Why do guys like strippers?

Disclaimer: I've never been to a strip club for women. It doesn't appeal to me, plus women I've talked to have told me it's pretty lame. I also don't like the way male strippers look, and I've been told that their shows can be gross. So I don't get the fascination.

Now, I admit I'm a bit insecure (don't bash me for that), being small chested and not very toned. I'm sure my boyfriend would like to go to a strip club now and then, since some of his friends go occasionally.

I was reading some questions about strippers, and guys said something like "Strippers can turn us on in ways our girlfriends can't", and things like "They shove your face in their boobs" or "You can se girls who have different bodies than your girlfriend", etc.

Exactly how much touching goes on? And also, How is it that they turn you on in ways a girlfriend can't? Does wanting to see other girls' bodies means they're better than your girlfriend's? Thanks.


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  • Basically - they're sexy.

    The good news for you is this - men will be turned on by sexy, but they will come back to you - that is not saying that I think you should allow your boyfriend to a strip club, not at all - but don't be so worried.

    If you're a great girl that's what matters - we girls tend to overestimate how important looks are to guys - honestly, he loves you for you.

  • it seems to me the girl strippers are more interested in girls then the men that go in there... me and my boyfriend have gone together each of us getting lap dance and they are crazy about me and just do a lap dance plain and simple for him... but its scary too strippers CAN get ur mans attention probably more easy then you can they are professionals in what they do... they know how get a guy o pay attention to them ... so yeah but it is a little nasty this one stripper girl wiped the pole b4 she got on it because she said sum girls got something there or something nasty girls

    • Thats gross for real lol

  • I don't know but it is disgusting.

  • yeah I don't get either. it's kinda stupid to pay for someone to strip for you but I guess it's a self esteem boost? I don't dig guys who go to strippers for that gratification. just personal, no offense to anyone

  • Well I have been to strip clubs. I have worked in a strip club for a long time(as a waitress). So you can ask me pretty much anything about it, as I have lots of experience in this topic. At the place I worked at-they did not shove their boobs in their faces-it was not allowed: BUT if your Boyfriend has some serious cash-she will do just about anything to get(but some dancer's view of "serious cash" differs from others). 1 in 3 strippers are prostitutes. I always hear them tell the guys that they will go home with them and do all these things with them-but most of the time (again, unless he's rich) it's a lie just so they can get the cash, and, hillariously, I've seen guys fall for it time and time again. I felt kinda sorry for them because the dancers would get them drunk and take their money to the point where they didn't even have money for a cab. Strippers are very good actresses-never trust a dancer. Of course the appeal of going to strip clubs is seeing naked women everywhere-and having them like you sooo much-guys actually believe these women are into them lol.

    Back to the touching question-threre's not suppossed to be any touching-and most of the time there's not. But some strippers will bend the rules for extra tips. Sometimes guys just grab them if a bouncer's turned away. You have to understand that strippers are very greedy, most of the time desperate people, they are usually druggies and/or alcoholics and many don't actually want to be strippers-but are forced to be by pimps. Many of these people have been abused all their lives and go to work for more abuse. Through my experience-nearly 100% of dancers hate men.

    Now about their boddies being better: um...not. When I first started there I imagined it would be like the movies-glamorous pamela-anderson type girls, but that is so far from the truth. Do you know why strip clubs are so dark? So you can't see their C-section scars, their botched surgeries, their red eyes from being high as hell. Many are not attractive-but hey, they're naked-so who cares? Look at Paris Hilton- I don't think she has a good body at all-no curves skinny-but when she got naked all the guys went crazy. And for your question about small boobs-there are actually men who ask me if we have any-that they don't want huge nockers in their face-some men really do prefer small breasts-it seems like the flat chested dancers do as well as the DD dancers-I could go on and on about this topic-if you have any other questions just ask.

    • Could you word your question better?

    • So if you was to strip for a guy not in a strip club no matter the size they'd liike it?

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    I'm gonna be as concise as possible here. I'm not good at that though. I've never been to a strip club, but I know guys who have, and I have had the urge to before, just never actually have done so.

    There's no touching. You get kicked out for touching the girls (at least at any decent, i.e. licensed place). As for them touching you that's entirely up to their own discretion, but usually doesn't happen much either.

    What's the big deal? Well guys are very visual, and very visceral. (in other words we respond to things that are immediate, intense thrills, thus why guys like action movies, there's no subtlety about it, just immediate, superficial emotional response). As that applies to strippers, there's something about being able to see a naked woman for a bit of money is appealing.

    As for turning you on in ways a girlfriend can't, it sounds like you're worrying about that too much or that you're threatened by it when you really need not be. What that means really is just that it's a cheap thrill. It's "dirty". Your girlfriend can be as dirty and slutty as she wants, but it's still essentially imitated dirtiness, cause essentially you're still in a relationship with this person, and no one REALLY wants to think of their girlfriend as a cheap slut or anything like that. It's not that you're not good enough in bed, or you're not attractive enough (some strippers really aren't that great looking anyways), or that strippers can do things you can't. It's mostly just a situational thing. It's not the stripper herself as a person, it's the fact that she is a stripper, that it's a strip club, that you paid to see her naked... it's a cheap, dirty little thrill.

    So basically, no, wanting to see a stripper doesn't mean that they're better than your girlfriend... or that they have a betterbody than your girlfriend... at all. Seriously, even some guys who have the hottest girlfriends in the world will still like to see strippers. It's all just about the dirty thrill of it all. The way I like to put it is that strippers and porn are to guys as smut nd romance novels are to women. Women get annoyed if a guy was threatened by a character in one such novel because it's a fictitous character and we shouldn't be threatened by them. Well that's how guys think of porn stars and strippers, they're not really "real" people to us, so much as they are just superficial characters whose appeal is in the simple, dirty thrill.

    I hope this is helpful.

    • When people say guys see women as a sex object that is a lie...we are not complicated like girls....we see we like we do....doesn't mean we are not capable of having feelings for a girl...it taKEs time...

    • It is, thank you.

    • Also I would argue that if those women don't want to be seen as sexual objects... they chose the wrong damn profession. So don't go complaining that they got a shitty hand dealt to them, there's always a choice, and the guys that they are providing a service for are generally not involved in their personal lives anyways, so... it doesn't really make a difference what a random jerk thinks of her. If he's a mysoginistic bastard, then a stripper/pornstar is no different than any other woman to him

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  • Like you wrote, we just admire strippers. Honestly I don't take it further than admiration. Beyond that is gross. No physical contact for me.

  • basically guys biologically judge "value" visually and strippers tend to be pretty attractive in all the "right" ways. however most guys wouldn't have the confidence or strength of logic to see them as just some women who happen to look good so a strip club is the nearest they can can get to such women that they otherwise think they wouln't have a chance in hell with. It's a place that plays to their fantasies.

  • OK to answer this you have to find some thing's out like what are the club rules and the stripper. Some clubs are very strict if they have a bar in that club and even the state that the club is located. As for turning a guy on in ways that they're girlfriend can't, that's easy people not just guys but people always want what they can't have. Some guys just like to be teased too. As for the bodies thing that's a tricky one. I mean I hope that your boyfriends a great guy that truly likes you for you and just likes a different body style then the one you have.

  • Well, a reputable strip club will involve mostly rubbing and some grinding. There is some touching. But the guys are limited as to what they can do to the girls. But if you are thinking they can stick their fingers in some girls are get a handjob, not a reputable establishment.

    Now, on the wrong side of town . . . who knows what the limits are...

    I do like going to to the strip club because it is a sort of taboo. And even though it is primarily socially unaccepted, well . . . taboos are fun.

    Sometimes to a guy (not all of us), strippers seem to be slutty, and that can be exciting.

    One time when I was at a club, when getting a lap dance, the girl told me it was okay to cum. I wish I would have, but it would have taken a lot more than just rubbing and grinding.

    In my case, my wife is not hot and has definitely let herself go over the years which is one reason why I like having a hot chick rubbing up on me. And no I will not tell my wife I think she not hot, because that would hurt her too much. So I keep it a secret when I go to the club.

    Hope this helps. But not hateful comments needed as a reply to mine :-)

  • Your insecurity level is a big problem...fix it. Just keep reassuring yourself..."I'm not the one with the herpes." At the end of the night, no guy wants a girl with a disease, whose p**** looks like piece of chewed bubble gum, or an asshole which has intestines shooting out of it.

  • any guy likes just seeing boobs or p**** its just our nature because men like me are more aroused easily

  • I find the idea arousing for about 2.5 seconds, then the overall grossness of it washes over me and that's that. There's sexy, and then there's like, "Why are you hanging upside-down off of that pole, miss?" So I'm like totally the wrong person to be commenting here. :)

  • Voluptous body is a great turn on for a guy. And the thing about touching depends upon the nature of the strip club and the price to be paid..

  • Why did I go to strip clubs, Well your probably going to call this lame butt honest to god, First thing I don 't smoke so why would I go to a bar full of old men sitting around drinking smoking when I could be in an atmosphere full of beautiful women? And also just because a man frequents a strip club you can almost bet that he is considered a safe customer within those establishment's the women are beautiful but if your relationship is secure and your confident with your self, a man like myself could walk into a strip club with you on his arm and have just as a good time with you there! As for the touching well that all depends on the $$ being spent so usually on most paydays, its a lot if that's your thing? And the part about being better than the one your with I believe was an issue that occurred before the strip club idea came up if you think about it.

  • Well, I do not think in most places, you can touch a female stripper. You can only look, but they do come close to you and show their stuff. As far as women's shows, they can do anything they want to a guy! Hand jobs, blow jobs, ass touching. I think it is because guys don't mind that kind of stuff! I would have to admit, it is nice to see other female nude bodies. That is a turn on in itself, but for me, I would not say they can turn you on in ways your girlfriend can't. Also, I never really get tired of my girlfriends body, Men think with our penises and that is the way we are programmed! These guys, however, would never want to date a stripper, unless the guy is young. Going to a strip club is really a form of entertainment to the guy. It would not ruin my marriage or relationship with my girlfriend if they did not mind. I would not leave my girl over a stripper. So, normally there should not be a problem with this unless you have a problem with it. There are exceptions though.

  • ive been to a strip club and there wasn't any touching at all. all they did was walk across a table in front of you and dance in your face if you flash them money. if you pay extra for a lap dance then yes you will get some extra contact but not much.

  • Why do guys like strippers? The same reason why Tpain's in love with a stripper: they've got the body of a goddess, with amplified body parts, they know what they're doing when pleasing a man, and they give guys what they want without having to speak a word. A strip club is the epitome of the term shallow but to men, it's just another form of porn. I'd say it's perfectly natural, because those kinds of girls are just staged figures. It may seem repugnant but it's just natural - not like those girls are actually interested in a guy; their ego won't allow them to love. Personally, I would never go to a strip club unless I got my crew with me because it's hilarious.

  • I don't like strip clubs never been and never will..No offense to anybody but to me its sad that they have to pay a girl to strip for you let alone some nasty whore who is probably riddled with diseases. An d most aren't even that attractive so Ill pass on that

  • Ok...I've never been to a strip club and don't understand it myself. So I'm with you there.

    The reason that I can IMAGINE why guys like strippers is because they are overtly sexual, slutty in a sense, and what their tiny brain mass wants. If your guy is into this, you just have to either deal with it and confront him about your issues with it. Or find a decent man.

    Stripper poles are not ok outside of a strip club. If you really have to dress, and act like a stripper to get attention, well you're not only disrespecting yourself, but you are also ruining it for other women.


    At the end of it all, pigs like strippers. Do you want a pig?

  • In this country, very little touching is allowed. In other countries, strip clubs are basically brothels. If your boyfriend going to strip clubs bothers you, you could always tell him what I discovered after going to my first strip club: strip clubs don't use women, they use men. In my opinion, there are few things sadder than seeing a bunch guys sitting around paying good money to have a woman take off her clothes, without even being able to touch.

    So I wouldn't put too much stock in what you read. Sounds more like they were trying to undercut your self-confidence, which isn't a hard thing to do to either sex. I bet they were probably selling something that promised to help make you look like a stripper too. So I doubt that he's going because strippers turn him on more than you. It's more likely he's going to be social with his guy friends.

    Hope that helps.

  • I don't find strip clubs that fun. It's kind of like a tease and usually you're not really allowed to touch them they just rub their boobs in your face and spread their legs a bit.

    One thing about strippers at least at one place I went (I've only been to 2 different ones) is that strippers are definitely not all crack heads. I went on a slow night and some of them are like really cool and fun to talk to and I actually ended up hanging out with them and they weren't sluts or anything. Nobody would ever know they were strippers by the way they acted or dressed. I still have a pretty good friend that strips and is almost done with her law degree and a very expensive school, so sometimes for money she does it. Of course there are the trashy girls there too though.

    I guess it's just nice to look at and they make you feel good about yourself because it's like they actually like you but really it's all about the money for them. I don't know anyone who would want to date a stripper though so if a boyfriend ever goes to a strip club I wouldn't worry about it. You could go too and they'll just about rip your shirt off and show everybody if you let them haha.

  • Because you get to see and touch boobies without the long seemingly endless crap that usually goes before that--i.e. flirting etc.

  • let me be clear, I am 40, and still single, I cannot speak for married men, or men who have women in their lives.

    if you read my essays, you would not that I am 40, never had a girlfriend, and I still get depressed over that fact that women won't give me the time of day. so every 6 months, or when I get depressed, I take a trip to the strip club. I know they only care about the $$$, but at least for an hour or 2, I can forget how lonely I am, and to be able to touch a woman. I think it is what keeps me from becoming suicidal from loneliness.

    so to those that judge men for going, remember, men are not born pigs, but us single guys need love and affection, and wether or not its real, we will go where we need to to get it.

  • Carlos Mencia did a good job summing it up why men like to go to strip clubs...he said it's because men always chase women and run to buy them drinks at the club just to get a chance to talk with them, but when a guy goes into a strip club the tables get turned and he gets really hot looking girls being nice to him and asking to dance with him. It makes the guy feel like a king.

  • Guys want a freak in the sheets. Be a lady on the street but turn that off in the bedroom. Little bewbies are fine, but maybe you should join a gym or get a home stripper pole to work out on.

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