In the past there have been girls that I very much would like to have had a great deal of sex with that I completely changed my mind about after talking to and getting to know them.
Its not that I would not have enjoyed or would have turned down some good quality meaningless sex with them. In the case of a couple of extremely hot girls I would have completely shaved my head to sleep with them (they were physically very attractive girls that liked guys with shaved heads.).
But I absolutely couldn't stand trying to talk to them. Trying to speak with them resulted in a incredibly strong impulse to flee. The best way to describe them would be with terms like: self centered, dense, rude, shallow, vapid, insensitive, and insipid. Did not matter how pretty, tall, fit, nice cleavage, or any other typical trait that most guys look for. I could not stand to be near them any time they spoke because when they spoke it was very clear they were not good people.
The girls I wanted to meet at parties and social occasions were not necessarily the "hottest girls" but they were the ones that I could talk to without needing to fight the urge to perform a self lobotomy with an ice-pick or throw myself through a plate glass window to escape.
I think that guys and girls that DO NOT find each other instantly attractive enough to hump on sight (pretty much everyone) have to build the level attraction to one another by talking, flirting and getting to know the other person while finding things in common or things that differ in an attractive way. There must be a base of physical attraction to build on-top of but for most guys the bar girls must reach is set pretty low.
I envy you. I would really like to have a chance with those extremely hot girls that like guys with shaved heads. I would be turn on by getting my head shaved by one of those girls to have sex-appeal for her and I would try to getter better their terms with the intention of being happy with her in a longer relationship.
I have to be at least somewhat attracted to her. If she is completely unattractive I won't touch her. But she doesn't exactly have to be a perfect 10 either.
Honestly more than just looks factor in. I take into account the consequences of hooking up with her. There are plenty of girls I know that physically I would like to, but never would because it would cause a lot of drama.
But you are right, the stereotype is wrong. I as well as many of my friends have turned down girls for sex because we just didn't really like her and or we knew it was a bad idea. Contrary to popular belief I think women tend to do more thinking with their genitals. Hence women are more likely to sleep with someone and realize after the fact it was a bad idea. A guy is better and stepping back and using his brain to say, "hey I know this girl is hot mr. penis, but this is a bad idea". Same reason women end up with lots of douche bag bf's. If they are sexually attracted, there is no stopping them. Logic does not play a factor.
I know this sounds sexist, but Its my honest unbiased observation.
If it was just a hook up you'd obviously go for the looks...
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In general I wouldn't get together with a girl I'm not attracted to. (and by the way, attraction is not just physical). However, I've certainly had a couple of times in my life when I was very depressed or frustrated and got together with a girl I wasn't attracted to at all.
At least for me, it's not about being very horny, it's about being indifferent.
If I was drunk enough it almost wouldn't matter.
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no, I need to find her at least somewhat attrative, if I don't, its a no go.
Qualifications, qualifications..."slightly attracted to"? or "not attracted to"? I don't have to have a "10" or even an "8"...but I probably won't go less than a "6" or at least a "5"..understanding, of course, that my "7" might be a "4" for some guys or a "9" for others...(:
if its just to hook up, to me she has to be fairly attractive, cause if she is really unattractive; it just can't happen unless I'm really drunk with bear goggles
Funny thing is, I believe a guy can imagine he's "attracted" to almost about any girl who offers him sex, and a good ego-massage (flattery). How much he's willing to lower his bar would depend on how much sex is available in a particular society.
(Which is why, I believe, "free" sex is often a very costly idea for women -- though they are convinced into believing that THEY want it.)
In some societies (not Western ones), sex outside of marriage is hard to find. There, a guy would drop his bar a lot.
But overall, a guy is willing to fall for almost any woman who's willing to fall for him.
If you thought that guys alone are bad, then women are also similar -- except they aren't so visually-oriented and won't judge primarily by looks. What they go by is security, money, power, etc that a guy can offer. But once they decide what they want, they too are pretty much willing to "convince" themselves that a guy a good material... It works both ways.
Only slightly attracted to? Yes. Slightly is yes, so yes, under some circumstances.
I'd probably need to be more attracted to her to intensely make out then I would to have sex, and would barely need to find her attractive at all to accept a bj.
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