Guys or girls what do you think a guy notices first about the opposite gender?

[Shannon18]

I am 19. I am 5'3 and I only seem to attract guys who want casual flings. I am not saying I think all guys are the same but I think am I wearing something slutty to make them think I am like that. I have a good figure. I am a size eight and I have FF boobs. I do not show cleavage. I wear tight tops as I think if I have something good I should wear what I like. I don't wear short skirts. I wear jeggings and leggings. I do have a big ass but I can't hide that lol. I just wish I could find a guy that was not so sexually attracted to me. Should I wear polonecks and tracky bottoms? I was dating a guy from last month up til now. He said he wants to be casual as he is so horny around me. I am not a slag so I said get lost I don't want to see you again. He then called me a slag. Which is funny as I said no so I am far from a slag. He just got angry as I didn't want to do it with him. This is the third guy I've liked that wants sex from me more than anything else. Every guy I've liked has been like that. Hence why I've never been in one relationship before sadly. It makes me angry to see my brother not returning at night as this is a sign of a casual thing he has going. He has slept with about 20 women and I am appalled by this. Girls get called sluts so guys are dogs right. Its not OK for girls to have such a label when guys are blatantly the more sexually in need lol. This guy I was seeing never took me out only came to my house. Also he wanted to come at like 11pm at night I did find this strange so I said no. It turns out he wanted a booty call. I just wish I wouldn't be attracted to the bad guys that just want sex and nothing more. There is a good guy in uni who I didn't pursue even though I knew he liked me. Was too busy trying with the idiot I was seeing. Missed opportunity left right and center. Helpppp xx

[Supra9700]

In the society we live in today, the more endowed girls are seen as: 1)a sex figure and 2)not very smart. I'm not saying you are both. I'm saying that's what comes to most everyone's minds. Players will see you and say "Damn!", but guys who are looking for something more will see you and think you're one of those girls who just gets by on their looks and knows nothing beyond sex. The nice guy who liked you must have thought that the reason you didn't give him a chance was because you were being with the idiot you speak of and he thought you would much rather want a fling than a relationship. And being attracted to the bad boys isn't going to help you either. Bad boys don't make good boyfriends. So if you want a good guy, tell players off in front of people. That way, they know what kind of girl you are. Don't let them think there's nothing more to you than body parts. Speak your mind. It'll show them you are a person too.

[graffiti_guy]

Thats so true

[Shannon18]

I'm smart yes and very well endowed front and back. I'm still a virgin but I reckon people will not think I am :/yh bad boys are no good. Good boys not much fun.

[graffiti_guy]

Goodboys can be fun its just that a lot of times there shyness gets them nowhere.give a good guy a chance you don't kbow forsure if you'll like aomething unless you try it

[Supra9700]

Find someone who has good intentions, but isn't afraid to break the rules sometimes. An adventurous person is usually a good guy who wants to do different things every time. I doubt someone like that would be boring.

[Shannon18]

Yeah I'm sure they can be fun sorry :) its making sense as this guy from my uni seems like a good guy yet he won't make much of a move. Seems hesitant like he is thinking about his approach. Whereas as bad boys jus go for it all guns blazing. As they don't intend on pursuing me in that way so they don't care what I fink of them. I'm thinking this guy may have moved on though. Seen him using his phone a lot in my presence in class. Kept turning around to me though.

[Supra9700]

If he's turning around to you, he's trying to get your attention. Go for it! If he hasn't made a move, it's because he is a good guy who's afraid of rejection. Show him you're open minded.

[Shannon18]

Wow really. So he could be interested. I'm shy so I stare back then look away. Yeah I fink he's scared of that too ;) I would never reject him. He is handsome,smart and doesn't perve on my body. He asked me questions about myself. How can I show that

[Supra9700]

The thing is someone has to break that barrier of shyness. If he's asked you questions, then go and talk to him. If he's interested in you, then don't be embarrassed. I know it's hard to get over being shy, but if he is too, then it just makes it a more comfortable and fun experience to get to know each other since you both relate on that subject.

[Shannon18]

Yh its a tough one. He ain't willing as he already made the effort but I didn't ask him anything. Must of given up.

[Supra9700]

That's true. When a guy doesn't get any reciprocation, he sees himself as a burden and just stops. He doesn't want the girl (in this case, you) to think he's stupid. If you don't think he is, then talk to him. It will make him feel better.

[Shannon18]

Yhh he stopped so now he's probably not interested :/ he's not stupid like the bad guys are persistent. But he's not like that. I'm nervous

[Supra9700]

Well, if you ever see him and talk to him, I'm sure you'll brighten his day.

[bigboi38]

The way you described yourself it doesn't matter if you wore a trash bag, guys are still going to want to have sex with you. You just have to be able to sift through the BS and see the guy for what he wants. I am sure there are plenty of guys who are into you not just for sex.

[Shannon18]

:/ oh right. Why do you say that. I'm going to cover up completely. I'm yet to find one but cheers.

[bigboi38]

Thanks for picking my answer as best. I say the things I said because it is true. The way you describe yourself I get nothing but good images. Come on there is no way you can hide FF boobs and a big booty LOL. I think there are dudes who do want to talk to you for you and not cause of your gifts. I hope everything works out for you. If you ever want to chat you can friend me or send me a message. I would love to talk for a bit.

[Shannon18]

No problem :) oh OK thank you that's sweet of you to say. Yeah no way of covering up completely ;/ yeh there should be guys out there that can see past that. Thank you I hope so too. An I would like to message on here but I'm on my phone so I can't. On my laptop it has a safeguard thing I don't know how to unlock. Do you have bbm or an email? I would like to chat on one of the two. Get back to me.

[bigboi38]

you can email me at [e-mail] or [e-mail] Hope to hear from you soon.

[Shannon18]

Thanks. Will do :)

[Anonymous]

you have massive t*ts, wear tight revealing tops, and jeggings/leggings.

Why do you think you're attracting guys who view you only as a sexual object?

[Shannon18]

That's bullsh*t. I can't help the size of my bbobs. You must of read it wrong as I've sed my cleavage is never on show. I wear vest tops and cardigans like most girls. Lots of girls wear jeggings. Its fashion. I'm not going to stop being who I am fornoone. Clearly you dnt knw guys. As they look at any girl with a pulse. I'm nt to blame. Bog off

[MrOracle]

Unfortunately, immature guys see girls with big boobs or big butts and their little minds go right to sex, and that's all they can think about. And those guys tend to be the ones hitting on you because they have no shame, so it seems like it's "all guys", even though it's really only a tiny percentage.

The only thing you can do is what you're doing already, which is to stand your ground and make a reputation for yourself that you don't sleep around. And, then, TALK to guys and spend your time and attention on those who want more than just sex (let's face it, EVERY guy is going to want sex, but so many want ONLY sex; you need to find the guys who want other things too).

[Shannon18]

Yeah I get that. :/ yeah will continue to do that :) thanks. Surprisd I'm not a lesbo alredi. Guys are just hardwork.

[graffiti_guy]

Wow this is weird I know someone that is havig the exact same situation.you have to be more open to what types of guys you go for.alot of girls say they want one type of guy but when faced with there supposed type thy never go for him.im sure there's been a guy in your life that wanted you to give him a chance but you never gave him one.if a guy tells you he can wait for sex without you having to tell him you want to wait then he's a keeper

[Shannon18]

Yh I get that an yes there was one guy but he never mentiond sex to me. He just smiled when he saw me and tried to get me talking as I'm shy. He had a girlfriend but I fink he wuda chose me. So I jus left them to it. An thanks