Would you have a 3-some with a FWB?

[Anonymous]

My friends with benefits said he wants to have a three some and the thought of him being with another girl pisses me off A LOT...I know he isn't monogamous to me... but I can block it out... but if I'm physically there watching I don't know how I'm going to handle it... I think its either because I like him a lot or it could be a combo of jealousy issues I already have... I think I might do it because he wants to. and I'm not bi. The thought of eating a girl out makes me sick... and even on the level that I might be willing to go down on one is like beyond hot and I wouldn't want to share him with her or her with him. I don't even know how I'm going to do it. If you ever had a threesome what do you even do? do you have to go down on the girl? I don't even want him to finger her and I don't want my fingers in a girl either. like I don't want the bitch to even look at me. The thought of it literally makes me feel like murdering her. I sorta feel bad for not knowing the girl or anything about her and hating her so much. If I do it 100% wasted do you think it's possible that I could get over my jealousy issues or maybe make it worse. I'm usually pretty good about concealing my jealousy issues but I know they already starting to show before hand. I had a dream about it before he mentioned it but it was fine then I don't know how but in my dream I wasn't the girl I am in real and I didn't like him as much.

[lottierose]

If you don't want to do it, don't do it. Simple as. A threesome is something a quite a lot of people might be interested in, but that doesn't mean everyone is. If you don't want to have a threesome, I don't think it would be enjoyable for you or him, and the biggest thing is that you both feel comfortable and happy with what you do.

You're right, you might have feelings for him, and I think this is something you need to think about more 'cause only you can tell if you do or not. But either way, I'm sure there are other things he'd want to do or fantasies he might have that you would feel a lot more comfortable with. Let him know you don't feel comfortable with idea, and don't do something just to make him happy (especially when there's probably alternative fantasies he'd enjoy too)

[Fran8182]

I have been in this situation before with an ex boyfriend and female friend. There were some jealousy issues, but it wasn't too bad. Fast forward to now, I myself am also in a friends with benefits situation and this very topic has come up. Like, to a T. I am actually really repulsed by the idea, and I guess I got more feelings there than I should. For me, right now, it would be a major jealousy issue. I want tp snap the fuck out jist thinking about it. He reallllly is pushing for this, too. And the other chick has feelings for him, and when I spoke to her I get the feeling she would only do this to make him happy, so to me this could get very messy. My advice is if you cannot deal with the thought of him sticking his dick in someobe else right in front of you, do not go for it. It will hurt, way worse than the thoughts of it even do.

[katiesmuff]

As long as I knew who the third party was and was OK with him or her I would go for it in a flash!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have a threesome at all, but I wouldn't be in an friends with benefits relationship either. Perhaps it's time to find a new guy to have sex with or get past any feelings you have. You've grown somewhat attached. He's not. He just wants to have lots of great sex with you and other girls. A threesome would be great sex for him. Why not indulge him?

[Asker]

I got into it at first not knowing I had assumed we were dating & I was already attached I hate friends with benefits relationships

[Opinion Owner]

Yet you're mulling over a possible threesome. I never noticed they auto corrected f.w.b into friends with benefits until now. lol that's weird.

[Asker]

ya because he wants to do it & I don't want him to go yet.

[Opinion Owner]

Alright. I guess this is one of those situations that you have to be in to really understand it, you know?

[Asker]

I don't stick around for the sex A lot of guys in my phone constantly message me saying they want to date me... mostly b.c I told them already id never do friends with benefits again... a thing of the past except I really like this guy

[Opinion Owner]

But he's not monogamous with you. It sounds like he likes you, but not in the same way. I don't see how this will progress in any way.

[Asker]

is that sarcastic b.c I don't see how it sounds like he likes me if he isn't monogamous to me

[Opinion Owner]

No. I mean, he is a friend that you have sex with, right? He likes you and the arrangement, but not in the same way you do. Or are you just a booty call? Someone that he spends limited time with to keep her on the hook and calls when he isn't doing anyone else that night.

[Asker]

we hang out once a week but we use to hang out in the beginning 3-5 nights a week before we started having sex... he use to also call me like everyday

[Opinion Owner]

Well, he likes you in some capacity if he hangs out with you.

[crazybastard]

you hang out with weird people. seems like you are a nice girl who would be perfect for a relationship. just find a boyfriend that would make you happy

[Asker]

he is one person but he isn't weird... & I'm more for relationships... 2bh I hate friends with benefits situations just feelings were already sorta developed before I knew we were... & my only problem is I don't want him to go in any case friends with benefits or relationship. so I guess as long as he stays I couldn't move on atm.

[crazybastard]

seems like you love him. well good luck to you with your feelings. I hope everythings turns out great.

[Asker]

yep I had that figured out

[Lupianwolf]

if it's a friends with benefits why not?

but I wouldn't force someone into it

[Asker]

he isn't forcing me to do it I never said anything about him forcing me to but I just want to make him happy. I guess

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

No and I wouldn't have a FWB anyways.

[vptwarrior]

what is FWB

[dudeman]

i avoid everybody in this scenario like the plague

[dvs251]

tell him you'll only do it if he doesn't screw her, trust me you can still have fun. are you willing to be with her? that will be his main turn on anyway

[Anonymous]

you like him to way much... id say f*** no. if it was MMF... he should treat you like a princess. If you're willing to it... Shit it couldn't even been with f***ing beyonce I'd still say no. I wish I had a girl like you real sh*t. ( if you don't kill the other girl) I don't know how drinking will handle it... you might turn extremely mean intoxicated and you might really kill her so I probably wouldn't advise it. or pretend she's not there.