Why do men want ANAL sex ?

My husband has his heart set on anal sex. We have tried but ,im just not at all wild about it. (To eachs own) just not my thing, I feel bad not to, but for the life of me just can not follow through. I have good intentions. lol. does that count ?

 

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  • Just like you can't eat the same thing every night - men don't want to have sex the same way every time. It's just another variation of getting off - nothing more, nothing less.

    Though there are women out there - and men - who can get some pleasure from it, it does nothing for me. So it's crossed off of my sexual experiences to have list. I'm in the same boat as you sista, sometimes I have good intentions - but inevitably change my mind. Just not my thing.

    I think giving my guy a blow job is good enough as far as doing something solely for him, so I guess he's just going to have to be happy with what he gets. Don't feel bad for not doing something you don't enjoy. Especially when there are many, many things you CAN enjoy together.

What Guys Said 9

  • its goooooooooooooooood

  • Not every man wants it you know.. >_>

    The ones that do.. Just want to experiment.

  • i think anal is gross to. its just sooooooo WEIRD that instead of claiming all that the p**** has to offer guys wanna do a girl in the but that wasn't intended for that. there crap in there ahahah its like everyone forgot about that. there's no way the crapper is better than the pussy...theres just NO WAY!

  • Anal sex tends to be an occasional treat for both partners. It requires a lot of time and effort to do it right and that isn't something you want to do every time. Most of my partners enjoy anal but it is a fairly infrequent activity for the above reason.

    Here's something funny: One of my lovers really likes anal and can't find anyone who is willing to do it with her. While lots of guys say they want to do anal, they apparently lose their passion right about the time its time to play.

    If you just can't find a way to make anal ok for you, you might want to substitute something else. Bring a friend to bed with you or take him to a swing party or Tie him up and blow him slowly. No single act defines a great sex partner but a willingness to find happy alternatives certainly counts in your favor.

  • Anal sex is really tight and feels really good. Also its a lot warmer in there too so it feels really nice for the guy. Anal is actually fun because you have to ease into it, you have to stimulate her and loosen her up before you can go right in, so it arouses you a lot more and it feels rewarding... you know? lol

    Anal is more hardcore, especially when you get a vibrator involved, you can stimulate the girl in two different places and the vibration also stimulate the guy. It trully is a fun experience ;)

  • I don't know. I don't really want it.

    Maybe small guys want it for the tightness?

    • I wasn't joking, that was my best guess

    • Haha! that's a good one

  • Not all of us like it! I'm so crazy about about female genitals that I'd never want to do it unless it was very important to my partner!

    I don't think you should do anything you're not comfortable doing; after all you have tried it!

    I suggest you make an extra effort with the things you know you both like.

  • To your first question. It's probably because he's already getting bored with doing all those other things with you... not a good sign. To your second question, good intentions probably don't count in his eyes. ha! What you could do is put those good intentions to good use and agree to try in once more. Then when you do, make bigger deal about not liking it more than you have in the past. It has nothing to do with sex of having sex... like "anal sex". What it really is, is just a guy sticking his di*k up a girl's butt... a place it's not suppose to be. I've never heard a girl say she's enjoyed it except on here, and only a very, very few. Maybe instead, you could try to see if you can show your enjoyment more than before when doing all the other sexual things you do together. I don't care what anybody else says, I don't think a girl, girlfriend or wife should ever have to agree or have to act like she enjoys having a di*k up her butt. By all standards, it's just not suppose to be up there. Just try not to let this be a huge issue in your marriage. Talk it over as much as you need to and try to find out what's the big deal with him having his mind sex on doing that? Like what's in it for him, and what does he think is in it for you? Maybe when he has to answers those questions he might not think it's the greatest thing for your marriage.

  • B Because its SO notty!

    In all seriousness, its because its so naughty. and we see it in porn and it looks like something I would like to try at least once in my life you know... besides, wouldn't a girl like to try it at least once? (with lube of course...)

What Girls Said 3

  • i like anal sex when its right...it hurts at first but when you get going it gets nice ...just most girls back off at first because it hurts!

  • i don't know why some men like it either,i always thought it was because it was a taboo thing,you see it in a lot of porno movies,and also a domination thing a way for him to feel in control,cos lets face it its no fun for a woman,so you either tell him that you don't enjoy it and are happy to do oither things to pleasure him,or you try and go along with it but tell him he has to do something that you really like,i can tell you the more you do it the easier it gets,but unless you are really into it,it won't be enjoyable for you,hope this helps a little,and if he really loves and respects you he won't pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

  • It's one of those things that men love because it's sooo taboo and feels tighter to them. Personally, I think it's way overrated.

    Make a deal that you'll let him have it on his birthday every year, but that he can't bring it up the other 364 days. It's a solid compromise because you only have to suck it up and do it once a year, but he will be happy because it's better than nothing and it's something to look forward to.

    • Part of me really likes this idea, and part of me wonders if it would feel a little business-like and formal. Hmm.

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