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Should I sleep with more people before I get married so I don't regret it later?

I am NOT in a relationship. So now I am contemplating what it is I really want in a woman... I meet women but I am not really looking for a relationship at the moment... should I just enjoy being single and not feel guilty about sleeping with whom ever I want? Will I regret not being sexual with more women later in life? I only ask because I have met plenty of married women who say, "I got married too soon and should have experimented more" and then they want to cheat with me.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • My wife and I were just talking about this the other day. And she and I both commented how nice it is that neither one of us has ever been with anybody else because it adds a whole new level of trust and specialness to the act between us. Sex is very intimate and requires a lot of trust. A bit of that trust is lost when one or both partners are on uneven grounds. Besides, you always bring just a little bit of your past relationships into your current relationship, even if you conscientoulsy try not to.

    Just think of it this way, would you want your future wife to sleep around with several guys before you get married just so she wouldn't regret it?

    I have never once regretted never having been with another woman and I think my sex life is fantastic (been happily married 7 years)

    Another thing to consider, the stats aren't on your side if you decide to fool around with other women before your marriage. Individuals who view premarital sex favorably, and individuals who have many sexual partners are more likely to have their marriage end in divorce or separation.

    • Awww, see if you could find a guy like you then that would be a great scenario. but I wouldn't like to be a virgin mary, if he'd slept with 50 chicks. you no?

  • Try to find the area between "need to be in a relationship to have sex" and " doesn't matter if I even know the girls, just hook up with anyone." There's no need to limit yourself to needing a relationship to have sex as long as you tell the girl that and both of you are comfortable with it. But at the same time, you'll regret it if you let yourself become a manwhore who sleeps with anyone just to "get experience". So be sure that it's what you want and don't go overboard with it. Beyond that, just have fun!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Don't even feel bad about sleeping with someone, unless of course you just did it to do it, I think you should allow yourself to be free with your sexuality I mean if your attracted to someone and it comes to that point then go for it. But don't feel like you can't enjoy yourself, and if the right girl comes along then hey be happy with her. I know personally I still fool around with my ex boyfriend, we can't stand each other outside of bed, but sexually we are really good together, but I'm still looking for the right guy for me as far as a relationship

    Hope that helps

  • well if you're having these thoughts you're probably not ready for marriage. Unless you're religious you might regret marrying the first person you sleep with. But sometimes I wish that I had ONLY slept with my current boyfriend and nobody before him. I think even just sleeping with 3-5 people before marriage is fine, you don't need to have a huge list. And if you meet the right one early there is no reason to say no, just because you haven't slept around.

    • Hehe =P

  • I would suggest no.

    Typically people intend on being with the person they marry till death, or so they claim.

    Do you want to live to your death having sex with your wife and comparing her to all the women you've been with?

    I wouldn't.

    Especially if you did meet someone you was really good in bed, then you got married, and it wasn't so good or as good.

    Then you've got that everlasting craving, you know?

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  • Yes, definitely get out there and "sow your wild oats" as they say, otherwise, you may wind up resenting your future wife (and yourself) for not getting to sleep with more women. Just be safe and have fun.

  • you shouldnt feel bad provided both of you had clear intetions about the whole thing.

    Hey you are young, its best to experiment now because at the end of the day experience is what ultimately makes you good in bed.

  • Definitely

    this may sound bad but 1 part (out of like 10 tho) of the reason I broke up with my boy of 2 yr's was I want to travel and live life as a young chick, not live the married never go out life, that I was living

  • I would strongly recommend substantial sexual experience before you get married. Not because it prevents cheating but because you owe it to your spouse to be a competent lover. Experience builds that competence.

  • NO YOU SHOULD NOT

    • Aawhy?

  • Most defiantly your only free once

  • not really. if anything, it will hurt more than help. because you will feel guilt that you've f***ed around with so many girls.

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