How can I find someone who is NOT a "boob guy"?

[Anonymous]

It seems all my male friends are boob guys... judging from p*rn and the media, it just seems that all guys are boob guys. My ex was a boob guy. The problem? I have small t*ts. Small as in, just a handful. Not completely flat, but definitely no head turner, and I have to wear a very good push up to have cleavage. My friends who have big boobs get a ton more attention, even though they're overweight and I'm not. I have a big butt, which some uys have shown interest in, but let's face it, there are lucky girls who have big boobs and a big butt. My ex left me traumatized. We started going out and he was all chivalrous and charming and I fell for him. So when he started making comments about other women's big boobs and my own lack of size, it was too late, also he used the old, tired line of "I love you for other reasons, boob size doesn't matter, I prefer big, so what? get over it". Yeah, yeah, how would he have felt if I'd told him "Hey, I prefer someone taller, but I love you for other reasons" or "Hm, I'd prefer it if you were 3 inches longer, but get over it, I love you for other reasons!". In the end, it just made me feel self conscious. I don't get why he told me those things, why he had to talk about other women's breasts, knowing mine are small. But what I just don't get is if he was such an obvious boob guy, why waste his time and mine by being with me if he obviously wanted someone with bigger breasts? I don't wear padded or push up bras often, so it should have been evident that I wasn't "well endowed" from the beginning. I mean, I get some guys like big boobs but aren't too bothered and are just as attracted to small boobs. But he expressed dissatisfaction with mine, so what was the point of dating me? With the huge amount of boob guys out there I'm afraid that I'll go over and over this again... so how can I find a guy who is not a boob guy without needing to take a survey? I found out I don't like being with guys who settle for my body, or who think I have "shortcomings", since I don't go out with guys I'm not attracted to physically (not that I have high standards, as I'm really flexible when it comes to physical attraction).

[DinaColada]

He was being a jerk, plain and simple. He was being very immature and was preying on your insecurities. I've been in the same boat, and it feels really crumby. It was pretty rotten of him to say those things and it's good that he let you know that he is a schmuck sooner than later.

I don't have big breasts either and I remember being at a dinner and the woman across from me had boobs bigger than cantaloupes and she looks down and they were literally laying in her food. Another girlfriend started sagging and she said she felt like she was wearing 2 socks filled with coal.

You are blessed to have small breasts, and there are millions of guys out there who aren't giant boob guys. Keep your standards high and never settle. Don't go out with a guy just because you think he likes your breasts.

Some women like muscly guys and others like skinny guys. There are tons of men out there who will love you and your breasts. You can even go braless. There's not much on the planet that is sexier than that!

Embrace your body and your breasts. They are beautiful, and you'll never have to worry about taking them out of your applesauce.

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Dina

[porcupina8]

I'm a small B cup with huge hips and a giant bum, so I'm kind of in the same boat as you!

My ex was a boob guy. He often said things like "yeah I wish your boobs were bigger, but don't worry, there's always plastic surgery!" and yeah.. that took a toll on my self-esteem for a while.

But then I found a guy who loved me for exactly what I am. He is obsessed with my butt and adores my little boobs, and it took me a while to believe him after all the crap my ex would say. My point is, they are out there! Not just guys who like small boobs (and they do exist) but guys who will love you for more than just your body and love everything about it just because it's yours. (:

[Crikeyway15]

Ok but consider this. Kiera Knightly is considered one of the hottest woman in America. Small boobs. Lupita Nyong'o was rated as THE MOST beautiful woman in America. Small boobs. You would never say Rihanna isn't hot and neither would you say that about Sasha Grey. So why would you say that YOUR small boobs are unattractive Maybe you're not Cameron Diaz or Maggie Q but you're probably gorgeous and this guy seems like a big whiny baby.

[MrOracle]

I'm a breast man, but that doesn't make me a BIG breast man; small ones can be lovely, attractive, and hot too.

You stumbled onto a guy who is a "big boob" guy, who, knowing his strong preference, dated you anyway. And that's fine, except that he began to act like an ass and made you feel insecure for no reason. The problem here wasn't you, it was that your ex was an immature ass.

Most of the time, if big boobs are *really* important to a guy, he'll simply not approach girls who aren't big. All the other guys, which is most of them, are happy with the breasts you have, as long as they get to play with them.

You had one bad experience and you're making a bigger deal out of it than you need to, I promise you. It would be no different if you had made fun of your ex and told him he had a tiny penis, and he freaked out and got all paranoid. The problem wouldn't be his penis; it would be that YOU were being a bitch. In this case, it's the opposite; your ex has got you all paranoid, when really, YOU'RE just fine. The problem was his, not yours.

[Asker]

I'm just scared that maybe he had low self esteem and lowered his standards and I'll run into more guys with low self esteem who think can't do better and lower their standards to be with me. I just don't know HOW to find a guy who genuinely likes small boobs and isn't pretending and settling like my ex did, 'cause nothing hurts more than being criticized for something you can't change by the person you love the most. I don't wanna go through that again.

[MrOracle]

I get what you're saying, but really, you had ONE bad experience. Your breasts are FINE, and won't be an issue for most guys in the first place. Don't judge ALL guys because THIS one was a jerk. Most guys don't even have a real preference. I know it's hard, and you have every right to the way you FEEL, but you need to give another guy a chance, because another guy will love you just the way you are.

[spik317]

If you date them for a while and have a small intimate relationship, you can always ask him about his fantasy of a women *if he is openminded. Ask the guy, if you were watching p*rn with me, do you wanna see big boobs girl having sex or small boob chick having sex*? To tell if he lying, watch him turn his head, laughs, say he doesn't watch p*rn, looking out the distance, tilting his head back, and watch his hands movement either touching you, in his pocket, or rubbing his hand down his lower leg.

[PassionateStud80]

I like smaller boobs it wouldn't bother me at all to be with a girl that has a handful,i would like it.In fact my preferred boob size is a medium A or B cup and C is max.I would not let it keep me from finding love though.I think this is why your boyfriend dated you but it was wrong from him to make you feel bad because of your boob size.You should have told him he has a small d*** LOL.No don't be like him.Dont feel bad.I like boobs a lot just not overly big ones and anything bigger then a C is too big to me.Also look at it this way you won't have back problems because of your t*ts and they won't get in the way for sports.I don't know how you will find a guy that will like small boobs or be OK with them,really there is no way to do this without asking right up front.I think what you want to find is a guy that loves you for who you are and doesn't make selfish comments to make you feel bad about yourself,just a good guy is what you want.I think he was just a a**hole.So just look for a guy that isn't an a**hole and there is no way short of getting to know him to tell.You shouldn't feel bad you are beautiful just they way God created you,just find a guy that can realize this, anyone that can't is not somebody you want to be with anyways.

[peace-love-couture]

I'm not sure how many times you can ask this on this site.

You can't determine whether a dude prefers big or small boobs and if your main concern is him preferring small boobs then you're gonna miss out on a lot of great guys.

[TurbulentDan12]

I'm not a boob guy at all

Frankly, most guys aren't.

[Asker]

Where I live most guys seem to be :/ For them it's all about the boobs... like I said, my friends have bigger boobs but are fat compared to me and they get more attention... they are pretty and all, but I've always heard that a thin girl (not anorexic looking) is better than a fat chick, and yet they get more attention... When a girl shows cleavage all guys look at them...

[TurbulentDan12]

I think that's strange :/ Honestly most guys I know would absolutely love a girl if she had a nice butt and a pretty face even if she was an A cup. I only know of one friend of mine who goes strictly for big boobs and he's strange hahaha. I've got to say, the best advice I can give to a girl is to try to improve her butt. Boobs really aren't that important. They're nice, but if you do squats and lunges and stuff like that to improve your butt that goes way further than big boobs. I promise :D

[kriskiss]

Call me I love flat chested girls no kidding. In my experience I have been with girls with big boobs, one in particular had huge breasts, and I have dated a few quite flat chested girls. And I will tell you this, the best lovers I had were definitely flat chested women I don't know why its so sexy. Maybe because they know they have small boobs they feel they have to compensate by being better , naughtier, and being perverted in bed. I mean boobs are boobs who cares I just like small boobs cause I can have my whole hand around them and just like sucking the nibbles anyway. I always make a women whos flat chested feel good about her boobs and tell them how much I love them and I'm telling the truth so she feels confident...so learn to love em and guys will love em too. Normally too most girls with flat chested boobs are thin which I like thin girls and they age better. Girls with big boobs will eventually get gross and began to sag as they get older and their boobs will get gross. My point honestly do not get a boob job honestly because you may regret it plus it could go wrong and all. Most guys will give off the impression that they love big boobs but honestly I think a lot just say that because that's what the media portrays I think most of those guys don't really care.

Thats one of the few things how I am different from other guys I have never been a boob guy at all. I like a girl with nice eyes, sexy feet, and I like a girls butt for sure because you know doggy style -I don't even mind a flat butt either...I just like asses and feet.

[knightengale]

You're ex was the one with the shallow interest and issues here.

I have dated girls with small and large breasts. I didn't compare them to each other and found all sizes sexy.

The right man will simply be happy having a beautiful girl in front of him. I am a boob man not because of size but because I found the female body attractive in all it's sizes.

Stop warming the push-up bra, become comfortable with your size and wear dresses that go well with smaller breast sizes.

If you feel confident with your body and especially your breasts. Us men will see that confidence and will be running to get a chance of a date etc.

[myspacemybroke]

Ass and face for me.

[john2]

i agree

[MarkMyWords]

Learn anal. Be awesome at it. You will have no worries.

[holdem4884]

Sounds like he was a shallow douchebag. He might have made the comment hoping it would guilt you into wanting to get implants for him which is sick.

Virtually all guys like boobs but they aren't all focused on them. I've known many that prefer a hot ass to big knockers. Don't let it get you down!

[On_the_other_hand]

You found one guy who likes big boobs and your brain book marked the other guys who like them too, doesn't mean all or most need big boobs.

I've said this before... my last two exes had B's and DD's and I LOVED both of their breasts and never felt like something was missing. It is like loving a Rolls Royce and a Ferarri... they are different but they are both great. and I think nature gives girls breasts that fit the rest of a girl's body type.

I know what you mean though. There was a girl on here who said her boyfriend penis is smaller but she has great sex with him anyway but that when he's gone she uses a larger toy to I'm guessing the word to use would be "compensate." She was/is being honest and she meant well but she has no idea that it would hurt her boyfriend bad if he read that. Again I know she meant well and probably sees him as the best partner over all. And her becoming aware that it would hurt him wouldn't change the fact that she would have a better experience if he were larger. Its like saying yeah we have great sex but she isn't the tightest girl I've been with and I use a tighter toy when I'm alone.

[bDizzie]

I don't get why "boob guy" means you like big boobs. I consider myself to be a boob guy, definitely not an ass man, however smaller to normal size boobs are perfect to me. Saggy DD's, I'll pass.

[JuicyBrain]

There is a difference between a preference and a criteria. I prefer red heads. I never went out with a red head. That doesn't mean I didn't love the other ones ! I like both small and big boobs. But you have to admit, if you can't see them when you got clothes on, there is not much to look at... Doesn't mean they are no fun.

[EngineeringStudent]

Based off of what I've seen, it's a pretty even split between boob guys and butt guys. I'm personally more of a butt guy myself.

[Asker]

Then why are there so many tit mags and stuff focusing on boobs in the media?

[Create21]

You likely were dating someone really just not bright; or, he was really immature and had very little experience in a relationship; or, he that was the environment he grew up in and really didn’t understand what he was doing. In no way defending, just trying to provide some context. You shouldn’t be ashamed of your body. Women have boobs, and guys notice them. But smaller in size isn’t a character or physical flaw. Many guys love smaller boobs. And many love bigger boobs. When you date someone who talks about big boobs, tell them how it makes you feel. Communication is key. If you keep letting them talk about how great big boobs are, they will continue. In fact, if you date someone like that again, the next time it comes up, take your shirt off and let him see yours. He’ll get the picture, or you’ll find out he is an asshole and not worth your time. Keep your chin up and be confident - that will get you more attention that big tits.

[vptwarrior]

i like small and big breasts, though there are limits to how small or big I like them, your ex was a douche telling you all those things, its hard to find someone who is not a boob guy, also a nice ass can make up for small t*ts, also some small t*ts look better than big ones, depending on there shape. As far as I know, all guys love breasts, its just natural, finding one who doesn't care about breasts is impossible, instead of going for someone who's not a boob guy, go for someone who doesn't just like big ones, it will be far easier. I'm sorry that your boyfriend was such an a**hole, I hope you find a guy who likes your mind and body soon.

[Asker]

I just feel that men who like both big and small invariably prefer big anyway. Same with what I said to the anon guy below you, I don't want someone to be attracted to me regardless of my size, or feel that I have to "make up for it" or any of that sh*t, I want them to like them just as they are, to like them just as much as if they were big, not to feel like I'm lacking and they are settling like my ex made me feel. It sucks to be criticized by the one you love, it really, REALLY hurts!

[vptwarrior]

it kind of depends on your body type too, that's a factor too...to me anyways, because honestly some girls who have small t*ts should stay that way because it looks good as well, if your body type fits your breast size then a guy might not even want them bigger because they already look really good. Try to find a good natured guy who doesn't talk about your body every five seconds though, he may treat you a lot better plus if you have sex he may give them just as much attention as big ones.

[taster]

I definitely prefer smaller AND I am not a boob guy...probably about 3 or 4 guys out of ten are either not a boob guy and/or prefer smaller...so we are out there and you will find one of us somewhere, sometime...(:

[G_GTom]

Good question. Try finding a guy who likes Asian women :) They are not known for their big boobs, yet some guys really go after them.

But I"ll turn the question on you. How do you find a woman who is not a big penis woman?

[Asker]

Why turn the question? Just 'cause some women are d***s about size (lol, see what I did there) doesn't mean that we all are or that women with small boobs have to take the toll. You know what? it's different, 'cause guys have their penis hidden all the time, whereas I can't really concela the fact I have small boobs unless I wear a lot of padding which you can totally tell anyway. It's not the same. Did you know that the vagina is (thankfully) only sensitive two inches deep?

[Asker]

Most guys have more than 2 inches. Women who are snobs about size have no clue, 'cause mostly stimulation from size is just mental, like I said practically the whole vaginal canal is insensitive. That's why we have a clit! Most women don't orgasm from penetration so size is irrelevant.

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That article speaks the truth. Read the stats posted there. Also I see big boobs in movies all the time, d***s, never...

[G_GTom]

You bring up some good points. Such as your breast size always being on display. I do not believe the stimulation from size to be mental only. Plenty of women here have said otherwise. Even if it were mental, they are still judging you for something you don't have. Just because you don't orgasm from penetration doesn't mean that's it's irrelevant. It can still feel better and can be preferred. You mention two inches, I presume you are talking about length?

[G_GTom]

What about girth? That's the measurement most women care about. Are these topics exactly the same? No, but these are very close. As for movies, there are penises in movies, just not as many as breasts. But the ones that are in movies are usually large. So, again, we have a guy who wants to avoid a big penis woman. How would he do that? I'd be interested in your advice on this subject. Whatever that advice may be, women could use a similar strategy for finding a guy who likes small boobs?

[Asker]

Ok, so your point is men have it harder? The only "movies" in which I've seen huge d***s are p*rn, and it's mostly men who watch p*rn, so it can be said that men do this to themselves. It's not like p*rn is made with women in mind. I don't see penises displayed in huge billboards, nor in beer ads (women drink beer too!), perfume ads, nothing. I still don't get why you act as if women with small boobs deserve this just 'cause SOME women prefer big d***s. Let me tell you it's not even the majori

[Asker]

As to how can a guy find a woman who is not into big d***s, well, I don't know, you know why? 'Cause the two things are completely different issues. I've been in situations in which I've only found out the guy had a small penis when we were about to have sex. By that point, I was too horny to care. Most women are the same. I've also been surprised by huge d***s, and it's been a bit intimidating 'cause those things hurt, or uncomfortable for either oral or anal. It goes both ways

[Asker]

There are women who, if surprised by a small penis, would put on their clothes and leave the room, but they're the minority. Then again, there are guys who are d-bags who criticize women with small breasts, so it's not like we are worse than guys. I have small breasts, I know what it's like to be ridiculed sexually, so maybe that's why I accept and like small penises. Maybe I'm not objective enough to talk about penis size for that same reason.

[Asker]

I just don't think it's the same issue, a similar issue would be if a vagina is tight or loose. That's something a guy can't determine until he gets sexual with a woman, and we can easily conceal our vaginas so we don't have them on display all the time, you don't see vaginas everywhere, etc, etc. But there wouldn't be as many breast enlargement procedures done yearly if it weren't because the pressure and ridicule that society puts on small breasts on a daily basis.

[Asker]

And to end this, a guy can have a huge penis, but he might not take care of himself, he might be smelly, have messy hair, whatever, and he won't get as much attention as the guy who cares about how he looks, who takes a shower daily, who makes an effort to look presentable. In the end it's about attention, and a big or small penis doesn't determine attention 'cause it's not on display. Boobs are! Attention is important 'cause if no one notices you, you won't get laid. It's the first step.

[Asker]

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I just read that... I can honestly say I've NEVEEEEEEEER in my life heard women talk about men's body parts like that, ever... so see why I'm insecure?

[G_GTom]

Whoa, I never really said women have it easier. Isn't this really about the opposite gender wanting something you don't have, wether it be breast size or penis size? I've never met a woman who preferred a small penis, ever. I'm sure they are out there, but I've never met one. You say accept them, but what do you prefer? Accepting a small penis because you have small breasts doesn't count. Most women prefer at least average length and above average girth.

[G_GTom]

It's true, a penis is hidden, but that doesn't change the way a woman feels about them. If she continues to have sex after seeing he has a small penis, she still feels the same way about him smaller size and there's no changing that. On the other hand, look at Keira Knightley. She doesn't have big breasts and she seems to have no problem finding guys. So guys can get just as horny and want a woman regardless of her breast size.

[G_GTom]

While it's true that women get more breast enlargements, men would get just as many if the procedure were safer and actually worked. I agree that women won't date a guy because he has a big penis if he doesn't take care of himself. But do you think men are really that different? Would a man date a woman with a big breasts if she didn't smell well, didn't wash her hair, ate poorly and became overweight? Most men would not.

[Asker]

OK, but the things is, most women just don't have a preference, most JUST DON'T CARE. If I was forced to choose, though, I'd choose an average guy, both in length and girth. A happy medium, if you will, But only 'cause if someone forced me to choose, like with a gun to my head. Last time I had sex, the guy had a small penis, he knew moves that almost made me orgasm, which is something my ex who had a bigger penis never achieved. Maybe other women don't have a clue and need to be educated.

[Asker]

I say he almost made me orgasm, from penetration, which is something I'd never experienced (I thought it was impossible), really this guy KNEW how to move. He also had a different, more passionate style. My ex was more like all he knew came from p*rn, so sex always felt like p*rn, it wasn't bad, but it had that "mechanical" feel... so size doesn't equal pleasure, I insist with that! So the moral is, no matter big or small, a guy must know how to move. I think that's more important. And passion

[AidenBlue]

Life is not about big boobs. You can still prefer them but you don't marry a girl just for boobs.

I like Ferrari's. I don't drive one. Its not practical. I can still enjoy looking at a Ferrari but I'm happy and comfortable in my ride because its a better fit for me.

Boobs are same way. Who cares if there is a feature about you that is not completely to his liking. He just told you - I realize you are less than perfect and I love you. No one is perfect. But love is not skin deep. Everyone will age. You need to find someone that loves you for you not for your boobs or your body. It will change and deteriorate over time. The mind, the spirit the soul are what is most important.

Sounds like you have an insecurity that is creating and problem with a relationship where it doesn't exist. He said he doesn't care. So why does it matter?

[bigcountry330]

Right here. I appreciate a nice backside

[kinggeorge007]

Personally, I'm a boob guy and I prefer small and medium boobs. Big boobs makes me unpleasant. And the world trend is to have smaller boobs. They are sexy. Look at all those celebrities, the majority have small boobs. Still men are obsessed with them.

I'm sorry that you had to go through that nasty experience but I assure you that's not so men. The majority of men don't care about the size really. My best friend's wife has small boobs but they are crazy in love and thriving.

Don't worry girl, you'll meet someone who love you for being you.

[genericname85]

i hear black dudes are all over that booty xD