My ex was better in bed. What should I do?

I love my current boyfriend and he's amazing to me, but the sex isn't close to as good as it was with my last boyfriend. The sex is not bad, but it makes me miss sex from my previous relationship. What shoud I do?
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  • What should I do? Train him or dump him.

    Train him if you want to compromise or invest in this relationship.

    What shoud I do? If you're American dumping would probably suit best since generally with guys if they weren't getting what they wanted sexually like if you weren't putting out he'd dump you. A study even showed that 44% of guys would leave their girlfriend for a random chick if the stranger performed better at bjs.

    No reason to invest more heavily than your partner would especially at a young age when in my country most relationships don't last long especially those at a young age and when they do the love tends to fade quickly.

  • see if you can train him to what you like, maybe he isn't familiar with your body yet

Most Helpful Guys

  • So I see you got a few answers here that basically say: (1) dump your bf; or (2) train him.

    I am not saying either is wrong, but before you do either, you should ask yourself: why is it that you think your ex was better? If it is actually a physical difference in how they make love, then I have nothing more to say. But you might want to make sure that it isn't something about you, which needs the relationship to be bad for the sex to be enjoyable.

    Some people have that unhealthy need to separate sex from other aspects of their life. If that's not the case with you, just ignore my answer.

  • Your boyfriend learned to be good at sex with you...why?

    B/c he learned how to, ahem, "drive your engine".

    He knew what you liked, cauz he eventually learned how YOUR body works.

    This dude doesn't know how your body works yet (as in what personally turns you on).

    Quit being a selfish girl (yes, I said selfish, and yes, I said girl [not woman]) and teach him. He may be better than your ex...you never know.

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    Are you really THAT insensitive, selfish, and impatient, to not teach YOUR BOYFRIEND how to "drive your engine"?

    • *Your ex-boyfriend learned to be good*

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  • Get used to each other.

    Teach him what you like.

    • I said that and I got thumb'd down...prolly by the QA. :-/

    • :O How rude. Aaahh. You probably got too personal with using negative words. :P

  • I don't think you'll ever get over your ex sexing...even if you try to teach your current boyfriend the sex will never be the same

    • great :(

    • sorry if If that came out as rude

  • Train your boyfriend in the ways you like to be taken care of in bed. The boy is not a mind reader.

    • tHATS WHAT I WAS GOING TO SAY

    • I think that's what everyone's reply would be to this question, I just answered first, haha.

    • I say the same thing and I got thumb'd down (most likely by the QA). *shrugs*

  • tell him he sucks d*** at f***ing p****

    • Cause I'm so sure you're any good...

    • ive never been bad at anything

  • Leave him

  • Was the sex with your ex better because he had a bigger penis?

  • I felt the same way

  • You have two choices.

    1)Get rid of your current boyfriend

    2) Teach him how to be a better lover.

    Men might be called dogs and act like dogs, but we are easier to train than dogs. Trust me when I say if sex is involved, we will do just about anything you ask. Just beware, you might teach him to be the greatest lover in the world, and than he will leave you for some other women, or your sister or cousin. haha

  • just out of curiosity how big was ex and how big is your current

    • my ex was bigger

  • first thing remeber how your ex made you get to the big "O" and what he did that made it work. if it was lasting longer try giving the new guy a BJ till he cums then doing it. if it is a certin move tell your guy to do that but don't tell him that's what the ex did that might make him mad and feel inadaquit. or if he is a open minded guy just tell him how you feel and ask him to try new things to make it better guys love to please its what we are made for.

    • He's right...real men that are sexually active aim to please. 8-)

    • ty I love to please my wife but my wife is not as open as I like so I have still after almost five years a lot to learn but that is a fun challenge for me and should be fun to grow with ones love