Sex does not ruin relationships.
'Expecting to wait further'? These things don't follow plans. That's why most of us laugh so hard when girls say things like 'i'm only 16 and I've decided to wait till marriage'. And stress 'only 16' as though 'i don't need to wait to make the choice, I'm mature enough to make it at 16, what's wrong with you older people'. We laugh because the plans you make when single go out the window when you're with someone you really want and feel something for.
You're, you know, SUPPOSED to want him sooner. If waiting is easy, you shouldn't be a couple.
Relax, breathe. You have not ruined anything.
Actually, I almost cried when I didn't. (Came outside trying to penetrate.)
Don't worry--lots of girls get emotional post-loss-of-virginity for various reasons. I cried, not because I thought I ruined it, but because it was kind of out of my hands and it wasn't nearly as romantic as I wanted my first time to be.
You'll feel better about it as time goes on. If you're confused about what went on, just talk to your S.O. about it. It'll make you feel better.
Yerp. Give yourself a few days to think it over, you'll feel better about it later. Or at least not as distraught.
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The relationship. I cried and turned away from him while we laid in bed and he asked me if I was OK and I lied and said yes. I know he was hurt because he knew I was crying and I turned away. It was not a loving moment. I think I hate myself.
Don't beat yourself over it. I guess you built it up in your head and was so concerned about losing your virginity that you couldn't relax and it didn't feel "right" when it was all said and done. I would be willing to bet that there aren't many girls out there that think their first time was as special as dramatized in movies. Consider this as a learning experience. In order for sex to be special, you need to be open to it. Not scared of it.
meh I don't think that'll help. if she seems like sex means a lot to her, so she probably needs a strong emotional connection before it feels right to her
Yeah.
You'll get over it. Know why? You're gonna have sex with that same guy again.
I don't think I can look at him the same way, it will all be about sex now.
Tell yourself that when you're going down on him next time.
meh just tell the guy you need more emotional connection to keep doing it.
if he cares about u, he'll agree
if not then.. lesson learned? you can still find a decent guy if your history is just one partner
yeah & I haven't had sex since then, it's been over a year now. I probably won't have sex again.
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