Possibly pregnant after a one night stand. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I think I could be pregnant after a one night stand. I'm not 100% sure yet as I haven't taken a pregnancy test. I know its stupid but I am scared to find out if I am. even though I haven't taken a test something tells me I might be. I sometimes feel nauseous but not in the morning but last thing at night. I was thinking of making a doctor's appointment if nothing happens during the weekend. since I had sex with him almost 3 weeks ago I am experiencing mild cramps sort of like period pains or a mild stomach bug but yet there is still no sign of anything and it comes and goes. I am not on texting terms with the guy anymore and haven't seen or met up with him since that night. I am not in a place in my life right now where I want to/or ready raise a child. So, if I'm pregnant when should I tell him? and What should I say? he has a good job and is a teacher so I guess money wouldn't be a problem but only if he wants to help out or get involved. If I am pregnant, I am 100% sure who the father is. This is the first and only guy I've been with for almost 7 months. he didn't actually come inside me. he pulled out before he did. he used a condom but took it off half way through and he came twice while wearing the condoms. my period was due on Friday the 9th and still hasn't come yet. I'm not working at the moment so I don't know if I can afford to keep it if he decides he wants nothing to do with me. I also feel it would be better for me and I would be more comfortable to tell him in a text message.

[Stacyzee]

If you are not pregnant I hope you learn from this experience and are wiser next time.

Why make a drs appointment? Why not just do an at home pregnancy test?

I know this is nerve wrecking and maybe you aren't even pregnant. Maybe you're so paranoid that you are working yourself up to believe these "pregnancy symptoms" you have.

Trust me, I know.

Ive spoken to a ton of girls who did this to themselves over a period of time.

Then were relieved when they found out they werent pregnant.

You need to put your mind at ease. Buy the test ASAP.

Wouldnt you rather know now? than seeing a bump on your belly months later?

Everything will be okay,

If he came in the condom (like you say he did) I doubt you are pregnant. You're probably just going to have a late period.

Also,

if you do mess with this guy again or do any other one night stands

for extra precaution

make sure you are on the pill and using birth control.

If you happen to have another pregnancy scare try purchasing plan B within 72 hrs on intercourse (this is an emergency contraceptive) that is very effective.

[Chingy1998]

Ok I know this is full of stress for you, but you need to calm down. You can't do anything under pressure, or stress for this matter. I really hope you learn from this situation and take better precautions next time. As of right now, no need for a doctor. The at home pregnancy test should work just the same. Now, if you are pregnant, don't tell the guy over text message! That's probably the worst way to do it. Make sure that no matter how hard it is, no matter what happens or what the situation is, you plan to tell this guy in person.

On the other hand, you may not even be pregnant. Don't panic. It's not like panicing is going to help the situation.

If you are pregnant and decide to keep the baby you can't just jump into things unprepared. You need to make sure that you have what is needed and do the necessary steps to prepare for the baby's arrival.

I know I don't personally know you, but I understand the situation your going through. I believe that you are a smart girl and that whatever you do is going to all work out in the end. Don't worry :)

[alchemy12]

If it were me I'd take some home tests today and get a friend to help me wait out the results. If the tests are positive I'd consult a doctor ASAP to confirm. I wouldn't say anything to him before then because you're not on friendly terms and it might be more trouble than it's worth if it turns out that you are in fact not pregnant.

If it turns out that you are pregnant the right thing to do is to tell him. I've heard of girls aborting without disclosing to the guy that they are pregnant but I don't think that's fair. I'd call him and let him know that way; it's more personal than a text because he will probably sh*t regardless of how you tell him and it might be all the more shocking when he goes to read a text and gets the news. A phone call would, however, retain some semblance of your privacy and therefore comfort for you.

I would get the tests over with, though, because your anxiety over the possibilities will continue to mount the longer you delay. It will be okay.

[TouchTheSky]

Well, you're 25+ years old and can't think what you should do? Are you 15 years old kid to act this way? okay w/e, you should have a test and if you're pregnant you should talk with this guy, through message won't be so okay I guess, you should talk face to face.

[Hades]

Wallow in regret? You should make 100% sure you are actually pregnant before doing anything else.

[Smokeytaboo]

Wait, I don't feel like it's right for him to even be able to say he doesn't want anything to do with this kid. If there is indeed a child out of this, he helped make it so its his responsibility to support it and be in its life too. Don't make it an option for him to be off the hook! you would need all the help and support you could get! Just because you'd be the one birthing the child does not make the fact that he is the father irrelevant. You are both equally responsible for the kid.

[katiesmuff]

Three weeks ago is long enough to use instant test which you can get at most any pharmacy.

As far as the guy goes should it turn out positive no text or childish thing like that. A person to person meeting to discuss this is warrented. The both of you would have some serious thinking of a future for all of you.

[SapoTony]

you should vote for Rick Santorum