How to stop being a prude?

[Anonymous]

So I'm not that bad looking, I get my compliments, but I'm very insecure. I don't even want to mention my youth again, I'm out of all the stuff that happened, but there's two things that go through my life like a red thread; honesty and prudishness... The first one I got under control though but I think I'm still a hardcore prude lol. I can't stand hearing about sh*t other people do, or when someone hits on a girl in an inappropriate way, act in an inappropriate way or even lose respect for girls when I hear about em just having fun with one night stands. And I can't even do any of that myself, I just can't stand it. And somehow when it's about girls I'm friends with I feel like I took a knife to the gut even though I don't really care about em. I feel like people should just act decent and look for love rather than 'destroy' themselves by having fun... even though I don't believe in that, hell, my first time was in a whorehouse. Yet any confrontation makes me feel like I'm burning inside while my head says it's perfectly fine and you SHOULD have fun. And now I got this crush who is just everything I just wrote here and it's breaking me in two, the part who thinks you should just have fun and be human, and the part that burns up every time she reminds me she is. I'm getting too old for this bull, I'm not even religious or anything. How can I stop this madness?

[Anonymous]

I'm much the same way in that I generally disapprove of casual sex/one night stands/FWB (all names for the same thing really). I believe sex should be something between 2 people that either love each other or at least have the intention to stay together and care for one another or something like that.

I can't tell what your motives are - seeing as you said you lost your virginity to a prostitute? - but I don't believe there's anything wrong with "being a prude". Anyway just because I dislike casual sex doesn't mean I can't like girls who may have had "a history". Unless she's the village bicycle surely she deserves a chance?

I'm sure a lot of married women used to be like that to some extent at one stage but are now faithful (I should imagine). Something to think about! Hope this helps..

[baliguy11]

wake up tomorrow morning, wherever you are and decide to take life on. all the good, bad, boring, whatever. and you are going to take it all in and live it like you are going to die the next day. If you have been a prude, sounds like it, the you can decide not to be. go for it guy. life it short. live it well.

[theballer2525]

i have the same problem. just try to not care as much.