How to ask him to wear a condom?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend with benefits and I want to start go bare with him. However since we're only friends with benefits he can f*** as many girls as he likes. I'm worried he will come back to me with diseases. I know it's selfish of me to want him to wear a condom when he's f***ing other girls but I really want him to wear nothing with me. I don't know how to ask him you see. I'm not sure he would be offended if I said that he f*** other girls (happened once before with a Guy and he broke it off because he got hurt when I said it was OK if he f*** other girls) How should I approach it without stepping on his toes if he actually is a only-one-girl kind of guy?

[wpmason]

I might just be getting older and out of touch, but that just seems like a terrible idea. I personally would only want to do that with someone committed to me.

Do you know or have reason to believe that he is actively seeing anyone else? Other than just not being committed to you?

Also, just because you ask doesn't always mean that he'll do it. There could be another girl saying the exact same thing as you. You're really tempting fate with this whole thing.

Sorry if that isn't helpful at all. I wouldn't go bare outside of a relationship though, I'd hope there are more guys like me out there, so maybe he won't either.

[l-hedoniste]

"I know it's selfish of me to want him to wear a condom when he's f***ing other girls."

Now it's selfish to avoid other people's diseases?

You don't know who he's f*cking, you don't know if they're clean. If he isn't wearing a condom to protect himself, he should at least be wearing one to protect you.

[Anonymous]

First off, if he gets offended for you allowing him to sleep with other girls while in an friends with benefits situation, he's obviously not cut out to be a f*** buddy and is more or a relationship guy. Secondly, I agree with smokeytaboo...he could easily say he wears condoms with other girls, even when he doesn't. Or say he's clean because he thinks he is, even if he isn't. Stick with condoms to be safe. They suck, I know, but until you know for a fact that he's clean and isn't sleeping around with it her people, use condoms.

[K-dog]

It's not selfish because you're protecting yourself. Tell him that. Tell him your concerns and how much it means to you. If he doesn't respect that, you may need to move on. Don't put yourself in danger for fear of hurting his feelings.

[Smokeytaboo]

Yeah, he could so easily tell you he wears condoms with other girls but then doesn't end up doing it. I wouldn't risk it!

[J_White90]

Since when has protecting your own health been considered "selfish?"

[Anonymous]

No condom no sex EASY

[Anonymous]

"I know it's selfish of me to want him to wear a condom when he's f***ing other girls"

No it's not selfish. It's the only sensible and logical thing to do.

How messed up is your question?