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Why does my boyfriend look at porn when he knows it hurts me?

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we have this on going fight every time I find porn. I had a bad childhood experience and found my dad's stash when I was about 6 years old and ever since then I've always viewed it as disgusting and hurtful because my mom and dad used to fight about it a lot as well...I don't want to be like them. I've tried to except it and be one of those "cool" girlfriends that doesn't care but those girls in the porn are so much prettier than me and I can't stand to think my boyfriend would rather look at them than me. Just thinking about it is bringing me to tears and over the past 4 years I've expressed to him how bad it makes me feel about myself and he says he would stop but it never happens...it just seems he doesn't care if I get hurt as long as he gets off. He tells me I don't give it to him enough but I can't feel sexual and willing if I don't feel good about myself but I still try. I'm really not a prude or anything I'm actually very adventurous in bed and love to try new stuff...when I'm in "the mood" which he doesn't seem to put effort into getting me into the mood. I know guys have more urges than us girls do but I just wish he would come to me to take care of that stuff instead of looking at strange girls. I really just wish I could be pretty and perfect like those girls he stares at all the time but I can't compete with them. I want to know what I can do to make him less interested in those girls in the porn and turn his focus to me like he used to. I know everyone says just have sex with him more often but it's not that easy when I don't feel good about myself or my body and he doesn't try to make me feel special anymore. I just don't know what to do...I know he loves me but I don't feel it when he does stuff like this.
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Maybe I should make myself clear Yeah he comes home to me, most girls would say that's all that matters but it's not fair that I'm still laying in bed while he locks himself in the bathroom for 2 hours or more to look at porn when I'm available for him!
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How often do we have sex? ugh when we first moved in we did it like 4 times a day but we were 17 then now we work full time and I feel like I'm not living up to how I used to be but neither is he now we both work full time and maybe 1-2 times a week now
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1-2 a week is like drought levels for us...we have been so tired and he works hard but isn't more effort to jack off alone for who knows how long instead of laying down, getting me in the mood then lay back and let me take over.?
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  • What a wide variety of replies to this topic, and most seem aimed at hostility from one side or the other. From the girls perspective the first reply from 38rakia38 was pretty spot on. Many humans of both genders get off watching erotica, lots of times together but clearly it's primarily males that enjoy porn. So? The real issue here might not be the porn so much as the Boyfriend acting like an F***tard and rubbing her nose in it. If the girl is available and willing (without the 'in the mood' BS) then there is little reason for him to watch porn so openly in front of her and in hostile defiance of her. Watching porn = mildly acceptable for most humans but treating your girl like spoiled leftovers is just uncool. Give her the attention and affection she requests and IF you want something else then be discrete and don't make an issue of it. For her own sake a thicker skin and some counseling appears to be in order. But he's still acting like a F***tard if he's whanking it for 2 hours behind a bathroom door. Most guys would far prefer to enjoy a live warm smiling affectionate girl instead of something on a screen but everyone's different. If your Boyfriend can't understand this or chooses porn over real sex then his head isn't scerwed on straight. How dissimilar would it be if she spent every wwaking moment reading 'romance' novels full of smutty passages? Not very.

    All relationships require tolerance of your mates peculiarities and equal parts love and understanding. From the story above there doesn't appear to be much tolerance on either side and that's not OK. The question might be "IF you were getting all of the sex you wanted AND he only checked out porn in your absence then would this remain a sore topic? Likely not. So it might not be the porn as much as the hostile situation from a callous pr*ck Boyfriend who routinely ignores his girl?

    And those who claim that all porn is bad are likely repressed in other ways. Sex should be good for both genders and any erotica that promotes great sex should be applauded. By both sides. My wife bought me a subscription to Playboy nearly 20 years ago and I show decent respect by not reading it in front of the kids and by being there for her "LIVE" whenever she chooses. Whenever. Wherever. So it has never gotten in the way. And she's also watched porn and usually laughs at how bad the acting is or how skanky the women are. And they are skanky if you look close enough so there's nothing to feel threatened by.

    Different strokes for different folks but still I'm there when she wants the goods so she's never felt threatened by any of it. Good luck and I hope it's gotten better since you posted this question.

    • hehe you still use a magazine?

  • First of all, I don't think it's because he doesn't love you. Yes, he is being an asshole and he has no right to act like that, but it's more because it's something guys do. And it is a very difficult habit to break. I also find porn disgusting and I could never watch it, but I do masturbate and it would be difficult to stop completely. Maybe he just needs more time. As for why he masturbates even when you're willing to have sex with him, I don't know the answer. If I had to guess, I'd say it's because no one knows how to satisfy him better than himself.

    But one thing you should know. The women in porn are not pretty at all. They are complete exaggerations simply because it's easier to get off to. They are completely out of proportion, and none of them are attractive. Try to imagine a porn star walking down the street. She would turn heads. But not because she's pretty. Only because she's an exaggeration. It's hard to explain, but believe me. Your boyfriend doesn't want you to look like those women.

    I'm really sorry he's making you feel this way and I wish there was something I could do about it. Just keep in mind that he is the problem. Not you. Good luck with this!

    • I know what you mean because I service myself quite often (without porn)when he's not avaiable because he's looking at porn it would be hard to stop old habits but I've given him 4 years since we lived together and it always comes back my only thing is that he's not looking at the sterotypical girls with fake tits and all, he likes looking at normal looking girls with real boobs regular girls and that makes me feel bad because I'm a regualr girl too and I'm not fat or anything so I don't know

    • I'm sorry you have to deal with this. But I really don't think it's because he thinks they're prettier than you are. It's just a completely different activity than sex, and just because he sometimes prefers that, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. Just keep trying to get him to stop, but whatever happens, don't think it's because you're not good enough. Because that's not what it's about.

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  • Girls in porn are paid to have sex, and frankly, being a chick myself, I don't really find most of the porn actresses any more attractive than anyone else.

    Sounds like you have an issue with what your parents went through, porn is simply just erotica in it's own way, like a romance novel or playgirl.

    The fact that you said, "He tells me I don't give it to him enough but I can't feel sexual and willing if I don't feel good about myself but I still try." leads me to believe your boyfriend is, no offense, a F***tard. If he likes feeling his hand on his dick more than he likes feeling his dick inside of you (the girl who is and always will be more attractive than a plastic barbie doll paid to get laid ^_^), then f** him. That's NOT helpful to your self-esteem.

    My boyfriend looks at porno while we do it sometimes, and I don't mind it because I know when he does look at porn he's using it for what it is intended, as anticipation for me, his partner. I watch porn when I'm horny, but nothing beats the meat, I use it simply to get off, knowing that my own sex life is not fictional or faked as it is in most professionally done porno.

    He may love you, but if he's not willing to see how tormented you are when he does this, then he certainly has a very F***ed up way of showing it. And then to tell you that you don't give it to him enough is ludicrous. Maybe instead of whackin the mole to some chick on the tv, he should try oh...idk...getting his lazy butt off the couch and spending more time with you?

    I'm not trying to be rude, I'm simply trying to point out that porno is okay, when used properly, and that your boyfriend is an a**hole.

    • He is addicted to porn. He is comparing you with those girls which is totally unfair. Try your best to stop his addiction. Trust me, it is possible. Even I was a porn addict.

  • It's disrespectful of your boyfriend to not consider your feelings but you shouldn't get so upset about it. Every guy watches p*rn . Sometimes I watch p*rn with my boyfriend, it shouldn't be seen as taboo and it shouldn't cause you discomfort. He will watch p*rn as much as he wants, even if it means hiding it from you, it's what guys like. You can find guys who don't watch it or watch very little but they're hard to come by because every guy watches it. You shouldn't take it personally or feel like he's replacing you with p*rn . It seems like you're feeling insecure and not giving him enough but even if you had sex everyday, he will still look at p*rn if he's feeling particularly horny. Honestly, when guys watch p*rn , they're barely paying attention to the girl's looks, it's all about the act itself, her genitalia and the noises she makes. Afterwards, they won't even remember what she looks like so you shouldn't worry yourself about it.
    If he locks himself in the bathroom when you're there, to masturbate, then it could be that he has an addiction. I could see how that makes you feel insecure, like he's not interested in having sex with you so you need to tell him this. Ask him not to watch it when you're around and have sex with you instead. Ask what it is about watching p*rn that's better than sleeping with you. Maybe he has a fetish that he thinks you wouldn't agree with or do, so he's embarrassed to ask? This could be because you live together. When you weren't, he had alone time to do it and maybe he appreciated that alone time?
    Communication is what will help this situation the most.

  • I know people will hate this response, but I'm going for it anyways. Guys are stupid sometimes, and they do stupid things without thinking about how it will make you feel. he's not doing it because he doesn't love you, and he's not doing it because those girls are prettier then you. he's just plain and simply a guy, and guys love to look at porn. I know plenty of girls who are much better looking than girls in porn, and their guys still look at it. And you do not want to be like those girls! they are nasty slutty bimbos who aren't smart enought to get real jobs! I have asked many of my guy friends this question, and they all tell me when they look at porn it has nothing to do with how they feel about their girlfriend. And I think its dumb when people say "at least he comes home to you". You don't have to settle like that. Girls who stay with guys who don't come home are just stupid. if it makes you that uncomfortable and sad he should respect you and try to change. He can live without porn, he's not going to die. But also know its not going to happen over night. Its going to take a lot of effort on both parts. Also, have you tried looking at it with him? Maybe if you did that he wouldn't have to hide it and feel bad, and you wouldn't have to catch him and feel sad.

  • Ok this is how it is, no matter what guys stare at girls even if they got gfs. Maybe they can control it sometimes not to look at them in a dirty way but most of the time they can't because of the sexy view they see. But him watching pornos and masturbating him self is wrong, when he got a gf. No matter what you look like he should do these kinder flings with the girl he really loves not some fake girls out there. Now if you already spoke to him about it.. and he said he will change and he still didn't change then definitely he doesn't hav a respect towards you because his not listning to something that makes you upset. My opinion is explain this to him clearly how his not listening to you and giving you respect and if he still doesn't change well too bad, don't deal with something that upsets you over and over again. This is just a circle that's happening over and over again. You don't need a person like that in your life You absolutely deserve to be happy, not just put your hopes up and think he will change because if his not willing to respect, make you happy and change himself then as I said TOO bad. Don't be scared be strong if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out, there are so much guys out there, innocent its hard to find but hello nothing is easyy

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  • This is not what you want to hear, I know. But you're not going to stop him from watching porn. Guys are wired to want to spread their seed as much as possible, thus why guys are stereotypically always interested in sex and horny all the time, etc.

    Looking at porn does NOT mean he doesn't care about you, or care about your feelings. It doesn't mean hewould rather look at porn stars than you, it doesn't mean you're not pretty enough, or aything like that. The fact that you're pushing him away even further because of it is only going to make him resort to it even more.

    The only way to really make him not look at porn so much would be to accept the porn and have sex with him more often. As far as bedroom issues go, if he's not doing it for you in the bedroom anymore either, then that's another matter and something you should talk about with him.

    Maybe try watching it with him some time and go down on him or something. Then you can see that it's not that he prefers these women over you, they're just a fill in for the sex he desires but is not getting.

    If you want further advice on this topic, see my other answers, I've responded to several of these types of questions on porn, but in summation: let go of your insecurities. Insecurity and jealousy over something like porn is a real turn off for guys.

    • "He tells me I don't give it to him enough but I can't feel sexual and willing if I don't feel good about myself but I still try." I understand yeah guys are hardwired to spread the seed, but look at what he's said to her? That's not a guy who gives a S*** about how she feels about porn. Yeah he's gonna look at porn, and it upsets her, so in turn he lowers her self esteem? I think she needs to add an update, how often do you two have sex?

    • Well... I'm sorry I don't see what's wrong with expressing a desire for more sex... I guess it depends on HOW he said it and I don't see a quote here. You just seem to be assuming that it was in the worst way possible. If he was being a dick about it... then okay, he's being a dick. But I don't see what's wrong with expressing a desire for more sex? You can't help what you feel. I don't see how he is purposely lowering her self esteem...

    • But whether he's being a dick to her or not to her ( I don't see anything in here that specicfically says he is, so I don't know, all I see is that he wants more sex, which shouldn't be a crime) I think she still has some issues to work through because even if she leaves this guy she'll be hard pressed to find a guy who doesn't look at porn sometimes, and I don't think it's generally fair to ask someone to stop because of your own insecurities. My fiancee likes smutt romance novels and (cont'd)

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  • Guys like porn because that's where their imaginations come to life. Or at least they think it is. They want to live the pornstar life but without the strippers, without the men with long penises, without the STD's and instead with all the women of their past or any women of their choosing. In fact, they think about these women more than the actual women they see in the porn.

    Men like to have sex very easily when they are horny. They want it like a fat man wants his Big Mac Meal without waiting for more than 60 seconds. That's how the male hormones work. Every guy watches porn behind closed doors. Make no doubt about it. They are horn dogs. However, some guys are better at keeping it private.

  • I am sorry for the situation you are in. Believe me, despite what many men will say, you are not the problem, porn is. Since I have addressed this question a number of times I will link you to my other responses.

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    I would also advise that he is probably addicted and won't quit without a serious spiritual change in his life. Porn will cause problems in your relationship and I would recommend you look for a relationship in which you are more likely to share common values and ideas about pornography.

    • Dude... get over yourself

    • Amandagurl, that really doesn't seem like the kind of thing an 18 yo girl would say. Is that you Smithie?...Dude, there is something mentally wrong with you. You are a 42 year old man with an extra profile on here that happens to be of an 18 yo girl.

  • I suggested this to another woman wo complained about this very same situation. Bring him some porn DVD's from his collection(if he has dvd's) and ask him which is his favorite.

    Pop in his favorite one skip to a scene he considers hot and mimic what the woman is doing in the video while he is watching. You can make yourself look like a porno lady, gawdy make-up, big hair and over exaggerated moaning and groaning. wear a whong, lots of good perfume, powder yourself up etc.

    The woman I suggested this to reported positive results and now they roleplay alot. Seemed like a dumb idea but I suggested it anyway and it turned out positive.

    I am sure there are a lot of "roleply" websites out ther with better suggestions.

    By the way don't cry about the porno actresses being perfect, they get a lot of surgery, lots of trick photography and we guys kinda get bummed out when we see how gigantic some of these guys are in those video's. So your not alone.

    Porno movies are all about fantasy and you can make anything look bigger or smaller in a movie...like godzilla looks huge and when he stomps tokyo it looks very convincing, but we all know its some dude in a rubber suit smashing model buildings, catch my drift? :-)

  • i watch porn with him... when its tiring and getting himself up is a little harder,its mind booster but it helps me do me good...i don't get insecure,instead I work out and stay fit,buy lingerie they wear,for some plays...

    when he starts jacking off even if ur there available? do the same and you have to be strong and stick to that...buy toys that are bigger than his hehee this would be like my friends story..it should make him feel insecure like you do and it'll teach him a lesson...the key is to make him feel that you love ur toy better than his..like what he makes you feel about porn ladies..this should pull him to the ground..

    and plus its fun..

  • Personally, I never ever had the desire to watch porn when I had a GF. Hell, if I had a Girlfriend who was adventurous in bed and wanted to try things and wanted to actually have sex at least weekly, I'd NEVER look at porn... Why on earth would I?

    If your Boyfriend is still looking at porn even though you don't like it, I think you need to press the issue hard with him. Its a realtionship issue, if he doesn't respect the fact that you don't like it, and he still does it, there is a problem.

    I'd be in hog heaven if I could find a girl who wanted it that often. I'd NEVER ever look at porn for two hours in the bathroom when my Girlfriend is right there and willing and ready to go. WTF? That just boggles my mind!

    My X-GF wanted to have sex less and less as time went on, and I still wanted it every time I was with her. It got to the point where she would tell me to look at porn and masturbate because she didn't want it... That sucked... thank god I ended that. It's a hard life trying to make it with someone that has a different sex-drive. But the fact of the matter is that I never looked at porn at all unless I HAD to get some and she wasn't givin it up..

    I don't know what to tell you, but I'd say just press the issue, and if he keeps on doing it, get out of that because if he will defy you so easily to look at porn, when you are there for him, he may end up being unfaithful or something like that...

    Good luck!

    • Aww you are a rarity and a sweetheart!

    • He's actually NOT a rarity. I know a lot of guys like this and have dated some. Why watch sex on a computer screen, when you can actually HAVE the fun?!

    • Lol thanks JeanetteG... I can assure you I AM a rarity! :)

  • he's an ass.

    especially if he knows it hurts you.

    i would probably slap the guy if he were my bf.

    definitely just warn him once more and if you can't take it anymore. just forget it. or at least tell him to jack off to porn when you're not around

  • This question is asked time and time again. This a copy and paste of my answer from another question along similar lines.

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    Porn + masturbation is different from sex.

    I could quite easily be in the mood for a quick wank, without wanting sex. Masturbation is a purely selfish act that's 100% stress free. You don't have to worry about:

    - Do I smell ok

    - Did I brush my teeth

    - I should have trimmed my pubes

    - Is she enjoying this

    - Am I going to fast

    - Damn I should slow down

    - Will this lead to a relationship talk?

    And so on. You can just sit back and look at whatever fantasy you happen to like at that moment. The internet (and the porn) allows for us guys to fulfil our generally rapid fire switching of turn ons at will. For instance I might start of, say, wanting to look at Jennifer Love Hewitt pictures, and during the course of a wank, that migrates into big breasts - bouncing big breasts - jumping - skipping - jogging - girls on a beach jogging - sex on a beach. Within the space of a few minutes.

    I honestly don't think the majority of girls understand that, or indeed how the male fantasies work. From what my girlfriend has told me, her fantasies when masturbating are long drawn out elaborate scenes. Her favourite is about being a saloon dancing girl in a wild west tavern and being taken by wild bill, the local bad guy. She's been masturbating to the same fantasy and imagined image for years.

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    All guys are different. All guys have different porn tastes and levels. I LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND intently, but at the same time I still watch porn. My friend however, when he started going out with his now wife, he deleted all his porn on his computer (but did admit to watching it still online at times anyhow). Another friend of mine as more porn than the internet! (Seriously, spindles of dvds, all categorised) that he and his girlfriend watch.

    Talk to your boyfriend about it, talk to him and say how it makes you feel. But in doing so, try to understand that porn to a male, and masturbation for that matter, is TOTALLY SEPARATE ENTITY to sex with a loved one. I cannot stress that enough.

  • Your demand is unreasonable. Your boyfriend is a person also and as such entitled a private side of his life. Perhaps you could get some psychological counseling to help you deal with your problem. You seem to have an issue from childhood, a lot of insecurity, and a need to be controlling. Any of those problems left untreated can destroy a relationship.

    • I'm so sorry that you think sharing an intimate relationship and being sexual with someone you love is so unreasonable. I'll admit that everyone is entitled to privacy but you have to understand that I don't hide stuff behind his back like he does to me. There's something to be said about honesty in a relationship. I even bought him some porn the last time we argued about this but he still insist in spending money to only later hide in under our washer...that's not privacy that's dishonesty!!!

    • I am pretty sure that I did not say that I think sharing an intimate relationship and being sexual with someone you love is unreasonable. Apparently your boyfriend agrees with my position, he still gets the porn. I suspect his hiding it is an attempt to be nice too you, he knows it upsets you. Ignorance is bliss. If you want to be happy with him, stop trying to control everything. He is a person also.

    • If a guy was being NICE to me by hiding shit from me in MY house I rather the guy be a total dick to me least I wouldn't be laying in bed alone wondering why he wasn't with me. If that's how you be nice to your wife I feel pity for her. And I don't control anything he does he's the man of the house but I still want the respect I deserve and him spending more time looking at strange girls instead of laying me out on the bed is disrespectful!!

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  • He looks at porn because:

    a) he likes looking at porn, and

    b) it's not all about you.

  • Ok well he has been looking at porn and jacking off way before you met him, except that fact it's the truth. Why he watches porn instead of having sex with you when you laying in bed is a mystery to me. But he's not going to stop and you keep trying to make him, sure he will say he will stop but he won't simple as that he won't stop, pretty much every guy looks at porn, every guy jacks off, you could compromise watch porn with him and have sex while your watching it. But you will never get him to stop looking at porn so just let it go.

  • why don't you try to look at it by yourself one day I am a female and I like to watch porn my best friend is a female and she is addicted to it

  • I agree it is addictive.. and just because he's doing it doesn't meant he's lost any interest in you. It's just an aid to masturbating.. It's not like he's going out and doing other girls..

    It's better for him to be get off on porn..than on another girl.

  • you need to talk to him about it and tell him if it doesn't stop that the projections online is all he is going to have in the end, and if he doesn't stop leave him, cause you don't need that crap, if he isn't around, you will find someone better hun. good luck!

  • Dude, it's porn. I understand your psychological damage from youth, but if you need therapy, go get some. No shame in it.

    Don't make the "norm" porn viewing guy change his ways. It's relatively normal as said. Get treatment. Yeah, I know he should be able to understand you and your problem, but it's hard sometimes.

    Porn is fake for a reason. Sometimes we want 50 cheerleaders at one time. That's something that you can never do, but our hands can...

    • ""norm" porn viewing" is not "he locks himself in the bathroom for 2 hours or more to look at porn when I'm available for him! " If he can't appreciate you and will ignore you for 2 hours while he gets off, knowing that he's also hurting you while he's getting off, he may be enjoying that aspect, and if so, he's a sick jerk, and you should lose him, because you deserve better.

  • Get with your boyfriend and find some middle ground in which you both can live. You're not accepting the porn, he's not abandoning it. So, rather than blowing up the relationship (drastic), or trying to make each other change (stupid), make a deal. You pretend the porn doesn't exist, he makes you believe that you're hotter than any woman he knows or imagines. Every sound relationship must spend some time in the Land of Make-Believe.

    Four years is too long to be arguing this. Ask yourself seriously: do you really want to blow up your relationship over this? If not, let the argument die, and bury it.

    P.S.: It's serious mistake to make our partners account for our childhood anxieties. It's what shrinks are for, to keep us from infecting our important relationships with them.

    • I'm sorry, but that just doesn't sound right to me, it sounds as though you're suggesting they sweep the issue under the rug by mutually agreeing to lie to each other. "If I'm pretending you're not watching other women have sex in place of having sex with me, then you're totally telling me the truth about how pretty I am." I'm not trying to say this idea is stupid at all, it might work for some people, but for people like me, who just can't really look the other way and pretend that I'm okay with something that deeply hurts me, this wouldn't work. My fiance and I have the same issue, but slowly we're working on it. He's agreed to keep cutting back on p*rn gradually, and I have agreed to do my best to have sex more often, which also means he has agreed to help get me in the mood. I feel like instead of just denying the problem, she should have a long sit down with him, and they should discuss what would work best for their situation.

  • he could be addicted

  • I laugh at some of disagrees on here. Obviously, watching porn is a choice. It can definitely be as addictive as gambling or drinking. So the argument is always, "Is porn acceptable". As a personal choice, yes it is. No law prohibits someone from viewing it. So it isn't "wrong". However the neat thing about this is that you also have a choice. If your boyfriend wants to establish or keep his relationship with you, then you also have the choice of being with someone who chooses to watch porn. You do not have to put up with it, nor do you have to conform and say "Well everyone does it anyhow". Not so, I don't choose to do drugs. And that's my personal choice. If someone doesn't like that aspect about me or my significant other, then that's tough luck. The same thing can be applied with porn. If your boyfriend cannot understand that you want a relationship where porn is out the door, then he is not even close to being a worthy suitor. When it comes to who we date, you are perfectly liable to set boundaries, no matter what anyone says. It's your life and not theirs.

    • I really like this answer.

    • This answer is terrible. Comparing a natural, instinctive urge to procreate versus the desire to do drugs is just lame. You say this is just a personal choice issue. really? That's like saying "Your boyfriend chooses not to be perfect, just as a matter of personal choice, so therefore you can make the personal choice to dump him." How easy you make it all sound. What an idiot. Do you understand that making a relationship work is about WORK, not simple personal choices>

    • Do not call me an idiot ever again. Do you understand me? Your the confused one here, I never said there was a comparison between procreating and drugs. Watching porn is no different than an addiction. It is by DEFINITION, an addiction as well. Furthermore personal choice can be anything. People date based on similar backgrounds and their enthinicities. That is CHOICE. The same thing with being with a person who is alcoholic or addicted to anything else. Now grow up, and learn to be more mature.

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  • I know this is an old one but take some sexy pic's of yourself and that way he'll masturbate looking at pic's of you. he might still look at porn thow just because he's use to it

  • Don't let it bother you. You are only going to hurt yourself and him. Guys look at porn. Period.

    Want to go through life hating men? Instead, try to understand it, and even encourage it. Even better, do what my wife did one time and take a few shots of yourself and give it to him. I am serious, the sooner you stop getting bothered by this, the sooner you can become a better girlfriend, and friend.

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