My boyfriend jerks off in bed next to me

A few times when I slept over with my boyfriend , I woke up in the middle of the night because then bed was kind of shaking. it took me a mintue to realize what was happening and I almost turned around. i didn't want him to feel embarrased (?) so I just layed there pretending to still be asleep. it was kind of hot to hear his moans and heavy breathing, actually it was really hot and it turned me on. but at the same time it made me a little uncomfortable. we haven't had sex before, I'm still a virgin. I don't know why I feel unconfortable about it, but I feel like he shouldn't have to do that if I was there. I've given him hand jobs before.. is it normal for a guy to do that ? and does that mean I'm not good at doing it for him..?
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  • i would totally think it's hot to have that hpappen to me lol. I wouldn't worry about it, most guys are still going to masturbate regardless of how good you are in bed. that and maybe he's turned on by the idea that you might be watching. it's a little weird that he would stay in bed with you while he did it... but maybe he wants you to wake up and do something about it? If it makes you uncomfortable, you should definitely say something about it... but if you're into it and want to get involved... it'd be really easy to either slide your hand over and start like rubbing his leg or chest or wherever you happen to be positioned and then sort of cut in stroking his d***. or you could start touching yourself in a way that's kind of obvious for him to see/hear etc. you don't have to have sex with him, but you could definitely have a little fun with this if you are so inclined :)

  • I was going to ask why you didn't roll over and take care of your man, but then I read the sentence that said you're a virgin. If you're not going to be having sex, why are you sleeping over at his house in the same bed as him? The guy is obviously sexually frustrated and laying in bed with a girl who won't suck d*** or have sex is triggering that. If you are not ready for sex, then don't sleep in his bedf. Don't feel bad or deficient by it, just change your behavior. You know he is horny but you can see he is respecting your boundaries and just handling business himself. So either please him or stay out of the bed lol

  • I think its completely normal, my hubby has done it before but when I wake up when he is at it I just help him out.

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  • It's normal enough. No girl is going to know how to give a hj as good as a guy can do himself. (He has full time access the equipment. Girls don't.)

    It's also kind of selfish to say "give me a handjob" and then not give anything in response. So sometimes, especially if you're too tired to do anything for her, a guy will simply take care of his own needs then fall fast asleep.

    The director Kevin Smith frequently talks about how his wife isn't always up for sexual activity, so he asks her to simply show the ass, and he jerks off looking at it.

    So even for married couples, it sometimes happens.

  • I think it's completely normal. I've done it before when the girl just isn't in the mood. Masturbation in completely natural and if you're going to be with him you should be completely comfortable around him.

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  • Maybe he didn't want to wake you up. Maybe he likes jerking off. Maybe he likes jerking off with someone in the bed next to him. Who knows?

    I do know that it had nothing to do with you; if he wanted to involve you, he would have. Sitting still and quiet was the right thing to do.

  • Yeah, you should help him next time!

  • Hot and uncomfortable? Make your choice ;)

    You could always help him, you know...

  • He did not want to disturb your sleep!

  • Maybe he was thinking of you the whole time?

    Sounds kinda like a pickup line. I'm imagining a crowded bar scene...

    GUY IN BAR: "How you doin'?"

    YOU: "Not so good. My boyfriend jerked off in bed next to me last night."

    GUY IN BAR: "Hey, baby...if I was laying in bed pressed up against your fine body, I'd be jerkin' off too!"

    • Maybe you should pretend to finger yourself next time and see what he says.

    • i second this option

  • well...it is kind of weird that he will masturbate with you sleeping there. Maybe that's a turn on for him too.

  • I think you should hand job him every time you sleep with him... We build enormous pressure next to a girl...

  • hahahahahaha maybe he needs some help, you can help him up

  • If he wanted to get off w/o waking you up...

    ...would you rather him wake you up out of your beauty-sleep to give him a HJ?

  • I do it all of the time... my girl sleeps like a rock

  • If it was me, I would have reached over to help.