I've never given a blow job - what do I do!?! nor have a kissed someone. I'm so unexperienced...tips anyone?

so I'm gonna kiss my boyfriend soon and give a bj but what do I do? any tips at all? what do guys like better sex or bj?

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  • you need to keep switching it up to vary the stimulation. a key thing is also how you act in general. you need to be enthusiastically into it and acting like you are loving it. many girls go into this quite ashamed kind of mode when they go to give head. you need to act like you are really into it, look up at his eyes a lot, get sloppy and just go with it. make the mmmmmmm sound, like you love the taste of it. swirl your tongue around the head of the penis. lick his balls while you jerk him off. rub the head of his **** on your lips without putting it in your mouth. put the head in and out of your mouth but not very far, just past the lips. keep your lips tight around the head and go in and out a little like you are sucking on a lollipop, but don't actually suck too hard. sometimes it is nice to see you only taking healf the head in. we like to see your lips wrapped around it and still see some of the head. it is really nice if you are doing the lollipop thing while looking innocently up at us. we like it when you act like you need to suck our penis or you won't be happy. rub his penis head on the inside of your cheek sometimes.by the way it is way better if we are standing up or sitting in a chair and you are on your knees, it is just a hotter situation and we can see everything.here is the real kicker, master this and he will be in heaven: when you are sucking it pull it out every once in a while, look up at your man in his eyes and slap his penis against your extended tongue a bunch of times and then rub his **** quickly all over your tongue but keep your tongue extended and steady and move the **** to make it rub on your tongue, all the while still staring him in the eyes. don't be afraid to get sloppy and dirty about it, we like that. some girls get alll nervous and think that they have to do it some specific way, but generally we want you to lose yourself in it and just be enthusiastic and sloppy about it. we love the fact that you are getting so close and personal with our penis and happily rubbing it all over you tongue, lips and even face. slapping and rubbing it on your breasts now and again is always nice too while you take a little break from sucking.it sounds kind of perverted, but one of the great things about getting head is that the girl is looking sweet and innocent and she can barely take our big throbbing penis in her mouth but she is trying and getting it rubbed all over her. we like that you are taking a kind of submissive position to us, getting down on your knees and working hard just to make us feel great. for me the best part is watching her do all those nasty sloppy things with my penis.oh, also grip his balls when you are doing it and make sure to give them a little attention to.

What Guys Said 10

  • Hmm you talked about doing three things in your question that you've never done yet... . kissing, a bj and having sex. I think what you should do is kiss him before you do those others.. like a longggggggg time before. Meantime, you decide what YOU like best... not what do guys like best. Also, make sure you have some pretty deep feelings for him and trust him completely before you even consider those last two. Those could get you std's or pregnant or not too great of a reputation in a hurry if he's just some current boyfriend that you just happen to like now and think each other is cute.

  • Hey, I'll give you a few tips.1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone.10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.You can learn more here ---> link

  • you're eighteen or older and have never kissed everyone? that's hot.

  • add me and I'll fill you in.

  • i can't speak for every guy but me personally-the sloppier the better (a lot of saliva)-gagging sounds make him feel bigger-try to go as deep as you can-eye contact is good but just don't stare at us . . .makes us feel weird- don't leave the balls hanging (no pun intended..lol)- if your mouth can't take it all, use your hand to compensate for what your mouth can't handle.

  • Wow...talk about putting the horse before the cart. You havne't kissed a guy and yet you are worried about bj tips. As for the bj...for your first time, I would just encourage you to pay attention to his moaning. Don't be scared of what you are doing. There are enough examples on tv and the movies now to give you a little education, but you have to be willing to follow through with it. One caution. Some girls freak out when the give a bj, and then make the guy feel like he is gross or disgusting. That will kill a relationship. So if you are going to give one, commit to it no matter what.

  • You've never even kissed someone and you are thinking about giving your boyfriend a blowjob?!I am guessing you are not over 18 either. Even if you are, slow down. There is no need to rush this stuff. Oral sex is not like a kiss. It is extremely intimate for deep, committed, mature relationships. Don't make it cheap. Don't be cheap.

    • Now of days blowjobs are every day things they are just as common as a peck on the check I'm a senior in high school and baby these girls blow:)

  • Well that's certainly not a regular thing to do, are you doing this because you want to or because he asked you to? I agree with the guys above this is quite the big step and well don't rush stuff, and answering your question I'd say theyre equally awesome because most of the time one leads to the other

  • Bj is just foreplay...unless you're in the 7th grade! Grow up!

  • holy crap, maybe you should slow down and take one step at a time?

What Girls Said 5

  • Well it's very simple. If you've never done it, don't try any teeth because you won't be experienced.. Go for full lips and tongue and don't always do the same thing. It's better to have a wide variety of things to do to him. Try also not using just your mouth.. Maybe play with the bottom portion while your giving one or anything of that genra! Take your tongue and go back and forth really fast on his head, he loves it when you do that with a mini hand job below at the same time. But if you always do that, it gets boring so you have to change it up. Also try deepthroating, it makes them go crazy (: They also have this tender spot right between their balls below the lower part of the penis.. If you rub it at the same time, it's a big winner. What they like the most is when he cums in your mouth.. Whether you spit or swallow is your choice but they will love you forever if you let them do it (:Hope I helped (:I have a site that's very helpful, so check it out.. You'll have all your answers here (: link

  • Wow. Slow down! You haven't even KISSED your boyfriend yet, and you want to give him a blow job? Wait a few months, really. A relationship isn't just about the sex, even though it is a fun part of it. Just slow down, don't feel pressured to give him a blow job, or do anything with him until you're ready. And if he pressures you, then it's time to find a new boyfriend.

  • I know that most guys will like blow jobs better because they don't have to do much. We all know they're lazy :). Be rough with the handling. And also make sure you are sucking hard but sweetly. You must be ready to do this though! If you are pressured into doing the bj it will not be as fun rather you want to yourself. Surprise him when you do it too. Wear a low-cut shirt and a lacy or really small bra so when you're sucking he can see down your shirt. It will make him harder, which means more fun for you!

  • Be enthusiastic, like you love his penis and want to make love to it with your mouth...Don't just suck...change up the speed a bit, take it out of your mouth and lick and kiss other areas, including the balls...just be gentle, yet firm.It should not feel awkward.Say what you feel...examples...Do you like when I lick it...I like it...It tastes good...you are really hard...its so big! I can't wait for your cum...I want to taste it----all good examples.When he is going to finish, ask him if he wants to come in your mouth or on your face or your breasts or butt. All of these can be very sexy and stimulating for him, as long as you are eager and willing.If you want to delve deeper and do some research, try a guide. A friend of mine told me about this site that offers a step by step guide to giving the best oral sex to your guy. You can check it out here: link It is well worth it. I had no idea there were so many things you could do to give your guy the best oral of his life!Most importantly, have fun and don't take it too seriously or worry about anything, it will be fun for him to have his penis in your mouth...pretty hard to mess that up. And make sure he returns the favor!

  • Well kissing is easy, he will probably just jam is tongue in your mouth :P as for tips, put some lip balm on before, nothing too intense just a little chapstick Makes kissing smoother.As for oral, lick it like an ice cream cone, swirl your tongue around the head, alternate between sucking hard and sucking fast. Try and deep throat, but I wouldn't go too far incase you start gagging.

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