Would you lie to your boyfriend about ex's penise size?

[pandaninja]

Despite knowing its a sign of insecurity which makes guys avoid the topic when you have been in a relationship long enough eventually guys get to the question of your ex's one of the frequent questions to arise is the "how big where they?". Would you lie to your partner to make them feel better? I ask because talking with an old friend I used to date who recently dated my current gf's ex she made a comment on how his penis was big, this surprised me and I told her my had seen both of ours obviously and had said we were roughly the same size. The stories were contradictory since I am average at about 6 in and my friend claimed my gf's ex is at about 8 in. She is a reliable enough source so I wouldn't think she is lying which got me wondering why my girlfriend would tell the white lie? I'm not the jealous type or anything resembling it in fact I would like to share the girlfriend with other guys in threesomes and if they are bigger than me good for her. She knows this about me so why would she feel inclined to lie? So would you lie? and why could she of lied?

[heatherlu]

I've never been in a situation like this - but I imagine it might be a hard decision to make - whether to tell the truth or not.

Problem is - it's a leading question. You could appear to be the most secure guy in the world - but this isn't something a lot of people would just ask out of curiosity's sake; and even if they did, it quite possibly wouldn't end up that way. By asking it - most girls would assume you're asking it to have your ego stroked; and they'd be happy to do that.

What would she have to gain by saying - actually no, my ex was packing way more than you? very little it seems. What would she stand to gain when she said you were similar? well there would be no need to insecurities to develop, even if you don't seem the type.

By asking that question you put her in a pretty difficult situation. It's not something you need to know - and her answer could potentioally lead to problems in the relationship - so can you blame her for going for the easiest option of you know ... teetering on the edge of truth.

[EverythingReal]

If my boyfriend wanted to know I'd tell him. I have nothing to hide about my past. And I shouldn't have to spare his emotions for the truth in a serious relationship.

Food for thought: Us girls do not take rulers with us in the bedroom, and have been known to be horrible at guessing sizes.

[pandaninja]

lol I am well aware of terrible guessing skills but I do have friends who have taken rulers into the bedrooms ha ha though I know they are a minority

[EverythingReal]

Yeah, I'm just saying, the chances that BOTH these girls brought rulers with them...pretty slim

[yesthisisme]

I would refuse to have the conversation because its pointless. Quite frankly any guy either worrying about his size or bragging about his size is a turn off that I've had to grin and bear far too many times.

[Cryostatic]

I've never felt the need to ask any of my girlfriends how big their exes penises were.

Anyway, if your girlfriend's lying about penis size, (his or yours) then she's just trying to keep your ego from getting hurt. She honestly probably doesn't give a sh*t about how big it is, as long as it gets the job done, and doesn't want some stupid hangup of yours to get in the way of your performance, so to speak.

Because you ~say~ you wouldn't mind sharing her in threesomes and if the other guys are bigger, good for her, but she probably doesn't really think you actually mean that, and she probably doesn't want it, either.

[Anonymous]

i agree with "yesthisisme" its pointless to think or worry about it because if she loves you then that is what truly matters, and to most girls size doesn't matter, its what you do with it that does, like me I got a 5.5 inch d*** but literally last night I did it with my girlfriend and I lasted one hour and 15 mins(nonstop) and she came multiple times, trust me size doesn't matter and be greatful for what you have just learn how to use it. and its not the size or shape that matters its the expirience and the love that truly connects you that matters and that's all there is

[pandaninja]

I care nothing ab out the size issue, the principle point is that she lied, and like Justincider said it leaves one to question what other things I thought we were open about she could actually be lying about

[Opinion Owner]

sorry, my apologies for misunderstanding it, but why would you bring up such an issue if you already knew the answer to it, if she lied to you it was to show that it truly didn't matter to her and that you are more important and that's what matters. put the past behind you and don't think about stupid stuff like that, I doubt she would lie about other stuff

[katiesmuff]

No I would just tell them that it is none of their business

[Cantremember]

What I don't get is: why even ask? And why even compare? I don't compare my girlfriend to my exes and I expect her to not compare me.

[pandaninja]

quite simple, curiositys sake, perhaps competitivness or a sense of arrogance. I'm sure many guys have different reasons as to why thay ask point is many guys ask.

[iveth]

I have lied b4 bt I hate it when guys ask me I feel bad because that's were insecurities. Start. Bt yea she could be lieing

[pandaninja]

well I trust my friend so I already assume my girlfriend lied and was just wondering, why it could be. I get it for most cases but ours is pretty open as I explained so I don't get why she would of felt the need to lie when we have talked about perhaps bringing other guys in, who we already knew would be larger.

[iveth]

She just wants you to feel like her number one like the big guy you know she cares for u. Don't look so much into it

[jj1990]

I don't think she felt comfortable sharing something private about another person. How did she lie if she didn't say anything about his penis in the first place?

[justincider]

Its tough. I think a lot of guys ask. Unless you are with an inexperienced girl, most girls have seen a range of penises over time. Girls don't often ask about other girls "tightness.". I mean, my current girlfriend is Asian, and it would be hard for another girl to comoare to hiw small she is. Nothing anyone can do about it, right.

But I agree with you honestly as it sounds like an open, honest relationship. A girl who would lie about this may lie about other parts of your sex life (ie-did you cum, did you like that, do you want to try this and that). You basically will never really trust what she is telling you in that area ever again, or you will be skeptical.

[jj1990]

Lol my ex asked about tightness. I was honest and told her she wasn't as tight as the last girl I was with.. And she still came out and told me I was the biggest..still don't buy it though

[Anonymous]

She likes big d*** + She lied to you about his size = She has emotional attachments to him on top of liking his big d***.

[Anonymous]

yes, they wouldn't want to hurt your fragile ego while they are getting the life pounded out of them

[pandaninja]

lol trust me my ego isn't dependant on such factors, sure I get jelous of emotional attention, but purely physically I dont, I have been in open relationships that worked which is something few people can say and its because while I'm not perfect I'm very very good at seperating sex from emotions

[Opinion Owner]

I meant in general to guys girls like bigger but they will settle for a smaller guy, but they all want bigger like 7 inches or 8 inches

[pandaninja]

point taken, but I hope you realize you are over generalizing, I have friends who have trouble enjoying sex because their bfs are too big for them and it hurts instead, but in general you could very well be right