im getting my tubes tied in a few weeks and I'm really nervous. I've never had kids nor do I want them so its for preventative measures. for those who have had tubals or know those who do what can I expect. what is the healing time?
i have no clue why I asked about healing times haha. scratch that so yea would you date a girl if she told you she had her tubes tied BEFORE she met you
You set up conflicts in my mind...I don't really approve...on the other hand you are a friend plus I am a truthful person...I would have dated...and probably married a "fixed" female when I was your age. By the time I got married (age 38) I was interested in children but my wife had had her tubes tied during her first marriage..and she had had them chopped and burnt..so was a question as to whether they were even long enough if they were indeed reattachable../:/:/:
So we ended up doing in vitro which cost about $10,000 and...idk...maybe a dozen 200-mile roundtrips and 4 overnights..I gave her lots of shots with a pigsticker (1 1/2" needle) in the rear of progesterone. The result was an autistic boy...now back to your question...yes, I dated her with tied tubes...but...before I married her I made her promise that she would try for children if I wanted them...she agreed...5 years later life was pretty good but work was stressful and I kind of let it slide...but one day out of the clear, wild, blue yonder..she says "I want a cat, I want a new house, I want a baby" ..I was totally flabbergasted and stared at her for a minute and then I said "OK you can have all of those things..but NOT ALL AT ONCE! What do you want first?" Well we still live in the same house, have had a cat & a ferret (sort of) and we have Andrew who you met on Skype...eh...Sabby honey...no matter what you think you are certain of today...will not be the same in 15 years...believe me or believe me not...<3<3<3=D
At this point in my life, that could very well be a deal breaker unless we're absolutely perfect for each other in every way. Especially if it's just for prevention. I could look past it more easily if it was related to some health condition or something.
In a few years, I might be more okay with it. It really depends on a lot of factors.
No, I would't be dating a girl with her tubes tied. I would be using her a lot as a Fuk body, but nothing more. I think you will regret that very much in couple years not even a decade. No fence but you fuking your self up deliberately
It means you have made up your mind and are absolutely sure of not having your own children. I'd would respect your decision and would date/bang you. But not at your age. I think you should reconsider.
I would give anything to date a girl with her tubes tied. I'm tired of worrying about getting a woman pregnant, I can't even enjoy sex because of it. So yes, I would date a woman with her tubes tied, and I'd enjoy dating her too.
I don't even know why you'd want to get your tubes tied if you might regret it one day..
I suppose that tells you my answer: I suppose it might be a turn off for me, seeing as any girl I date, I date with the intention of POTENTIALLY marrying her one day. I don't go into relationships just "to have fun" and add her to my list of exes. Granted right now I don't know if I ever want kids, perhaps in the future I'd feel differently.
If you're into casual sex then I'm sure no one will care, if you want to get into something serious.. It might become an issue.
I'm just surprised that you found a dr who will even do it o_o. Where I live a dr will not do that until your at least 35 just because so many women do change their minds. I knew a girl who never wanted to be a mother ever... she has 2 and now she could never imagine her life without them. I know it isn't the answer you want but this is coming from someone you generally cares for people and would hate for you to do this and then regret it in 5-10 yrs. What happens if that someone special does come along and you suddenly want a child? Unless you can see the future I would yet a couple more years.
I had my tubes tied at 23, but I have 2 children, ever since my boyfriend and I broke up, I have found dating to be difficult, if a guy says oh I want kids of my own someday, I have to walk away. I'm sure you can find a guy who doesn't want kids as well.