Girls, if your boyfriend didn't satisfy you in bed..?

Would you let him know or break up with him? My girlfriend broke up with me because I didn't satisfy her, she never tried to communicate with me about it.

If she told me, I wouldn't be hurt by it. I'm hurt because she wasn't being forward and directing me what to do in order to satisfy her. She lost her virginity to me, I guide her through when she gave me head, why couldn't she do the same


Most Helpful Girl

  • Wow, that's very immature of her to do.

    I would communicate with him from the beginning, middle, and end. There's always room for improvement for both sides. Everything is a two way street, not one.

    I certainly don't think size is the problem in this case.

    Sex is about communicating with one another.

    She's probably not worth the pleasure.


What Girls Said 11

  • I would certainly let him know and yes if it didn't improve to what I wanted he would be history.

  • Girls, if your boyfriend didn't satisfy you in bed would you let him know or break up with him?

    Break up

    "My girlfriend broke up with me because I didn't satisfy her, she never try to communicate with me about it."

    From my experiences most communicate about a relationship issue when they view the relationship worth having or the issue easily resolvable. Most likely she either didn't see the relationship worth the dissatisfaction or effort that it would take to fix it. Perhaps thinking it would be better and easier for her to get another relationship with a guy who has what she wants who does satisfy her.

    I see her breaking up with you is no different than a guy without communication dumping a gal because she's not having sex and he wants it, he considers her to be withholding sex, or his sexual level is higher than hers.

  • I would let him know first. If he wasn't able to make any changes, then I would have to break up with him if he still couldn't satisfy me.

  • I am 100% satisfied with my sex life but if I wasn't I would definitely tell my boyfriend and tell him what I want/like. I would never break up over my boyfriend because of sex anyway because although it is a big factor, there are other things that count more in a relationship. Girls should talk to their partners about this stuff :)

    • Amen to you miss.

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    • "Girls should talk to their partners about this stuff"

      BOTH partners in a relationship should communicate better (in most cases), and things would be better for everyone.

    • Yeah obviously both partners should communicate but in this case it seems like she is the one not communicating. The guy seems as though he would liked to have talked about it..

  • i would communicate first and it things didn't change than yes I would break up with the guy

  • That's not fair at all. Sounds like she didn't even try...I'm sorry. And no, I wouldn't just get mad & skip out.

  • Wow,she is a jerk for real. She is terribly immature and honestly not worth your time if she can't communicate or even be patient with you.My ex boyfriend just broke up with me because he doesn't think I am good in bed,(I decided to lose my v-card to him a couple of months back) and yet he never did much to communicate or be helpful.He basically told me I'm a poor lover.Aint that a b*tch. :/

  • you're better off without her.. keep your head up high... she didn't even give you chance... you deserve better than that selfish bitch!

    • look like there's an insecure human being rating all of the answers down ...

    • looks*

  • She didn't want to hurt your feelings. Some women find it hard to say to a man that they don't satisfy them in bed..

  • well it depends. there are different things this could mean.

    1) a guy could not satisfy me because I just don't feel a strong sexual attraction. this is basically a dead end, there's no way around this one. if you aren't feeling attracted and never felt it strongly you may as well break up.

    or 2)you have a strong attraction but the guy doesn't know how to please you. maybe he doesn't do enough foreplay, or hit the right spots. if it is stuff like that that is part of a relationship, being able to communicate it to your partner, what you like and don't like. this can be fixed. I was seeing a guy, I felt very strongly attracted and being with him was amazing but I wish he had spent a longer time on foreplay because he was great at it but didn't give me enough time to climax. so I would have told him that if the relationship continued. but it didn't for other reasons.

    or she could just be using it as some bull excuse. you never know without communication.


What Guys Said 6

  • You should consider the possibility she said that when breaking up because she knew It would hurt you.

    • I'll underline again I said consider. It could be just that, it could be sex wasn't great and she didn't care, I could be she sidn know how to tell him, it could be she didn't care enough to work on it.

  • Wtf, what a bitch.

  • I love these ladies answers and yes size and orgasms matter

  • Dude, I'm going to help you out so much. Books are how you get good at sex. The Japanese books are more for women, the Indian books are great for positions, like if you have a small penis how to reach far or if your big to reach even further. The Chinese have the best books on men learning to make women reach orgasm.

  • You should know you need to satisfy her.

  • such a whore...afterall there is a thing called 'Love' it means then?!