Guys, can you really have sex without feeling attached or love for the girl at all?

[Anonymous]

Maybe love is a strong word. But I just mean you always hear or even read here on GAG about guys who can have casual sex and not feel anything for the girl, They f***, wake up the next morning, leave and that's it. She's nothing more than a passing memory. Is that really true? Even if the sex might not be as special/important as sex with someone you love would be, you can really just f*** her and not feel any emotional attachment?

[naturaldisaster]

Yes its exactly as how youve stated, a guy can screw a girl and have no emotional attachment to her what so ever. She is just a one night stand or a fling that happened to slip by. Guys can be sweet when they want to be and a**holes when they don't care for someone. For instance my ex, 2 years ago I was still in love with him but it seemed he wasnt, I told him "make love to me" (how stupid I was), he said "I don't have feelings for you" and he asked if I was sure that I wanted to do this. I said "yes I am sure" and we had sex, after we finished I asked him if he felt anything like "love" he simply said "no". I went home crying.

But most guys won't have any emotional attachment towards you when they have sex with you..like I said "its just a one night stand".

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Yes they can. it happens all the time. it's not like every time a guy has sex he has feelings for the girl. sometimes he does and sometimes he doesn't. guys fantasize about beautiful women when they see them, doesn't mean they want to cuddle with them and hold them in their arms. most of the time its about the sex. I've seen guys diss the hell out of girls they had sex with. obviously they don't even like them but they filled a need

[Anonymous]

I've had sex with guys I had no emotional connection with. It was just sex for the sake of having sex. I walked away and have never spoken to them again.

Now if you are asking could I repeatedly have sex with someone and not grow attached to them the answer is no. But in the case of the one night stands I've had yeah they don't mean a dam thing.

[NewYorkCity]

OF COURSE! I had so many bad love experiences that I just decided you know what, unless I'll find someone who really likes&loves me I will not get my self attached to a girl, only to play around with her. Yes I did had and have sex with no emotions attached whatsoever and it is not shocking at all, especially in the Ftup world that we living in. Get her to my bed do my dirty business ( yes ahh what's your name? cab is on the way) and you shouldn't be shocked as well. Girls too just want to F and that's it. Only because girls can't find a good trusting BF, doesn't mean girls don't want to fool around like guys do.

[ricke92m3]

Honestly I have had sex without feeling emotional attachment at the time. But the majority of the time I have sex is with a girl I'm dating and have feelings for. The times I just did it were on either. First dates that turned to sex which sometimes the girls became girlfriend's who I had feelings for, or just one night stands and have never talked again or went back for more by her request. Hope this helps.

[Asker]

the one night stands or the ones you never talked to again ... the sex and time you spent together essentially is meaningless then? do you even remember the girls or it's just not important?

[ricke92m3]

No I definitely remember every girl I have slept with. Its not that I think they are worthless and I do treat them with respect its just that I'm not in love and don't want to be with them. A question I have for you is why do these girls agree to have sex if girls can't do it without attachment or do they really fall that fast?

[Asker]

:) I don't know how to answer that. Maybe sometimes you think you can do it without becoming attached and then realize afterward that you overestimated yourself. Maybe they felt something during it that they didn't expect but the guy apparently didn't feel at all. Maybe sometimes you are already in love and want to feel close to the guy, even though you know it's going to hurt when he just walks away like nothing happened the next morning.

[ricke92m3]

I honestly understand what your talking about. I guess guys just don't relate sex to being so emotional like girls do. But when I am having sex with a girl that I really like or even love there is no comparison, it is so much better than when you have no feelings just because of the connection.

[ricke92m3]

By the way are you going through something right now that made you ask this question?

[imonfire]

Am I physically able to do that? of course. But I personally don't do that. I can and do make love to people that I have no interest in dating or falling in love with. But I wouldn't have sex with someone that I'm not attracted to, have no interest in, feel no connection to.

There is a big difference between being casual about sex and treating sex the way you are describing. Basically, I don't ever sleep with anyone that I feel anything less than excited to have been with.

[baliguy11]

No. I cannot. Might not be a long term thing but I still feel some connection. not just a quick F. I can remember everyone I ever F'd, even if she got the benefit, not me.

[Asker]

i think maybe you are the exception based on all the other replies here :) that's a good thing

[baliguy11]

OK. I am not a wimpy guy. I just love women. Maybe that is my problem.

[djhohrath]

Absolutely.

[Love2Ball]

It definitely depends on the guy but yea.

[bigmike16]

Depends

[Anonymous]

i think many guys can. it's how men and women are wired differently.

[Anonymous]

yes they can