How do I ask my boyfriend to go down on me more?

[raineydaygurl]

my boyfriend of 7 months and I have sex pretty often. usually at least 5 times a week plus I give him blow jobs whenever he wants them. I know a lot of girls can't get off from just penetration and I'm one of them. usually we have sex he cums and its over. I have only gotten off when he goes down on me and he says he enjoys doing it. I got sexually frustrated before so I asked if I could get off just once in every 4 or 5 times. it has been awhile and yesterday I gave him a blow job made him dinner and his lunch for the next day and gave him a backrub and I had texted him earlier in the day and told him I wanted sex when he got off work. so after all that we had sex but I figured he'd go down on me because he said he would after I gave him the bj. but he didn't and I'm getting kinda frustrated. I feel bad asking him for it because I can take awhile sometimes and his neck gets sore. is there a good way for me to bring this up to him? without sounding like a selfish bitch? am I asking to much? help much appreciated.

[Red_Arrow]

When a couple really cares for each other (sexually), they will want their partner to get the most out of each session. And that usually means having wonderful foreplay and then a glorious orgasm. (Then maybe the whole thing over again!) For a caring man, that means if the woman can orgasm and wants to, he should do whatever it takes to makes sure she "gets hers". (Some women enjoy the foreplay so much, that an orgasm isn't always needed. That is why I mentioned the "wants to" part.)

Also, a man usually has length of time following orgasm that he is not in the least interested in sex. It may be a period of several minutes to much longer, and he may even need to sleep before he "rises to the occasion" again. So it is important that a couple usually ensures that the woman's needs are taken care of before the man orgasms.

If you have made your concerns as clearly to him as you have to us, he is falling down on his responsibilities.

As to his neck getting sore, he can face down, coming from your torso, rather than up between your legs, and his neck will not get bent back. However, a valid complaint would be his mouth getting sore (honest complaint for women, too). Taking a break from oral rests the mouth and also adds the spice of variety since he can continue stimulation with his fingers.

If he does not make the effort to try to bring you to orgasm every time (try means that we know he may not succeed every time), the he is seeing you as a sexual object, rather than a sexual partner.

By the way, an exception to making sure she cums first every time is when he can normally bounce back for more sex quickly, and he is well rested. Then a woman may want to quickly bring him to orgasm and let him rest a few minutes before starting again. That way, he will be able to last much longer the second time and bring her a lot of pleasure before either or both of them cum.

All of the above can be considered generally, but mostly it is aimed at couples where the woman has difficulty reaching orgasm while having intercourse and needs special attention to her to get her there.

Bottom line - - at this point you need to sit down with him while you are not having sex and make it clear that he is not bringing you the pleasure you deserve. If you can't get him to take care of your needs, then you may need to reevaluate your relationship with him. Sex is not the only important thing for a couple, but at your stage of relationship, it is one of the major important things.

[raineydaygurl]

we almost never have foreplay either,sometimes he'll play with my boobs for a bit but then its down to buisness,and I love foreplay so its a little disappointing sometimes

[Red_Arrow]

Thanks for BA :-) You have now added little foreplay to the mix. He is using you as a sexual object. "Almost never have foreplay" and the other things you have said means he sticks it in, enjoys it, orgasms, and sex is over for you both, though it really didn't do much for you. I do not know what you consider awesome about him, but it is obvious he does NOT care about your sexual enjoyment. Hundreds of guys would love and worship someone like you. Go find one of them!

[Anonymous]

"Baby, I love when you go down on me. It turns me on so much, and it makes me want you so bad. I want you to lick me, kiss me and take me over the effing rainbow."

"My appointment book lists you, and you are having dinner at the y."

"I need you to come over because I am h0rny as he!.. But I need to get off on some oral before you put it in tonight."

"I love giving you and your c all the attention I can, but baby, I need you and your tongue to give me some attention, too. I want it BAD. Don't worry, your turn is coming."

[vanillalatte]

whats the 2nd one mean? I don't get it?

[Opinion Owner]

A person lays flat on the ground. Now, move her legs apart. See the letter Y?

[This_is_a_complement]

lmao " I want you to lick me, kiss me and take me over the effing rainbow"

[broadwaybebe223]

if I were the guy I would be expecting dinner at the YMCA lol

[madhatters4]

how did things turn out?

[Littletad]

It sounds like he's been getting used to you doing MORE than him. So no, it's not wrong of you to ask for him to have more input on YOUR needs.

[Carson_3]

Tell your guy you want him going down on you. Sit on his face if you have too. Any guy who denies that shouldn’t be with you.

[scrap422]

Why would he not want too that's the best part

[Romero0071234]

No you're not being a bitch.. you treat him like a King.. its the least he can do.

[Anonymous]

just talk to him! you aren't asking too much!

[Anonymous]

You are not asking to much. You just need to be clear...honey, as you know, I only come when you go down on me, how would you feel about making me come right now?

Also, make him go down on you before you go down on him...motivation works magic.