys I'd been dating. If you asked me for my number and some indication of how/when I'd lost my virginity, I'd tell you 4, because one of those one night stands is how I lost my virginity. Generally I'm not asked and I hate lying in any area of life, but people can be so strange about sex I feel I have to.

Why would I lie? Because I don't want to be judged. In those little flings, one of them I was drunk and horny after 4 years of no sex (being a virgin with a lot of hormones) and felt so insecure in myself that I never believed I could ever find someone who'd fall in love with me so I could wait for someone special. I'm a different person to who I was then. The other two I was drunk at a music festival and had just had my heart broken. I was highly open to being taken advantage of, and while I don't blame the guys, it's definitely something that wouldn't have happened had I been sober. I'm also out of that heartbreak now (and obviously not drunk) so I'm a different person to who I was then, too.

So why should I be judged for something that I don't wish to repeat? It's unfair. I've learned that guys do judge, and I hate it. This is my list of guys and what they thought of my sexual history:

1 (casual) - never asked and I never told him, not that he really cared because it was a fling and we were both drunk.

2 (dated) - had a theory that the first guy had taken advantage of me/raped me because of the alcohol, and you don't have to count rape, so therefore he was my first, not the other guy. I disagreed, but that's how he liked to think of it. Nice guy, but obviously he still wanted to be my first too.

3 (dated & fell in love with) - had the same theory about the first guy and just hated the second guy for the simple fact that he'd 'got there first.' Broke up with me and wanted nothing more to do with me until I slept with someone else, then he became immensely jealous again and called me a bitch and a whore.

4 (casual) - knew my history as I knew him beforehand, but didn't press the issue. Was a bit of a desperate virgin.

5 (casual) - as above, except I didn't know him beforehand, he was a friend of a friend. At this point I swore off casual sex and stuck to it despite being propositioned by loads of guys, going towards triple digits. Note that it is quite possible to say no, shock horror!

6 (dating) - has asked not to be told and knows only that I'm not his first.

That last one's got his head screwed on straight. That way I'm not tempted to lie and he won't have to make himself accept the truth should it turn out to be something he doesn't like. That way, no judging happens.

JeanetteG · Accepted Answer

Not to sound arrogant, but I'm considered attractive. I have a modeling contract with a large agency and I go to a great college where I'm popular and in a sorority. I was a virgin until the age of 21. I'm 23 now and I've only slept with 2 guys.

It's ridiculous to assume that a "hot" girl will find it hard and feel "pressure" to give in to guys. Just because a girl is pretty doesn't mean she has to be a slut.

It's all about personality. I know some pretty girls who are total sluts. I know many others who aren't. I actually stayed a virgin for such a long time because I was afraid of being used just for sex. Many guys would approach me, hit on me, etc. but I never went all the way because I'm the type of person who likes long-term relationships and not hook-ups.

It seems like you're stereotyping attractive women and assuming they're all party girls who like casual sex.

Your comment: "But isn't hard to resist and don't you feel the urge to have sex or suck a guys di*k if every guy left and right is trying to be with you sexually?"

Yes, of course, women feel the urge to have sex. I've NEVER felt the urge to suck a guy's dick. But there are MANY creepy, ugly guys out there.

Pretty girls aren't just vapid beings with high sex drives.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I do that.  I haven't slept with that many guys, but some guys think it's a lot (I'm still in single digits though).  I don't think it's anyone's business, and I would hate for a guy to reject me because I've slept with more then 2 people.  The only thing that is his business is whether or not I have an STD.  After that, it shouldn't matter and I think it's immature for a guy to judge a girl by different standards.

skurge65 · Accepted Answer

The Center for Disease Control and Prevention says that only 9% of women have had more than 14 partners. The median number of male partners for women was four.  Those numbers she is saying sound about right.  The thing to watch out for is how is her self esteem.  If she is hot but thinks she isn't so hot then there is no doubt she is lying. The lower a girl's esteem is the more she needs validation from men that she's hot.  The hotter she is the easier it is for her to get laid. The hot girl low esteem combo adds up to nymphomania and/or sex-addiction.  Oh, keep in mind Chris Rock's rule of three.  I think it's Chris Rock anyway?  Anyway, the rule goes, if a women says she's been with 3 guys then she's been with 9 and if a man says 9 then he's been with 3.  I don't think numbers are what actually bothers most guys though.  I think it's the realization of the high probability of her having had sex with a super stud amongst all those numbers of previous flings.  I mean, a guy hates a cold fish of a lay right.  Well, that's because she's not telling us that we are a stud. I hate realizing that I'm not her stud.  It's like Steve Carrell in "Get Smart" realizing that Agent 99's previous relationship was with The Rock and saying, "Man am I sexually threatened right now."

Atomizer · Accepted Answer

So many people lie about this topic that it's not even worth discussing.

And it's irrelevant. I DO NOT want to know about her sexual or dating past.

Okay, I do want to know. But it's like a mosquito bite: the more you scratch it, the worse it itches. So despite that occasional itch, I don't scratch. I grit my teeth and leave it alone, and soon enough the itch passes.

Her past is usually a bigger problem when you're younger (under about 25-27). Once you grow up a bit, guys are able to keep the past in the past.

And also, her past is irrelevant. Yours is, too.

melissarose8585 · Answer

Just like some men, some women will lie about the numbers of partners they have had. Some people lie, and there's not much you can really do about it.

cun7n1nja · Answer

I think a lot of girls do lie about that. I'm all about honesty. If someone asks me how many people I've slept with and doesn't like the answer I give them, they could always go find someone else if they're that bothered by my past. I'm on the pill, I get tested regularly, and I am 100% clean, so I don't see a problem. How many people I've slept with doesn't have much to do at all with who I am as a person, so I have no issue with telling people honestly what that number is if it's any of their business to know.

misskiss17 · Answer

i've lied about it definitely.a lot more lie about it than others.normally I'll say I've slept with 3 people when in all honesty I've slept with 5.the other 2 were one night stands to get back at my, at the time, ex.the 3 people I was actually in a long relationship with but the 2 one night stands I totally and completely regret because sex isn't just a number and something that's fun.having sex with one person is risky enough.say that one person has had sex with two people and one of those people had sex with 12 people and one of those 12 people had sex with 20 and OBVIOUSLY one of those 20 will have an STD.i get tested more than usual so I'm clean but saying I've slept with 5 people, even though it's in the single digits, makes me feel slutty so I go with 3.in my opinion the whole multiply and divide by 3 rule applies when it comes to sex for both genders.(if you ever seen American Pie)

SWEETNESS · Answer

females don't lie about their past sexual partners, we just don't tell you about everyone. there is a difference. why we don't tell you everything? for one, you say you won't get mad , but you do and continue to secretly wonder about each guy and if they were better, or if she is still f***ing him. truthfully, we are not still f***ing past encounters. the only sexual encounter we are having is the present encounter which is you. and when its the other way around, females don't care how many you been with in the past, as long as you are clean and she is the only one in your present. catch my drift? :)

jincuj33 · Answer

I would rather have a girlfriend who had slept with 30 guys but was completely faithful and loyal to me than a girl with no or just a couple previous sexual experiences that would be willing to cheat on me.  As long as there are no STDs, it's just not that big of deal how many guys she had been with.

china-blue · Answer

Yes, many of us do.. the male ego is a fragile thing. *S* I think most that lie do so with good intentions, not to deceive the man maliciously.

In all honesty though, it's something you have to think about before you lie. I told my husband everything, even the females I had been with so that if my past ever caught up with me, he wouldn't be hurt. It wasn't easy for me to do. Because he knew most of the people I had been with before him, I didn't want to have it be an issue later. I took a big chance on him accepting what I had done, and feel blessed he was ok with it. Many men are not so understanding.

Numb1 · Answer

Yes we lie win we are younger but as we get older we deny. We lie then deny. Just kidding a real woman wouldn't lie about whose she sleep wit because it wouldn't be that many to hide or to lie about. People lie or hide because they're ashamed of the truth. If you're not sure about a girl always protect yourself no matter what

iloveashton · Answer

girls do lie.. the answer to your question.. the girl will usually from knowing my friends.. and i.. we will say only the serious relationships.. for example.. 3 serious boyfriends.. and 4 friends with benefits.. you will only know about the 3 serious boyfriends. lol but don't ever assume.. anything about people because you never know.. honestly.. you never know.

sweetaspie · Answer

Why are you basing sexual partners by someones looks?  Just because someone is attractive doesn't mean they give it up to whatever guy approaches them! Honestly, some ugly girls lie about their number as do attractive girls. What it boils down to is someones morals and standards. I personally have only been with 4 guys, though I have had many more than that want to have sex with me. To me sex and love go hand and hand, but I can't speak for everyone. I just don't think you should use somebody's looks and reason they are slutty. On the flipside you can say a ugly girl would have more partners because sex is the only way to get a guy interested in her. It is kind of biased and really thier is no system to determine if a girl is a slut!

ggazelles · Answer

Most people lie about this, not just hot girls. I prefer not to lie, so I generally keep my mouth shut about past experiences unless they're hilarious and newsworthy.

As long as she's clean and he's happy, who cares?

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

In whatever relationship you're in, you can't trust the person till you get to know them for the longest time and even then, there may be quirks or surprises. It goes both ways. Whatever guy I am with , I'm not totally rusting, and often you can do a little background check on them to figure it out pretty easily. Especially if he's got quite a few numbers on his cell belonging to girls, then yeah, it's obvious. but seriously, some girls will be truthful and some not so much. just takes time to get to know them

CaramelSkin · Answer

Girls are more apt to keep how many guys they have slept with on a DL since if a girl sleeps with 5 guys she is a slut but if guy sleeps with 5 girls he's the mac. I could be wrong. She may be lying to seem like she is a good girl but on other hand she may be lying so she doesn't have to deal with all the nonsense. I myself only trust a select few to confide in with anything, that also my be the case.

luciaa · Answer

Lol. Yea we lie about it. Depends on who you are. We might want to look more innocent, so you feel better about yourself when we're with you. We know that most guys like the idea of a girl being less experienced than you. This way, you think we have less to compare you to. I have even been with players that out and out tell you they are with several other girls and yet will not tolerate the girl he screws to be with several others. Such a freakin double standard.

I say, if you like the girl who cares how many guys she's been with. If you can satisfy her, then you got nothing to worry about.

yummymummyxXx · Answer

im honest about it I have only ever slept with my ex and my current partner. I would not big it up and say a larger number however if the guy was less experienced I may make out I was less experienced to put him at ease.

HenryCow · Answer

everyone lies about sexual encounters.  Never never never never assume that *anyone* is telling you the truth about their sexual experiences. male or female, hot or not-so-hot, doubt their word.

elle1 · Answer

well I don't usually lie, I just don't tell, :P unless he was a serious boyfriend, or he told me and it was more then me

bebebunny143 · Answer

i seriously don't lie about my sexual past but I talked about this with a couple of my girlfriends who never have settled down and they lie because they are embarrassed about how sexual they have been I think most girls are sluts and lie to guys and then the guy falls for the slut and gets screwed over and their heart broken and then they no longer trust girls in the future. :)

tex151 · Answer

Do politicians lie? The answer to your question is YES they lie about past sexual encounters, just like politicians lie whenever they open their mouths.

xandra · Answer

Well its safe to say that not all girls are the same, just as not all guys are the same. its very possible for a girl if she feels that she is beautiful and if she is aware of her affect on guys, to flirt and be all touchy feely as you say but in a teasing kind of way. I mean, you have to admit, its awesome when you feel like someone finds you that attractive, you flirt even if it's unintentional, because of the satisfaction you get with it. it doesn't mean she sleeps with a guy just because he approaches her ,you know?

On the other hand, I have a friend who has had many sexual partners in the past, and she has been in a relationship for about two years now, and we were talking and she told me that he think she has only slept with her ex boyfriend (the one before him). She told me she says that to every guy because she doesn't want to give off the wrong impression that she's easy or something.

So everyone's different :)

l-hedoniste · Answer

She does if she expects a freakout, and if a guy asks, it's because he means to freak out. It's rarely worth knowing.

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