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My boyfriend told me he had a threesome, foursome and cheated on every girl... Opinions guys?

I really like my boyfriend a lot. We have been dating for about 4 months now. He told me he had a threesome a while back ago. It just came out while we were texting one day. It made me sick to think about him with two other girls. It makes me feel unadventurous and bad in bed. He's also had a foursome before as well, and has cheated on every girlfriend except for me. He told me he likes me way more and could never have a threesome with me. And it hurt his feelings to tell me that he had one. How do I get passed this? I feel like I'm falling in love with him but I'm putting up a wall because I don't want to get hurt. I don't know why hearing this broke my heart. Sometimes I feel like I can't trust him and he'll only cheat on me in the end? In the beginning of our relationship he also told me he's never been in love before? Guys, what do you think?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Everyone has a past. If he was honest with you about his sexual past and history about cheating, I'd say he seems to have good intentions. By saying he wouldn't want to have a threesome, he means he values you and your sexual relationship is private and special to him. A history of cheating does increase the chances someone would cheat again but I'd be more concerned for you if he HADN'T been honest with you about it. He values you more, so you shouldn't feel inadequate in the bedroom but insecurity about his past will make you feel that way. Focus on your confidence. If you're going to be with him you have to learn to drop your walls and trust him or there virtually is no relationship. In the end you can't control what others do, excepting this fact is a little piece of peace in itself. I think he has good intentions, Good luck to you.

    • *accepting

    • Thanks, that's really good advice.

  • Well, my now fiancé told me he had a threesom while we were together. I really love him, but I am still in pain I try to put on an I'm happy front sometimes. I tried to put it out of my head. I dream about it. My thoughts are who why me. I want more answers but he looks at me, like he doesn't want to talk about it. What do I do?

Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't know what to suggest about coping, and your feelings.

    I think he could absolutely be happy with just you.

    But he needs to be very open with you about what he's feeling, and you need to KNOW that he is open, and that he is telling you what he needs (hopefully the same is happening the other way).

    I do know people (male and female) who were never monogamous till they met the person they're with.

    I would not assume you can't compete with threesomes. Seriously, he has one penis, its not like you can't make him feel as much pleasure. Probably they were ugly skanks who he slummed it with just to make it happen and you're hot anyway :D

    He's choosing to be with you for a reason.

  • Is this seriously a question? If he cheated on every other girlfriend "other" than you what makes you think he won't do the same to you? It sounds like lip service to me. I'm not trying to be harsh, but I would not believe any of the things he's telling you. Only you can tell, but if it were me I would be particularly vigilant of what he's doing. Although I would likely leave him. He is honest so I have to give credit where credits due, but in my opinion you don't know where you're going until you know where you've been, catch my drift?

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  • He just posted a billboard in front of you that says

    I am VERY sexually educated and YOU can learn a lot from me in bed

    Just ask me to teach you ANYTIME, anywhere, with any others you wish but NO LOVE to be attached

    He gets an ego stroke for this bragging (ture or not) and thinks he's impressed you

    You get over this by telling him there doesn;t seem to be any future in him for you, as sex=love to you and someday soon you'll want both from a candidate that he obviously doesn't qualify.

  • "So, what changed your mind about exclusive relationships?"

    Make sure he gives you a *good* answer.

    • i've asked him that before. he says he like's me so much that he couldn't sleep with another girl and he wouldn't cheat on me. but it's hard to get him to open up at times and he doesn't like talking about the past...

  • he is probably std infested . Run !

  • If a guy was posting this the answers would be "don't judge someone by their past". But since you are a girl it's: "player once, player forever". Double standard?

  • I would be careful in this relationship and really think hard about it.

  • i think a threesome and a foursome sound awesome, but only if its all girls.

    about your boyfriend, he could be lying, or he could be telling the truth, but could still cheat

  • dump him and try to do better

  • Sounds like you got a keeper . One who will connstantly remind you that he is a whore and you are unadventerous. Best of luck

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