How should I react to a topless photo of my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I just recently discovered that one of my girlfriends "friends" sent her a picture of breasts. There was no head in the pic, but after inspecting further, I came to the conclusion that its a picture of my girlfriend, and the time code says it was taken while we were together. Now it is possible that the time code on the camera wasn't programmed in correctly. But this seems wrong that this guy is sending her a topless photo of herself. I have trust issues with my girlfriend, so I really shouldn't have been snooping around, but it seems like when I do, I eventually discover this shady stuff. Should I tell her, what should I say?

[fascination_streak]

How did you find this pic? Were you curious and you checked out her phone or PC?

Anyway, the point is that there shouldn't be pics like that of her floating out there UNLESS it was supposed to be a surprise for you. However, I doubt that is the case.

I would talk to her calmly about what you found. Trust is obviously an issue in your relationship and you should be concerned. If she truly loves and respects you then she needs to stop doing this kind of trash. Ask her if maybe something is missing in the relationship on her end. Maybe she needs more attention possibly? Her behavior says to me she is looking for it. But, the bottom line is that she needs to either be dedicated to you and making your relationship work or it won't last. If she can't agree to that then I'm sorry to say that more of this crap will come. Then, you will have no choice but to walk away.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I openly snoop through each others' things. It never seems to bother him and it doesn't bother me. We read each others' texts and other things, whatever you could consider snooping. We just don't have anything to hide, and if either of us got defensive about something that we didn't want them to see, then that would be suspicious, wouldn't it? So I would just ask. Just tell her you were bored so you checked out her phone and you saw it and you were curious why he would randomly send boobs to her. That's what I would do. Just ask nicely. Don't go confronting her if there's a possibility they aren't her boobs. Then y'all will just fight.

[mimiperson]

Woah. No offense, but if you don't trust her, why are you dating her? Not that you don't have reasons for your distrust. But seriously, if she isn't trust worthy, break up with her. Yes, you shouldn't have been snooping. What you found should not have been found. Whether it should even exist or not isn't important. The fact that you don't trust your girlfriend- whether you should or shouldn't is impertinent- if you don't trust her, don't date her. But that's just my opinion.

[sovetskii13]

Act as if you never got it. If you notice that she is behaving differently (like she is waiting for you to reveal something, or being flirty), then maybe ask if she asks about any unusual pictures you may have received, or seen lately, then tell her. Should you be flirty, happy, uncomfortable, disturbed... that's for you to decide. How did you feel about the picture? Tell her how you felt.

[RealMenFly]

Is he blackmailing her or something? Why would he even do that? Tell her you saw the picture and see what she says.

[carinabina820]

How did her friend get a topless pic of her? I don't think she's a good girlfriend if she's sending topless pics to anyone but her bf...

[heartbroken28]

you should definitely talk to her. just be careful about the way you go about it because you could be mistaken. also she will probably get mad at you for snooping but if this is true she can't blame you.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Tough to say man, you don't want to look like you were snooping around or else she won't trust you but do what you think is best.

[Anonymous]

Are you 100% certain they're her breasts? One of my guy friends used to send me boob pics that girls sent him, just to be an ass. We weren't having sex or anything.