HOCD? or is it real feelings?

[Anonymous]

Can you have HOCD and still be aroused by the members of the same sex? Cause, I worry all the time if I'm gay or not, and as soon as I started to obsessing, I started to associate any feelings of arousal with girls (like,i even began to imagine what it would be like to kiss a girl, and then I could "feel" their lips. like, now if I see a girl taking a sip of a drink, I can feel my lips on the straw, and I get this strong urge to kiss her). so, I don't know if my brain is taking over or what, but what do I do?

[mr2by4]

yeah i know, it has been said that HOCD is self inflicted and with theropy and maybe drugs you can combat it. seriously no one person affected by HOCD has fully and completely recovered... that is they did not return to the state before the HOCD had first occurred.

This may seem as a conspiracy theory but...
how you are falling into these thoughts that you can't stop... maybe induced by the NWO. or New World Order or Shadow Government...
in the form of mind control. Mind control has been in the governments clutches for the better part of 80 years or so. First it started as hypnotism, then drug induced ( which these methods required the subject to be present ), now they are using Alpha waves, electro magnetic waves and others, and which can widely broadcast and affect large population counts simultaneously for the purpose of mind control, and/or to alter the mind. Some seem to be affected and some not. but why would the government want to impose mind control on the public? to control population growth. if the government is able to effectively increase the number of homosexuals less babies will be born in the future, thereby lowering the population, hence: population control.

Back to your problem. I do not know if there is a way to stop these thoughts you have unless there is a method to block the alpha waves...

[l-hedoniste]

Find a girl you like, who likes you, and see what happens.

P.S.: Most obsessions pass if you refuse to worry about them. Fact of life.

[t-a-l]

the line between curious and gay will appear hun.

let your thoughts flow naturally, you will know one day if you are truly gay, or this will all pass as a faze.

but, just as a random fact, I know more gay women with HOCD then I do straight people of both genders.

i don't know if that's a coincidence or not but... its true

[senababyx]

just because your turned on by girls doesn't mean your gay. like would you date a girl? can you see yourself being in a relationship other then friendship with a girl. if you can't then your fine hun. deff don't stress about it.

[Asker]

I dunno. if I try to picture myself in a relationship, I feel adrenaline and a "rush". but it usually just a thought to dwell on like "could i...?" and the thought goes away in a few seconds. I usually think of guys I find attractive and hugging them and being with them in my spare time. I don't really do that for girls...so, I dunno

[brittanyfox14]

women show much more sex appeal then guys do, and its perfectly natural to be aroused by that. so don't worry! it doesn't mean anything

[4u2nv]

I think that you are most likely lesbian (or probably bi...if you like boys that it)

[4u2nv]

It might be a phase....but the urge to kiss a girl if you see her suck on a straw and want to "feel" her lips seems a little strong to me

[Asker]

No, it's like, me "feeling" it. like, I thought that if I put myself in someone elses shoes, that I would be able to feel what it was like to be with someone else like,i thought that if I pretened to be her and she was gay and kissed a girl I would be able to "feel" it and get a sense of what it was like and if I was actually gay.does that make sense? like, I didn't feel the need to want to kiss her, just be in her shoes.kinda like apathy I guess: put yourself in their shoes to see how it feels

[Asker]

Like, before I didn't want to kiss her, and now I do. I dunno, it's just really confusing. but, if I don't think about it or don't obsess, all the feelings go away (but since I obsess about everything) it comes back eventually.

[4u2nv]

Haha okay. I get it now. I thought that you meant that you had a sudden urge to kiss her....then I was thinking that you were les, but now I think that you are just going through a stage. It's natural to have curious thoughts like that. I think I've wondered what if I was a les before, but it went away very soon. I thought about kissing a girl once, I think that was it, and then I had a nasty dream about a girl....that ended that. haha.

[Asker]

I guess, though, I can't tell if it's actually "real" or if its just my obsessive mind. I get the same little urges to kiss guys, but they're not at all strong and it's only after I get to know them. like, I think I am bicurious to a degree, but I just can't distinguish the line between curious and gay. but thanks for the advice though.