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My boyfriend is pressuring me to give him a BJ?

My boyfriend keeps trying to persuade me into giving him a blow job but to be honest I don't like the whole BJ idea, its just not for me. But he keeps bugging me about it? At first the conversation started of as him joking around about it and now he is Serious and can't stop talking about it. What should I say or do to make him drop the subject? Plus, Out of curiosity, what's the big deal with guys wanting a girl to give them a Blow job so much? Lol
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Well, between sixstring and sovetskii13, you have a good answer to your question, why men like it and what to say to him to get him to drop the subject.

    He may drop it for now, but know that he won't drop it forever, or even for long. You are going to need to realize that your boyfriend wants this and it may very well be a deal breaker for him. You need to ask him, point blank, just ask, it's the only way to know.

    Don't do anything you don't want to do, but don't rule it out forever either. You never know what you may enjoy at some point in your life. Maybe you won't want to ever do this with him, that's OK. You may want to with someone else. Keep an open mind to most things. Do a little research on the subject, you have a computer, it's easy. You may find that it isn't as nasty an idea as you think. You never know. If it is a deal breaker, move on now to avoid the pressure & unpleasantness.

    • Thank you! =)

    • You are welcome.

  • Is there a specific reason why you don't want to give him a BJ? Or are you just not ready? Because those are two entirely different issues...

    Either way, if your boyfriend really wants a BJ and you're not willing to, you have to tell him that and talk to him about it. He may be understanding (although I doubt if if he keeps persistently asking you and pressuring you) or he might break up with you. Are you two having sex?

    And guys like BJs because they feel awesome.

    • Thank you! :)

  • Don't ever let someone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. Guys are just stupid and selfish sometimes. Not all of them are like this, but many tend to be that way. Obviously he doesn't have much respect for you if he continues to do it and he doesn't deserve you.

    • Thanks! :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • When we're having sex, all the time in our mind is running "I hope she's satisfied. I shouldn't come yet, she hasn't come yet either. Is this doing it for her?"

    We have to hold back.

    But when our d*** is sucked, it's about our pleasure. We don't have to worry about climaxing too fast. So we can get into it much more than regular sex.

    Then there's the extremely hot sight of seeing her use her mouth on our penis. And it feels great... the saliva, the throat muscles, the warm breath.

    And finally there is no risk of pregnancy and no clean up needed.

  • If he is pressuring you into doing something you are not comfortable, then he is not a caring boyfriend. You should try to reason with him. Tell him that you are not ready for that yet, and you would rather do things like cuddling, and making out for a while. If he does not understand, or care about how you feel, then he is not a good boyfriend.

    • I really like your answer, Thanks you! =)

    • agreed and you should dump him! if he gets you do it, then he knows he can pressure you into having sex. if he can make you do what he wants he will probably turn into an even more controlling guy, and that can lead to abuse!

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  • don't even respond to what he says, don't entertain or fuel this one-way conversation.

    Every single time he starts to talk about it, segue into a pointless discussion about the weather. If he complains, continue, saying something like "I sure hope iti s nice outside tommorow". If he says why, tell him because you are going shopping for a new boyfriend.

    If he whines further, ask him how he likes it when you talk about things he doesn't appreciate, like the weather.

  • Ohh BJ is awesome, especially deepthroat maan. But if you don't like the idea of it and just don't like to suck coc's of course it is better not to do. Just try to explain to him and try to make him understand

    • You dude just wrote a perfect message! You man lol you'r good, real good.

  • Threat him with break-up.

    Bad attitude requires bad methods.

    Think for one more second what he's asking you to do.

    To suck his motherf***in' d***!

  • Sorry that your boyfriend is jerk, yeah guys like blowjobs, but I would never force my girlfriend to do something that she doesn't want to.

    • I like your answer, thanks a lot! =)

    • You're welcome, I have girlfriend and I wouldn't never ask her to do something that she doesn't want ;) It's enough she to look me as she look at me now ;)

    • Aww =)

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  • Some people are not sexually compatible...if you did not wish to give me a bj, I would be fine with that..even prefer it...however...I would seriously leave you if you did not let me go down on you...(:

  • Does he go down on you?

    • No he doesn't because I don't think it would be right for him to go down on me and I'm not going down on him. It wouldn't be fair.

  • he's obviously not right for you if he's being too pushy

    • Thank you, your right. :)

  • A blowjob on a Christmas morning with the snow falling and a glass of Cognac is about as close to heaven as I can picture...

    • Hmmm, now that didn't really help her with her question, did it?

    • It sure did. She asked "Out of curiosity, what's the big deal with guys wanting a girl to give them a Blow job so much?" and I answered.

  • do I like having all that pressure on me to do something unique and special for our anniversary or her birthday? no, but I do it because its right and I know she will really like it if I pull it off...its not all about what I want or what makes me comfortable. I'm willing to temporarily sacrifice my happiness to make her happy

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