My husband is a prude, what should I do?
So we've been married for a year now and we've always had a healthy sex life compared to most people. But I have a very high sex drive, I'd be happy...
Most Helpful Guy
Have you tried talking to him directly about your needs? How about meeting somewhere in the middle?
Here's some of the reasons he may have a lower sex drive:
2. Stress in general
4. You put on weight
5. He put on weight
6. Low testosterone
7. Some other medical condition
8. A combination of factors above or perhaps something else
You need to talk to him about why you love your husband inside of you and how manly that makes him feel. Don't be afraid to talk dirty to him outside of the bedroom. He needs to know that you love him and want him, not are scolding him because he isn't fulfilling your nightly desires (hey, many guys would kill for that). Ask him what you can do to help him and be prepared to listen carefully.
What Guys Said 6
I agree that some couples therapy is needed here.
Also, know that it is VERY common for the following things to reduce a man's libido:
- Stress! Financial issues, family problems, work stuff, whatever.
- Exhaustion. Long work hours, difficult commutes, lack of sleep.
- Medications. MANY medications reduce libido. SSRIs (depression meds) often do this.
If one or more of these is contributing to the problem, then perhaps you can help them in some way, and at least you can understand where at least part of the problem is coming from.
But counselling would probably be very helpful for you both.
That sucks. It seems like it's usually the guy that has this problem. From my experience I'd say the only way you can really try and change this is if you work on your relationship first and make sure both of you are happy and treating each other well. Assuming the relationship is good you just gotta let him know how you want sex more but try and do it in the least aggressive and nonthreatening way. Let him know it makes you happy, cared about or whatever. Try not to make him feel like he's wrong for not having a high drive rather it makes you feel happy. All I can think of is just ask him to try it if your into something kinky. I don't think guys care much about kinky sex as long as they get it. If he loves you he should do what you want sometimes though to compromise or that's pretty selfish obviously. He may just not be the kind of guy that wants to chat casually about sex. You'll probably realize at some point that you can't really change people unless they want to change. If you love him for who he is and he's sees it he may be more inclined to work on himself.
You guys are going to have to go see a coupled councilor. Sorry.
I hate to say this too you, but you have a really tough road ahead of you. peoples sex drives don't change much, you are going to have a hard time getting him to want sex more. I think you may consider a divorce.
But to answer your question, watch p*rn with him as for play and do what they are doing. Wear wigs, and dress in a costumes.
What Girls Said 1
you should be happy that he doesn't need sex to love you.
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