So we've been married for a year now and we've always had a healthy sex life compared to most people. But I have a very high sex drive, I'd be happy to do it every night. My husband, however, is the total opposite. He initiates maybe 2 or 3 times a month! The majority of the time I initiate and get turned down. He also doesn't like p*rn, never has. And he won't go down on me. I'm clean, don't smell funny, clean shaven, what's the problem? I go down on him all the time.
Now before you ask, yeah he's always had a lower sex drive than me but not this bad. And why did I marry him if the sex isn't phenomenal, well...I love him.
So my question is, how can I get him to be a little more kinky? Experiment more and all that without making him feel emasculated or like he's not good? He refuses to just chat casually about sex.
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Have you tried talking to him directly about your needs? How about meeting somewhere in the middle?
Here's some of the reasons he may have a lower sex drive:
2. Stress in general
4. You put on weight
5. He put on weight
6. Low testosterone
7. Some other medical condition
8. A combination of factors above or perhaps something else
You need to talk to him about why you love your husband inside of you and how manly that makes him feel. Don't be afraid to talk dirty to him outside of the bedroom. He needs to know that you love him and want him, not are scolding him because he isn't fulfilling your nightly desires (hey, many guys would kill for that). Ask him what you can do to help him and be prepared to listen carefully.
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