Why is this so creepy; really what is "Creepy"?

[Anonymous]

So I want to know why so many girls are so quick to call an older guy who goes for a younger girl "creepy" if: 1) They are both legal adults..not even teenagers. 2) All guys want sex, whether it is a guy her own age or an older guy 3) They are both honest in their intentions and they aren't lying to each other about their intentions 4) She knows that part of her appeal is that she's younger and sexy to him, and she doesn't care or feel used. In fact, it makes her kind of turned on in a way. So, why is this so "creepy"? Why are girls so quick to label an older man "creepy" in this situation? And no, I am not talking about a senior citizen with a 20 year old. I'm talking about a guy maybe 40 something with a girl who is in her early 20s, and all of the above definitions apply. What makes it so "creepy?" Because I have heard plenty of girls say this, and I am curious to know why it is "creepy" other than "it just is"

[udolipixie]

1. Why is this so creepy; really what is "Creepy"? It may not be the whole older guy going for a younger girl but an older guy's fixation/obsession with her youth and the bit where it's his sole reason for going after her.

2. So, why is this so "creepy"? See above.

Let's not kid ourselves usually older guys go after younger girls her age is all of the appeal not a part of it there's more prestige in f*cking a hot 20 year old when you're 40 then a hot 40 year old.

I just think it's some self esteem issues if the girl is turned on by the fact her all not part of her appeal will be her youth to such guys. But hey most girl's self worth derives from their ability to attract guys and their age..after all not too many women brag about looking their age.

3. Why are girls so quick to label an older man "creepy" in this situation? Same reason some guys are quick to do the same since human beings tend to think it's creepy to focus on one aspect of a person. It's not just going after a young girl it's primarily or solely going after youth.

4. What makes it so "creepy?" It's probably not just simply going after a younger girl you connect that makes it so creepy as the average relationship has the woman being younger than the guy.

It's most likely guys with the sole target focus of going after younger girls, fixing/obsessing on youth, and the whole upgrading prospect that makes it so creepy.

[Asker]

noted, but let's say he doesn't usually go for younger women and this is the only younger one he has been with.

[udolipixie]

Older guys tend to have that game plan to make her feel more mature, special, or that she's the exception Most older guys in my country go after younger women and prefer to date women 10-20 years younger than women their own age. Most men generally are attracted to younger women so the whole don't usually go for is a bit of a stretch. Unless he means by go for that he never had the chance before to f*ck/consistently f*ck a younger woman.

[italykam]

Ok so creepy is when the girl gets a weird vibe off of the guy that is hitting on them or whatever. I have said it and it's not just about older guys. It can be someone younger than I am or around my age. If they seem like they could be a potential threat and scare me, then I will refer to them as being creepy, nothing wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

Creepy is just another word in a girls vocabulary that she uses towards a guy she finds unattractive or being approached in an awkward situation. Most of the time there's nothing "creepy or sketchy" at all, the guy is probably just an average joe.

[arashmenalagha]

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[arashmenalagha]

Excellent question, I don't know what creepy really means, but I really really really wanted to be included here by giving answers. I'm curious to know as well. I expect some intelligent answers :)

[SoberIrishman]

Just sounds like the girl has daddy issues to me, but not creepy.

[Asker]

Daddy issues, why/how so?

[SoberIrishman]

girl is having sex with someone who can obviously be her dad, possibly because she needs a father figure that was absent from her growing up, or was beaten and treated badly by her dad, but now found a guy that could be her dad's age and treats her well. It's psychology of sex.

[Asker]

what if her dad never treated her badly but she just felt like he wasn't there for her emotionally or wasn't emotionally close enough the way she needed? and even if so, is this really so bad or unhealthy?

[SoberIrishman]

Could also be a reason for having daddy issues. I personally don't find it bad or really unhealthy as long as he isn't harming you in any way. It just explains why you are attracted to him, that's all. But then I am more open than the average human about sexual tendencies, hence why I mostly answer questions under Sexuality on here.