He had sex with a fat chick..

[Anonymous]

I've uncovered some odd history in the guy I am dating..He had sex with a fat girl..I met the girl..pure cosmic World-like coincidence, and she told me he used her for sex and that he was verbally abusive towards her..would call her fat after sex and would only booty call her sporadically for about a year..with all honesty..it freaked me out for some time (I'm 5'8 I'm a size 6, and clearly this girl had no comparison to me) so you can only imagine how I would feel perplexed at such an odd exchange of counterparts...however, I am now a bit more accepting of it. I asked him why he did it..and he told me that had happened over a year ago..and that it was a weak point in his life..he regrets. I asked him to delete her from his life..phone..Facebook..and he did.Once he freaked out when the fat chick called him to tell him she told me everything about their affair...he went crazy..and did everything he could to explain himself. The girl called me back instantly..to yet again say how upset and verbally abusive he was to her on the phone saying how he felt embarrassed and how he felt betrayed by her..and that it would be the last time he'd speak to her..at the end of the conversation..he thanked her for ruining his life. Now, I'm curious to see guys and girls opinions on this. Guys..I am sensitive to this subject, so please nothing silly..my question to you is..have you ever had sex with a fat girl, and if so, what were the reasons. In other words..What would drive a man to do this. Using a person for sex and keeping it secretive? And Girls..having uncovered this guy's piece of the past record..what would this say about a guy..would this make him a good or a bad person..would this indicate his own esteem or self value?What is your take on this?

[jjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjj]

its a myth that all fat girls that get a guy (sex) will be very dirty, sexually active and do anything for sex like it will be a long time before they get more ! so usually wen a guy is desperate or lonely or horny or in a vengeance mode, he may tend to try for the fatty, wen alcohol is involved a guy who didn't pik up a hot chik may tend to at least get the fatty ! also wen getting a fatty drunk a guy can blame it on the booze and be pleased the same time.a guy with balls who doesn't care will always do the fatty before masterbating! think quik...would you rather get caugh strrokin it ! or caught pleasin fatty and youreself at the same time ? personally I think the myth is true, fatties f*** like there is no tomorrow, are dirty and don't complain on anything. but you still don't need to date them. the hotties you gotta wine and dine and obey, ...all that for booty? a guy wen desperate thinks twice?ahahahah

[Asker]

Lol.I hear that's the case with some men...do you think its a sign of desperation? or a sign of..oh it's an easy catch..rather have an actual vagina tonight rather than a change of hands.almost like masturbating but with an actual person? A person that could and would do almost anything to please?

[jjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjj]

sing of an easy catch cus if its desperation then you would also be a victim of desperation? all men have f***ed a fattie with all respect, there wet and juicy, different from other girls. each man has his preference and I doubt you're guy was desperate, more like NEEDY and HORNY !

[Asker]

well I would ask the girl how the sex was...&she said it was worth it..it was great. But there is one thing that bothered her..he would never finish her off, once his needs were met, he was like "Oh, well, I'm done, too bad." Also I did ask her if he EVER went down on her..and she said no..he was never affectionate w/her &he wouldn't ever kiss her in foreplay & never had he eaten her out. Its was all about his d*** inside of her vagina...In my case, exact opposite of how sex is with him and I.

[DJ_Durrty_unk]

This is why I don't sleep with fat girls. Already did one thing with a girl I regret, that no one will ever know about. Now that was a time when I felt lonely, depressed, weak and a tad desperate. So I went out with said girl because of these things. Mainly because a girl was actually interested in me. So of course we do things we regret, ti's natural. Plus we're always changing.

But in terms of his abuse, of course it was because he felt like crap, that the fat girl is all he could get. So he would abuse her basically saying "why are you the only girl I could get with and Why can't I get a better girl?"

It's not nice but it doesn't make him any worse just weak in the moment.

[Asker]

I can see that..he did say it was one of those things he looks back upon to say, "why the f*** did I ever do that?" Would this say he was desperate at the time of weakness?I don't know..he would keep using her for sex when he would come back in town..at the time he was 4 hrs away for College and he had a pretty girl up there (saw her picture) and when he would come back into town..would still f*** the fatty & tell her all about his about-to-be official girlfriend in college. Again..this was a year ago.

[DJ_Durrty_unk]

well that's different. He probably just wanted sex, and maybe enjoyed using her. I would sau though the biggest warning signals though are the fact he ALREADY HAD A GIRL, but still slept with fatty and not just the fact he slept with fatty. Don't you think?

[Asker]

While he was effing the fat one while he was back in town..his girl back in College were nothing official..He would even tell her, "the fat girl" that it was OK to have sex since nothing between him and his actual girl was official yet...i donno if that makes anything any better..clearly he wasn't serious about the fat chick..because he would tell her everything about the girl he was dating at the time,like about her and what he liked about her..

[DJ_Durrty_unk]

oh well, I don't know its an odd thing. All I can say is, so long as its not a problem for the relationship don't worry about his past.

[Asker]

It hasn't thus far..and I shouldn't let it affect me as much. As odd as it is..I'm just coping by reading others view.. but, just by any chance..have you ever had a friend or someone you knew that had this type of sexual trip?

[DJ_Durrty_unk]

Nope. Not that I know of

[Asker]

well thank you for your commentary..you were actually helpful.

[Anonymous]

I've been in your place. Your boyfriend has raised several red flags. He is verbally abusive and has the mind set of a juvinille "he thanked her for ruining his life". It also seems that you lack confidence in yourself aswell, because you have stated many times that she was fat. Do you feel less confidnce in your body, because your boyfriend will go for girls that you consider less attractive than or has it turned into a sense of jealousy? Well, what ever it is you need to stop pointing out physical features of that other woman's body, because that makes you look horrible. I'm sure you are not, but I know you are upset and just grasping on to what makes you fell better. Just know that you can never be compared to anyone.

[Asker]

I can see how I sound cruel, and rude as can be, and I can only apologize now and in hopes that people can understand my affliction here ..Yes I've questioned my own body image. I've asked my friends what they think as to why this guy is seemingly drooling all over me when he possibly has a thing for overweight women. I am slim but I have curves. I'm 5'8 130 pounds and a good bust size and a decent body shape..but I still sometimes wonder if I would gain SOME weight. not morbid but healthy..

[Asker]

It's not jealousy. What I'm concerned about is...IF this guy actually enjoys to have sex with overweight girls, but will not be seen with them..How do I fit in? Will my body be enough for his sexual needs, or will I end up getting cheated on by him with a fat girl..I have to consider this if I'm ever to jump into a relationship with him. I need that peace in mind..and as odd as it sounds..it Is an insecurity..not a healthy one.. nor is it a normal one. but WILL I BE ENOUGH FOR HIM?that is all.

[Anonymous]

Pay attention to the man's character as a person and judge people by their actions. One day your boyfriend's nasty disposition will be directed at you, and you'll be wondering "how could he do this to me?" Well sweetheart, he's already told you a story of himself that displayed the fact that he has no compassion for others he deems below him, is a user, and abusive, as well as can't take responsibility for his actions (blaming the girl he used and abused for ruining HIS life). So if you think this is an OK guy to date and you have the nerve to look down on her for being fat instead of looking down on him for treating another human being this way..well maybe you guys are 2 peas in a pod and deserve each other.

[shmo4448]

he is to me an abusive guy who uses girls who he thinks are beneath him to feel better about himself, people change all the time so if he regrets how he treated her then, I think that would make him at least a better person than he was before. no matter how fat or ugly she is that doesn't make it OK for anyone to abuse her. the reason some guys might want to have sex with a fat girl might be a lot of reasons maybe a fetish, but I don't see it as that. I think you are more repulsed about his choice of a fat girl then his abusive behavior towards her.

[Asker]

he does regret it.. he even wanted to apologize to her once I told him what this girl said to me..but I told him to just let it go. She is till this day obsessed with him..and it would make matters worse if he tried to reconcile his fault with her...I am bothered a bit repulsed and shocked he would do this to a person and yes..It is also her image that repulses me...atleast I'm honest..i don't view fat people as a pleasant thing to see..and he doesn't either..he was horny and recklesss..

[leximarie]

Wait...let me get this straight...this man verbally abused another women and used her for sex and your greatest concern of the whole ordeal is that…shes...overweight...ummm am I the only one who sees something wrong here...this guy is an a**hole but all you seem to care about is that the girl he was with was overweight...good lord I mean don't you see anything wrong with that?

[Asker]

I feel bad for the girl..but I don't respect her. He'd do this to her and she'd still comply to his booty calls and she would still have sex with him...I'd respect her more if she stopped complying to him because he clearly did not have any high regards to her other than her vagina. Ironically..she would do a lot of the chasing..he told me she'd call him out of no where and just offer more sex..wtf? If a guy disrespects me..its done. If a girl won't respect herself..no man in his right mind will

[leximarie]

wow...just wow, so its OK that he abused her because you don't respect her...I mean where's you empathy? Have you no respect for other women? As a women you don't see anything wrong with this? I see plenty wrong with it. The girl had low self esteem and was weak, that doesn't make it OK for her to be abused. Its never justified for someone to abuse someone else like that, he took advantage of her and her low self esteem, which is disgusting, as is the fact that you can excuse that behavior

[Asker]

Im not excusing his behavior ..I called him off on it. He said he was going through a weak time in life & so he went for an easy girl(And she WAS easy..she gave him sex the FIRST night of ever being w/him). He wasn't interested in anything serious..after all he was leaving for a different college after a month of seeing her (4 hrs distance). She told him she wanted this to work out &that she wanted him to open up to her. He was honest, said no. Yet she persisted on calling him, giving gifts,&sex

[Asker]

She is dumb, and no I don't have empathy for someone who was CLEARLY told by him from the get-go that there was never going to be anything other than sex between them. It's NOT like he was leading her on..and the sex part was consensual. It was a f*** buddy thing..and

[smexygal89]

Sounds like they deserve each other.

[LizTheWeirdKid]

Why does it matter what the girls weight is?

Thats really mean.

The point is he acted like a jerk.

So you're saying if he treated her like sh*t but she was thin it would be ok?

[lolwhyme]

...that's exactly what I was thinking. Like WTF. So OP, you're one of THOSE girls. SMH.

[Asker]

She told me she tried getting him in a relationship w/her & thought sex was the gateway..when he is about to commit to this other girl who he is going to college with at that time, and when he's back in town he f***s fatty, tells her all about his college romance..& says it's Ok..it's not official between him & his actual to-be girlfriend.So sex was therefore acceptable at the time..I'm so sorry if I sound cruel. but this isn't easy for me...please understand I'm not a bad person.

[SR1916]

I mean, a fat girl might be something he wanted to try, you no, like a fetish. I'm not attarcted to fat girls, but some guys are.

But he does sound like a loser like the girl below said.

[Asker]

If he were attracted to fat girls..then why would he be chasing me? Cos I hate to sound prime, but I am a very eligible girl..and I don't chase after men..men chase after me. I'm not fat or ugly and that clearly puts the stamp of..wtf ? If it's a fetish then..i'd like to ask him about that but even so..he would keep this a secret from all, his friends..except his best mate..obviously.

[SR1916]

im not sayin attracted. Like for example: I happen to love to have sex with girls who have a big ass, and big boobs because it feels better. But as for dating, I like girls who aren't as curvy and kinda on the shorter side. I like how we look together. So it could be the same for him, except he likes fat girls for sex, but not to date them.

[Asker]

I should ask him about that..because If I am ever to consider anything serious with this guy..I'd like to make sure that my body and me are suffice for his manly urges. I'd hate to find him cheating on me with a fat girl..

[SR1916]

no I feel exactly what you mean. You gotta do what you gotta do.

[Aries11w]

I feel really sorry for the girl. Firstly bevause of the way he treated her, secondly that you think it's such a sin for him to have sex with a "fat girl".

Not nice.

[Asker]

it is a sin..he did it to divulge his sexual pleasures. and that was wrong of him..I also feel bad for the girl. But in my respects to an unbiased view..It takes two to tango. So I can't blame it ALL on him, That wouldn't be fair.

[ginamorganic]

im 100% with u

[jennifer1992]

he sounds like loser and you sound stupid by making a big deal about her weight..i'm not fat by any means , but really come on lol

[Asker]

Just to clarify..I'm not referring to a slightly overweight girl...oh, no, no.. I'm ALL about a girl having some curves as long as its healthy.This is more on the morbid side... And he's a rather attractive guy..(Loser or no loser)..He's not an ugly shmuck, and so it struck me hard to find he would actually release his sexual needs in this lump of pork.

[jennifer1992]

haha that is kind of weird in way...I think that you should really pay attention to the way he talks to her..because he sounds kind of mean..I mean she still is human ..that kind of shows what kind of person he is to speak to her like that..what happens if he did that to you? I'm not saying he is going to , but he could since he already did it to her...

[Asker]

Well I would dump him if he ever did THAT to me...which is why I don't understand why this girl developed feelings for him and why she kept running to him for more after the way he verbalized to her. He told her already that he didn't want anything more than sex...& as for the way he treats me..its wonderful..always calls me beautiful..thinks my body is amazing, & always complimenting me here & there.Truthfully, he puts me on a pedestal. He's caring and affectionate and is very sweet to me...

[jennifer1992]

well I don't know if your happy then I would just let it go I guess..Maybe the girl likes him , because some girls like guys who treat them bad or have low self esteem..idk its just shows allot about his character.. that being said tho sometimes finding someone you click with and like is difficult and if you guys are happy together then just let it slide tho..Just pay attention to the way he acts around kids, or waiters..Ive read somewhere that's important to notice..he could have another side to him idk

[SpeakNoAmericano]

Why are you talking about him having sex with an over weight girl like he confessed that he can only climax if you take a crap on a dog in front of him?

Over weight people are still PEOPLE.

God damn woman. He sounds like a bad person, for using someone for sex, but you sound like a pretty crappy person too for talking about over weight girls like they're beneath you.

[Asker]

Don't you think I FEEL dehuminized myself? its an image concern..so what? GETTING OVER THE FACT that I feel superior or inferior to a Fat person is not the issue. HOW is that horrid to admit to have an insecurity myself..no matter how vain and cut throat it might sound to some..but this really messed with my pshychy and you're not helping.

[SpeakNoAmericano]

Tbh with you, I'm not trying to help. You should feel horrible for talking about ANYONE like they're beneath you based on a physical aspect. It's horrid because everyone has different definitions of what's beautiful and what's ugly, making either everyone beautiful or everyone ugly, you seriously want pity on here because you fee insecure your douchebag of a boyfriend dated an over weight girl? Imagine how insecure she'd feel if she read this. Imagine how YOU'D feel if you read something like this!

[Asker]

This is NOT about bringing people down based on appearance. That is not what this article is about..I am concerned about what this guy wants in the bedroom and based on his past..he had sex with an overweight girl.. would scorn her for her weight and would dread ever being with her in public..So my concern here is not about weather I'm better than her or not. Its whether I'm all he needs to be sexually pleased in the bedroom cos clearly I'm not an issue to be seen with in public.

[SpeakNoAmericano]

I know it isn't. And I wasn't trying to solve your issue with my answer. Based on what you said in the question, and how you've commented on other answers, it's clear you're pretty concerned that because he dated an over weight girl his standards are low and you feel insecure because of that. Quite frankly, I don't give a sh*t if he uses you for sex, maybe if he does you'll finally stop seeing yourself as superior to that over weight girl because you'll be on the same page.

[Asker]

as for Fat people & the concept of beauty..You can go f*** as many fat people as you'd like darling. And I'd respect that..but it is what it is..wut other way would you like me to call them? It's great to have curves..I think its feminine to have hot curves..but when it is hazardeous to ones health, then its quite noticeably hideous. Hence my morbid remark about the girl.Srry but I can't help being honest with dumb twatts like yourself. So enough of this bringing down the fatties Comments Goodbye.

[SpeakNoAmericano]

I'm dumb? Good to know. You're shallow, and rude, insecure AND up your own arse, that's a bloody talent if you ask me. Honesty is fun, eh?

[Asker]

Honesty is not rudeness.however, your take on my brief article was real dumb..I'm not looking here for people to tell me if I'm superior to a fat girl. Its not an insecurity about looks.This boy loves my appearance & my body..I just I don't want him to surprise me with a rampage of late night fat Sex. you obviously can't take my bluntness..also be aware that this is character count..wut point is there to be thorough in my my wording. get to the point.. you have aswell.So rudeness is mutual, ****.

[SpeakNoAmericano]

What you type and what you say are two different things. Type all the words you want, the message that you're insecure is coming through loud and clear regardless.

[Asker]

I am insecure, and for all the wrong reasons.

[SpeakNoAmericano]

So what? You want a prize? Find me a girl who isn't insecure about at least one thing and then we'll talk. You can't bring down that poor girl just because you're insecure, can you imagine how you'd feel if you read a question like this but you were in her shoes? Bet it'd suck. Maybe it wouldn't be so bad to happen though 'cause you might gain some perspective.

[Asker]

I know everyone has insecurities..big or small. I'm not asking for your sympathy..thanks. As for the fat girl..you speak as though I'm referring to EVERY fat girl in the planet. This is one person that I've gotten to know. And I've never met someone so self centered, selfish and untrustworthy in my life..She has brought this upon herself..It takes two to tango & I admitt what he did was wrong, but what she did was wrong aswell. enough with this.U wouldn't understand me...you don't know me.

[SpeakNoAmericano]

Baha, you're playing the "You don't know me" card? Classic. Listen, don't pretend you said those nasty things because she has a bad personality, if that was the issue you'd have said "he had sex with a girl who was so self centred, selfish and untrustworthy" but you didn't, because that isn't what you have the issue with; it's her weight. You can claim whatever you like, but everyone here sees through you.

[Asker]

Lol..YES it is her weight you idiot! I'm not trying to conceal THAT displeasure of thought! My question to you is..why are you so insulted by my affliction with fat women?I DON'T consider fat people attractive, I think its unhealthy and grotesque and it shouldn't be babied by society as though it was a disease! I don't think it's bad for me to admit..it is an image concern and that it isn't normal for a goodlooking guy like my boyfriend to have ever had sex with a thing like THAT.

[Asker]

She IS untrustworthy, self centered, &selfish..she was a total stranger when I met her..& like an open book she told me EVERYTHING..& I do mean, EVERYTHING. I asked to confide in her not to ever let him know I found out. I didn't want him to know I knew at that time..& what does this girl do?very next day..I receive a text.."I'm sorry I f***ed up badly..I told him everything, everything about you knowing."..my friend was w/her during this text &told me she looked like she won the f***en lottery.

[SpeakNoAmericano]

Cool story bro.

[Asker]

Its real.

[SpeakNoAmericano]

Okay, but I'm bored of it now.

[Asker]

Good :]

[Asker]

You have nothing interesting to say..other than your dignified stance about fat women... which I still find curious, since you're defending people who are by no norms socially accepted. They are people of no self worth. You can cry and play all you want and preach Fat Womens rights, but there is no use..you'll still end up looking like a complete dumbass. You have no coherency in your statements..and your points are never put across clearly. Therefor..I don't give a f***k. Goodbye dumbass:]

[SpeakNoAmericano]

Yeah, I'm the one who looks like a dumb ass, that's why 11 people agree with me. Done.

[Asker]

11 people... Haha. GOD, ONLY on G&G.lol Like THAT even matters..a bunch of FAT or thickheaded girls that can't get a man in their lives, &who see themselves as virtuous and better than us down to earth people who KNOW how to say it like it is. You can't even come up with a suitable argument yourself...that says alot. pathetic. That is all:]

[leximarie]

no no honey if anyone is pathetic it is you QA and not anyone else

[ben890]

She told you he abused her and you only care that he had sex with a fat girl? Jesus.

Cool story: Some guys LIKE fat girls.

[Asker]

vebally abusive but clearly..I'm not much of a saint myself according to SOME of the girls in this commentary..so I guess I can't blame him much on that. And yeah..some guys DO like fat girls..but only to f***. at least this guy would hop fences,hide under beds and do all in his power in order to avoid anyone ever knowing about his Fat Girl. So if he ever , "liked" a fat girl, it was purely sexual..& yes I'm concerned because I wouldn't like a guy cheating on me because I wasn't fat enough in bed.

[ben890]

Can't blame him for being verbally abusive? Yes you can. Sounds like he's a f***ing douchebag anyway if he was attracted to her but too "ashamed" to be seen with her or treat her right.

[Asker]

I don't blame him,she wasn't much of a great f***buddy..I met the girl SEVERAL times..but have only recently found this news about them.And to be honest, she's annoying, rather open to giving personal information to strangers, and definitely not trustworthy..I could only imgine the types of scenerios they would get into. She tried getting him to commit at some point, and he made it clear that It was never gonna happen between the two of them..and that she knew what she was getting herself into..

[ben890]

None of those are reasons for him to treat her like crap... Honestly, it all just sounds like you're trying to frame her as the villain to avoid confronting the fact that your boyfriend isn't exactly a nice guy. This whole situation isn't a MAJOR red flag to you?

[Asker]

It is. you're right..I think it was wrong of him to use someone he knew he'd only have for sex nd nothing more. I don't know if I should even bring this up to him again...he made it sound as though he hit a rough patch in life and his esteem was low, and so he got a girl beneath him and completely used that for his ego. it's sad. and he had not thought of the hurt he'd cause in the girls emotions.It's rather sensitive to even talk about..I'm really trying to cope and perhaps gain more insight.

[Asker]

and by abuse..he called her fat. that's what I meant by verbally abusive..he called her fat after sex on eday..i doubt he'll do that to me though.. for one thing of truth..I'm not fat nor am I beneath him.

[ben890]

Oh. Well that's only abuse if he knew she'd take offense to it. If a guy digs his fat girl's body, he could say, "you're fat" as a loving compliment, haha. My girlfriend IS fat but since neither of us see anything wrong with that, it doesn't matter if that word is used.

[Asker]

Well all I can say for sure is that after that, he really did stop calling her that word. She did take offense, but I don't think he did it to purposely hurt her. It was probably just something he was thinking and it slipped out. I find it that the story this girl told me was a bit exaggerated..She was clearly affected by the way she spoke of him...but..What she felt for him, he did not feel for her.

[Asker]

Thinking love would grow out of giving him sex..while he was getting sex for fun..no feelings involved on his part. I also think this was over exaggerated..but she told me how months after he's back in town, she texts him&he texts back asking 4 a quick bj. She said no. he replied..wut if I bought you presents,flowers&took you out?She answered, I would consider it then.Then he replied..oh I'm sorry, but I would only do that for someone I cared about & loved. I already told you nothing would come of this

[ben890]

Haha he still sounds like an a**hole. Whatever, how you see him is up to you.

[carinabina820]

WTF. get rid of him immediately.

[Asker]

easier said then done

[smexygal89]

Its not easier said then done. You either do or you dont. Know what sort of people and behavior you will put up with and stuff you wont. Know what you want and don't let you priorities slide because you have feelings for someone. It never pays in the end. Speaking from life experience. x

[kmhco]

Its a red flag that he says/said abusive things to her. Other than that, what is the big deal? Who cares what she weighs?

[Asker]

Its not to sound judgemental..but this girl was on the morbid side of , "over weight" . I wouldn't care if she was even chubby..but sadly THAT was not the case. She was FAT short..and not even pretty. It was a sad thing to see...I felt repulsed to even think he had ANYthing to do with her twatt.

[likelyOK]

I know this is old not sure if you check it but I know exactly how you feel I was with someone who had a fat girl past and it makes you feel like you have a lower quality guy, like he will f anything, and obviously he DID. What is important is it is in the past and that if he was verbally abusive he apologized and realized it was wrong. One way or another this women was scarred. He obviously hated himself for being with this chick to begin with bc he was horny I often wonder what this guy I’m referring to would do if people found out he fucked fattys on the Down low.

[Dagrath]

Well my girlfriend is "Fat" but she is curvy and a bit chubby. She's 5'7'' and around 185 lbs and most of the her weight went to her thighs, hips, breasts, and butt. I like a more feminine body type plus I love her personality. Now he probably kept it a secret and was going to eventually tell you when he felt confident in your relationship and knew you wouldn't leave him for it.

[Dagrath]

isn't "fat"*

[txmade]

Im had sex with quite a few "fat" women. Most were just a friends with benefits thing a while back, and I was up front about what I wanted. Id come chill, we would have sex a couple times, chill for a couple more hrs, and id leave. I wasn't verbally abusive either. I've also had relationships with a couple of em, infact my last girlfriend was decent size. I go more for personality, whether I want a girlfriend or a fwb, and either one I have, I'm respectful to them, and treat em very good.

[Asker]

I guess you could call this one a fwb..but even so he still felt embarrassed having her in public w/him and wouldn't introduce her to his circle of friends.so it was strictly f***ing. Perhaps a buddy if she weren't so socially annoying and awkward..I met the girl once..& believe me..I know what I'm saying IS legit. her personality was um..rather boring & kinda high maintenance. shocked me when he called her fat that ONE time after sex. However he did tell me that a lot of her story was exagerated.

[txmade]

There was a few I only hung out at their house. I guess that actually be a f*** buddy, but it was a mutual agreement, we both would just hang out alone together and have sex... all we wanted. The ones I actually wanted to have a relationship with id hang out with them in public. But no matter the situation, id never lie about what I wanted, and I treated em with respect. I figured if they werent OK with what I wanted, someone else was out there that wanted the same thing. Just sayin...

[Asker]

I get it..my guy was an a**hole to this chick...but he was clear with what he wanted...the catch is she wanted more..and he was only after the sex. If he were nice to her it would only of made things misleading. Don't get how she would continue going after him after he was clearly not interested in anything more..I guess some girls like jerks..and fall for them like blind idiots. Especially when its a girl with low self esteem..its probably the best she's ever had.

[erekmax]

Having a booty call when he was single, whether she's fat or not doesn't make hima bad person. Being abusive to her does send up red flags though.

[Asker]

It wasn't really "abuse". It was more of a rude comment he made one day after he had sex with her. he playfully spanked her asss and said, "you're fat".

[Anonymous]

I feel like he used her a bit and she was just the nearest person to have sex with. He was probably just horny and needed someone "easy"

[Anonymous]

He's just a piece of sh! t nuff said!!

[Anonymous]

i think your Boyfriend sounds like a douche,

...and you shouldn't be name calling the girl he chose to sleep with before he met you, if you have a problem you be questioning why you boyfriend felt it was OK to use her for sex and treat her like a unworthy human being even if she was very overweight.

[Asker]

I really want to know what it is..a fetish..and yet ironically a dehuminization of an overweight..I want to know exactly what was going through his brains..was it just pleasure..ofcourse..but I want to know why the cruelness..and did he realize he'd be emotionally hurting such person?cos guys sometimes DON'T think before they do..he probably thought he was doing her a favor in having sex with her..but never thought she's fall head over heels...like a friends with benefits relationship..